A SURVIVOR’S GUIDE
If you’re a survivor of sexual abuse, you’re all too familiar with the lasting impacts of your abuse.
You know what it’s like to feel your heart racing when your partner tries to touch you. You know what it’s like to feel disconnected from your body and your sexuality. You know what it’s like to worry that you’re “damaged goods.”
I know how easy it is to fear that you’ll never be able to have a “normal” sex life, but after working with hundreds of sexual abuse survivors in my sex therapy practice, I can tell you without a doubt that change is possible.
And now, I’m making it even easier to access the tools you need to start your transformation.
A Survivor’s Guide To
Reclaiming Your Sex Life After Abuse
This online course is designed to help you take back control of your own sex life and learn how to experience safety, joy, connection, and pleasure.
Who This Is For
This course is for you if you’ve ever:
Freaked out in the middle of being intimate with someone.
Felt fearful of sex, or even lost interest in sex entirely.
Been caught off guard, and surprised by the intensity of your reaction.
Felt like you dissociated during sex, like your mind and your body were in separate places.
Had a hard time trusting yourself to make good decisions about your sex life.
Wondered why sex is still so scary for you, even though you’re with a partner you love and trust.
The course is appropriate for all women who have survived sexual abuse, regardless of your age, relationship status or your sexual orientation.
Why You Deserve This
To put it simply, you deserve to have a healthy, happy sex life.
So many sexual abuse survivors never get support in their healing process, especially when it comes to sex. On top of having to deal with the abuse itself, you may have to endure a feeling of being lost and not knowing how to move forward. You may not even have made the connection between your current struggles with your sex life and your past abuse.
Even survivors who do go to therapy to process their abuse frequently report that they never learned concrete tips for making sex feel safe and enjoyable again. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I’ve been in psychotherapy for years, but my therapist and I have never really talked about sex before.”
My mission has always been to help women feel empowered when it comes to their sex lives. In my work with sexual abuse survivors, I’ve focused on developing specific strategies for reconnecting with your body, understanding your needs, communicating with your partner, and rekindling your desire.
I want to share all of those tips, techniques, exercises, and game plans with you. Because, again, you deserve to have an amazing sex life. Sexual abuse can mangle your self esteem, but I want you to learn that you’re still a worthy, whole, beautiful, human being.
Your sexual abuse is a part of your history, but it does not dictate your future.
You’ll get access to over an hour’s worth of video, plus two workbooks. The course is broken into mini lessons, so it never feels overwhelming. It’s fully online, so you can participate on your own schedule, at your own pace, in the privacy of your own home.
Here’s the course breakdown:
How To Take This Course
I share tips for making your participation in the course itself feel as safe as possible.
The Impacts Of Sexual Abuse
A lot of women don’t make the connections between certain patterns that show up in their sex lives and the abuse that they’ve experienced, so I go over some of the most common effects.
Improve Your Relationship With Sex
I’ll show you exactly how to start making sex feel safe and pleasurable again. We’ll go over strategies for talking to your partner, getting more comfortable knowing when to say “yes” and “no”, and coming up with a trigger plan.
Handle Triggers In The Moment
I’ll help you learn how to manage those times where you feel emotional or overwhelmed.
The Survivor’s Workbook
This workbook will help you personalize all of the strategies in the course to suit your particular situation. It also serves as a handy summary version of the most important information from the course.
How To Be A Great Partner To A Sexual Abuse Survivor
This handout is designed to be shared with your partner, to help them understand what it’s like to be a survivor of sexual abuse. If you’ve ever struggled to describe your experience to a partner, this handout will be a lifesaver.
You’ll get exercises and techniques that you can get started on right away, and tools that will be with you for an entire lifetime.
“In my sexual past, I found there were always situations I didn’t like, didn’t feel comfortable in and didn’t speak up about! It didn’t make sense to me, confident outspoken woman I NORMALLY am. It also didn’t make sense to my partners.
After these exercises, I have been able to implement life-changing steps that have raised my sexual confidence and pleasure. Until now, I didn’t realise my natural response with sex was to dissociate, nor was I aware of the simple triggers that threw me off, and shut me down, every time. Now I have the skills and the techniques to move forward from my past, and create the sex life that has been, until now, out of my control and reach.”- H.R.
Your Investment In Yourself
A single coaching session with me costs between $300 and $400. I know that not everyone can afford that price point, so I wanted to make this course much more accessible.
What Happens Next?
Right after purchase, you’ll get a welcome email with payment confirmation and access information for the course. You’ll get immediate access to the entire course.
Your transaction is securely processed by Shopify, and your credit card will read “One Oh, Corp” for your privacy.
Your information will be kept strictly confidential, and will never be shared.
It’s time to reconnect with your body and treat it with love and respect. It’s time to start feeling the desire for and enjoyment of sex. It’s time to experience true intimacy with yourself and your partner.
It’s OK to feel nervous or apprehensive, but deep down inside, I think you also know that you’re ready to heal.
I’m so excited for you to get started on your journey!
Hi there! I'm Vanessa Marin.
I’ve been a featured expert for The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, CNN, The Times of London, GQ, Rolling Stone, Elle, Allure, Esquire, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Glamour, Self, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, The Huffington Post, XoJane, Bustle, and many more.
I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#78931).