Hi! I’m Vanessa Marin. I’m a sex therapist who helps people stop feeling embarrassed and ashamed and start having more fun in the bedroom.
The most important thing for you to know is that this is not just a job for me – I get so much joy out of helping people have healthier and happier sex lives, and opening up more honest conversations about sex.
I’ve been featured in The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, The Times of London, Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, Esquire, Bustle, Self, Shape, Glamour, Redbook, and many more.
I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I am a licensed psychotherapist (Marriage and Family Therapist #78931).
I work with clients via video chat and email coaching sessions, and online programs.
I’m a born-and-raised California girl, and I currently split my time between California and Europe. Don’t let the baby face fool you; I’m in my thirties! I’m very happily married to the love of my life.
I was in the passenger seat of my family’s forest green minivan, driving home from family dinner at grandma’s house with my mom and dad. I was 12. My mom tilted her head in my direction and looked at me in the rearview mirror. I could tell that she was about to say something, but the way she paused made me realize something big was on the way.
“Do you, uh, have any questions about… sex….?” she stammered. She was mortified. I was mortified. Here it was – the infamous “sex talk”.
“Uhhh…. No.” I replied. A million questions were racing through my head, but I knew that asking them would only lead to more embarrassment.
“Okay.” She replied, carefully enunciating each syllable. “Well, you can ask us later if you do.”
We sat in silence for the rest of the ride, and I bolted out of the van before my mom had the time to come to a complete stop in the driveway. In the safety of my own room, with the door firmly locked, I replayed the conversation over in my head.
I was conflicted about what had just happened. On one hand, my face was still beet red from embarrassment. On the other, I wished it had been easier for us to have that conversation. I had questions, and I was incredibly curious. I could sense my parents’ discomfort in talking about sex, and that made me equally, if not more, uncomfortable in turn. Why did this have to be so hard?
I became fascinated with learning as much as I could about human sexuality and sex therapy. I read books, I interned with leading researchers and doctors, I did workshops, and I started talking about sex with anyone who would listen. I became the girl that all of my friends would turn to for answers and advice. In college, I wrote a weekly sex column, taught sex education, and turned my dorm room into an informal sex therapy center for my peers. I pursued a graduate degree in Psychology to give myself a background in counseling.
I help my clients prioritize pleasure, discover their authentic sexual identity, and have more fun with intimacy. We hear so many messages about what we’re “supposed” to do when it comes to sex that so many of us lose touch with what we actually want.
I firmly believe that each day offers us countless invitations to experience more pleasure, intimacy, and fun – we just have to start saying YES!
My style is warm, engaging, creative, and a little sassy. I offer genuine compassion, absolutely zero judgment, a sense of humor, and a commitment to facilitating lasting change for my clients.