If you feel lost, or just want to get some new pointers, there are workshops and seminars focusing on masturbation that you might enjoy. For example, Marin [has] an online program to help women learn how to orgasm.

Marin corroborates: “A lot of men have been feeling sexual anxiety for years, but keep trying to ignore it or push through it,” she explained. “By the time they finally recognize that it’s a problem, their anxiety has snowballed out of control.”

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