That’s why we created Deeper — a monthly membership designed by a sex therapist to give you the practical tools you need to build, strengthen, and maintain the relationship and sex life you deserve.
Your Relationship Deserves More.
More connection. More sex. More ease. More fun. More… like it used to be.
Let's go deeper.
Expert guidance, proven resources, and real support.
Plus instant access to our core courses + guides — so you can work on exactly what your relationship needs, exactly when you need it.
Because you don’t just want a good relationship — you want an amazing one.
Because you don’t just want a good relationship — you want an amazing one.
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So life takes over. You’re juggling work, endless to-do lists, and maybe even kids, leaving just enough time for a half-hearted “How was your day?” before collapsing into bed.
You love each other, but sometimes it feels like something’s missing.
That something is depth. More meaning. More intimacy.
More moments that remind you why you fell for each other in the first place.
We get it.
You love each other, but sometimes it feels like something’s missing.
That something is depth. More meaning. More intimacy.
More moments that remind you why you fell for each other in the first place.
We get it.
The best relationships don’t just happen — they’re built
But figuring out what to do and how to do it? That’s the hard part.
DEEPER is the only membership designed to give you an instant, all-access pass to real, therapist-backed guidance on
demand — so you can get expert strategies and tools for exactly what your relationship needs, exactly when you need
it.
This isn’t about adding another thing to your already full plate. It’s about helping you create a relationship that naturally feels more connected, fulfilling, and alive.
Introducing...
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Our unique approach to intimacy has already helped thousands of people transform their love lives — bringing more confidence, connection, and passion.
What Happens When You Have the Right Support?
Here’s what they have to say:
“We want to thank you again! We're BLOWN AWAY by how much it's transforming our relationship!
We feel closer, we're communicating better, and the SEX... we thought it was good before, but it's INCREDIBLE now.
We're exploring new things, and sex feels novel and exciting again.
The butterflies are back; I feel like a love struck teenager! It's just like the start of our relationship, all over again, but with better intimacy.
Thank you thank you for what you do! Keep releasing new courses, because we're obsessed!”
We feel closer, we're communicating better, and the SEX... we thought it was good before, but it's INCREDIBLE now.
We're exploring new things, and sex feels novel and exciting again.
The butterflies are back; I feel like a love struck teenager! It's just like the start of our relationship, all over again, but with better intimacy.
Thank you thank you for what you do! Keep releasing new courses, because we're obsessed!”
“I just want you to know that we have gone full Marin groupies.
We felt totally stuck in our dead bedroom (sex a few times a year) and truly lost hope. We contemplated taking sex off the table to get rid of the pressure and arguments and even had a discussion that this could lead to divorce down the road if we couldn't figure it out.
This is the first time in years we have felt hopeful and excited. And we're starting to have sex frequently and we talk about it multiple times a week 🎉🎉
Thank you so much for all the work you've put into this ❤️"
We felt totally stuck in our dead bedroom (sex a few times a year) and truly lost hope. We contemplated taking sex off the table to get rid of the pressure and arguments and even had a discussion that this could lead to divorce down the road if we couldn't figure it out.
This is the first time in years we have felt hopeful and excited. And we're starting to have sex frequently and we talk about it multiple times a week 🎉🎉
Thank you so much for all the work you've put into this ❤️"
Deeper is your all-access membership experience.
It’s not just content — it’s an interactive experience, your go-to relationship HQ, and the only resource designed by a sex therapist to keep your relationship thriving in the moments that matter most.
Finally — a way to keep your relationship strong that actually fits into your life.
This is the ONLY place where you can access our core programs PLUS get a guided action plan based on what your relationship needs most.
We built Deeper to be the thing we always wanted: a simple, structured, and flexible way to deepen our relationship and make every part of it — communication, connection, intimacy, and pleasure — better.
But here’s the thing…
Therapy is incredible when things feel broken. Date nights are great when things feel good.
But what about everything in between? That’s where Deeper comes in.
Here’s what you get inside...
- Monthly live double dates with us - we’ll break down the topics you care about most, giving you new insights, practical tools, and real-time guidance. Join when you can, or catch the replays anytime.
- Bite-sized, actionable exercises that actually fit into your life (not just sit in your inbox).
- Two monthly creative date night ideas One sweet, one spicy —because great relationships thrive on fun, playfulness, and shared experiences.
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A Proven System For Real Results 📈
- Ever wished you could ask Vanessa exactly what to do — day or night? Meet Vanessa AI, our AI-powered sex + relationship coach. She’s trained on everything Vanessa has ever shared or published — our courses, guides, podcasts, book, and methodologies.
- Ask anything and get immediate, expert-backed answers tailored to your unique situation.
- Need a plan? Vanessa AI can literally lay out an 8-week step-by-step guide, give you conversation prompts, or create a custom strategy for your relationship.
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24/7 Expert Guidance With Vanessa AI 🤖
- Start with our exclusive Five Keys To Lasting Intimacy Quiz to discover which area of your relationship needs the most love: communication, connection, desire, pleasure, or exploration.
- Get a guided path designed to help you take action — so you’re not just consuming random information, but actually doing the work (in the most fun way possible).
- Whether you need help with communication, desire, or keeping things fun and fresh, we’ll guide you along the way.
- Want to explore freely? You’ll have full + instant access to everything inside, anytime you need it.
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Your Personalized Journey 🔑
- Founding Member perks: be the first to know about special offers, discounts, and bonuses plus exclusive access to our private Welcome Party, where we’ll kick off this journey together.
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The VIP Treatment 👑
- An exclusive and private online community where you can ask questions, share wins, and connect with others on the same journey.
- Get direct engagement from us (Vanessa & Xander) inside the community.
- Daily prompts and Would You Rather questions for fun, flirty, and insightful conversations.
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The Power Of Knowing You’re Not Alone ❤️🔥
Our proven system for a thriving relationship
After 20+ years and working with tens of thousands of couples, we’ve developed a proven, five-step system to create everyday, lasting intimacy — helping you connect more deeply, rekindle that fire, and remind you just how much you love each other (and turn each other on!).
The Five Keys To Everyday Intimacy
Because if you want an extraordinary relationship, you’ve got to be able to talk about it!
Communication
The key ingredient to feeling open to intimacy in the first place.
connection
So you can finally understand exactly what you both actually need to get excited about sex.
desire
Because let’s be real, why would you crave something that isn’t enjoyable?
pleasure
How to keep it spicy, fun, and fresh for life!
Why All five Keys Matter
We’ll help you find the best place to start and guide you along the way, while giving you the freedom to explore at your own pace.
Plus, every single month, we bring you something fresh to keep the momentum going.
Plus, every single month, we bring you something fresh to keep the momentum going.
exploration
Real, lasting intimacy comes from strengthening all five keys. Inside Deeper, we’ll show you exactly how to build the kind of relationship that’s not just good, but ridiculously great.
Every relationship is different, and so is your journey inside Deeper.
Hey there — we’re Vanessa & Xander Marin.
Vanessa is a licensed sex therapist with 20+ years of experience, and Xander is her husband, real-life case study, and your friendly neighborhood “regular dude” breaking down the real deal of relationship work.
Together, we help couples have way better sex and way deeper relationships — without shame, confusion, or pressure.
We built Deeper because we wanted this for ourselves.
We’ve gone through our own seasons of feeling disconnected, navigating mismatched libidos, and wondering: how do we actually make things better?
This membership is our answer. It’s the resource we wish we’d had!
Together, we help couples have way better sex and way deeper relationships — without shame, confusion, or pressure.
We built Deeper because we wanted this for ourselves.
We’ve gone through our own seasons of feeling disconnected, navigating mismatched libidos, and wondering: how do we actually make things better?
This membership is our answer. It’s the resource we wish we’d had!
Your Relationship, Transformed.
With the right tools, the right guidance, and small, intentional steps, your love life won’t just improve— it will evolve into something deeper, stronger, and more fulfilling than ever.
And the best part? You don’t have to figure it out alone anymore.
👉 Join Deeper today and start creating the relationship and sex life you truly deserve.
And the best part? You don’t have to figure it out alone anymore.
👉 Join Deeper today and start creating the relationship and sex life you truly deserve.
Instead of feeling stuck in the same old routines, you wake up excited about your relationship again.
Conversations flow effortlessly — not just about logistics, but about dreams, desires, and the things that make you both feel alive.
Physical intimacy feels more natural, exciting, and connected — because you finally understand each other’s needs and desires in a whole new way.
This is what’s possible inside Deeper.
Imagine this…
You’re laughing more, flirting more, and feeling that undeniable spark — not because you’re forcing it, but because your relationship is finally thriving.
The only live event of its kind! Join us for an unforgettable kickoff experience filled with exclusive content, special prizes, and behind-the-scenes access. Real, raw, and uncensored (take that Instagram! 😆)!
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We’ve helped hundreds of thousands of people transform their relationships through our courses, guides, and coaching.
The proof is in the passion.
Here’s what they’ve had to say:
We see that skeptical side-eye 👀 — let’s talk.
We know joining a membership like this can feel like a big decision. Maybe you're wondering…
“Will we actually use this?”
We get it — life is busy. The last thing you need is another thing collecting dust in your inbox. We built Deeper to fit into your real life.
“Will we actually use this?”
We get it — life is busy. The last thing you need is another thing collecting dust in your inbox. We built Deeper to fit into your real life.
Pick your own path — whether you follow a structured journey or hop around based on what’s most relevant to you.
Bite-sized, actionable exercises you can do in minutes (not hours).
And here’s the best part: as long as you're a member, you keep full access to the core course library. That means whatever you want, whenever you need it — you've got the ultimate flexibility for your real-life relationship.
Vanessa AI is available 24/7, so whenever you have a question (or need inspiration), you get instant, expert-backed guidance.
Two date night ideas per month — one cute, one sexy —so you’re actually keeping the spark alive.
“What if my partner isn’t into it?”
Totally understandable! Not everyone jumps at the chance to work on their relationship (even when they secretly want things to improve).
Here’s the thing:
Even if just one of you starts, the ripple effect is real.
Here’s the thing:
- Deeper isn’t about forcing your partner into therapy-like conversations. It’s about making connection feel easy, playful, and natural.
- Many of the activities (like the date night ideas and fun conversation prompts) are things your partner will likely enjoy without even realizing they’re “doing the work.”
- We’ll also give you simple, non-intimidating ways to bring your partner into the experience without pressure.
Even if just one of you starts, the ripple effect is real.
“How is this different from just listening to your podcast or following you on Instagram?”
We love sharing free advice, but Deeper is where we go way beyond the surface-level stuff.
Deeper isn’t just more content. It’s the missing piece that helps you actually take action.
- You’ll get a clear, structured plan. No more piecing together random tips from Instagram posts — you’ll know exactly what to focus on for your relationship.
- Exclusive expert content. Live sessions, deep-dive lessons, and resources you won’t find anywhere else.
- Vanessa AI at your fingertips. Imagine having instant access to every insight we’ve ever shared — customized to your exact question.
- Vanessa + Xander’s eyes on your questions. As a Deeper Member, you’ll have opportunities for direct engagement inside the community — so we can guide you along the way.
Deeper isn’t just more content. It’s the missing piece that helps you actually take action.
“What if we join and realize it’s not for us?”
We designed Deeper to be totally risk-free.
The only risk? Not giving your relationship the time and care it truly deserves.
- No long-term commitments — pay monthly and cancel anytime.
- Try it for a month and see how it feels. If it’s not the right fit, you’re free to go — no hard feelings.
The only risk? Not giving your relationship the time and care it truly deserves.
“Is it worth the money?”
Let’s put it this way: what’s the cost of not investing in your relationship?
If your relationship is one of the most important things in your life, it’s worth investing in.
- A weekly date night could easily cost $50-$100+, and that’s without the babysitter. Therapy? $150-$300 per session.
- For just $47/month, you’re getting expert-backed tools, real support, and a clear plan for making your relationship better than ever.
If your relationship is one of the most important things in your life, it’s worth investing in.
IT'S NOT JUST A MEMBERSHIP.
The value of Deeper
When you join Deeper, you’re not just getting a membership — you’re unlocking thousands of dollars worth of expert-backed resources, personalized guidance, and direct access to tools designed to transform your relationship and sex life.
Here's everything inside.
Private invitation for our exclusive online community (value $240/year)
Total value: $800+ (and growing!)
From communication to confidence, initiation to intimacy, you’ll get full access to our best-selling courses and guides, including:
🔥 Your Best Week Ever – $29
🔥 The Ultimate Foreplay Guides – $69
🔥 The Art of Initiation – $89
🔥 The Ultimate Sex Guide – $99
🔥 Dirty Talk 101 – $69
🔥 Butt Stuff – $69
🔥 Rediscovering Us – $199
🔥 The Sexual Bucket List – $29
🔥 The Mental Load Workbook – $25
🔥 The Modern Man’s Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure – $249
🔥 Rediscovering Desire – $99
🔥And so much more…
🔥 Your Best Week Ever – $29
🔥 The Ultimate Foreplay Guides – $69
🔥 The Art of Initiation – $89
🔥 The Ultimate Sex Guide – $99
🔥 Dirty Talk 101 – $69
🔥 Butt Stuff – $69
🔥 Rediscovering Us – $199
🔥 The Sexual Bucket List – $29
🔥 The Mental Load Workbook – $25
🔥 The Modern Man’s Guide to Conquering Performance Pressure – $249
🔥 Rediscovering Desire – $99
🔥And so much more…
Vanessa AI – your personal sex & relationship coach (value $1,200/year)
Ever wished you could get instant advice from a top-tier sex therapist — anytime you need it?
With Vanessa AI, you’ll have access to everything Vanessa has ever taught — her courses, guides, podcasts, and teachings — available 24/7.
❌ 1-on-1 therapy with Vanessa would cost $500-$750 per session
✅ Instead, Deeper gives you access to her entire knowledge base, personalized to your questions and situation.
This is the next best thing to having an expert sex and relationship therapist on speed dial — without the hefty price tag.
With Vanessa AI, you’ll have access to everything Vanessa has ever taught — her courses, guides, podcasts, and teachings — available 24/7.
❌ 1-on-1 therapy with Vanessa would cost $500-$750 per session
✅ Instead, Deeper gives you access to her entire knowledge base, personalized to your questions and situation.
This is the next best thing to having an expert sex and relationship therapist on speed dial — without the hefty price tag.
Instant access to our core course library (Over $800+ Value!)
Ongoing monthly benefits so you keep growing & connecting (value $199)
Building a stronger relationship is easier with encouragement, guidance, and the right people by your
side.
A judgment-free space to ask questions, share experiences, and celebrate wins.
Direct engagement from Vanessa & Xander — we’ll be inside the community, cheering you on, guiding conversations and offering insights.
A built-in support system of like-minded people who are committed to deepening their relationships — so you always have people who get it.
Real talk, real connection — whether you’re celebrating progress or working through challenges, this is your place to show up exactly as you are.
A judgment-free space to ask questions, share experiences, and celebrate wins.
Direct engagement from Vanessa & Xander — we’ll be inside the community, cheering you on, guiding conversations and offering insights.
A built-in support system of like-minded people who are committed to deepening their relationships — so you always have people who get it.
Real talk, real connection — whether you’re celebrating progress or working through challenges, this is your place to show up exactly as you are.
🎥 Live Monthly Double Dates with Us – Deep dives into the topics you care about most.
📝 Guided Relationship Check-Ins – So you’re always making progress together.
💡 Bite-Sized Exercises – Easy, actionable ways to keep your connection strong.
💞 Two Monthly Date Night Ideas – One cute, one sexy — so you never fall into a rut.
📝 Guided Relationship Check-Ins – So you’re always making progress together.
💡 Bite-Sized Exercises – Easy, actionable ways to keep your connection strong.
💞 Two Monthly Date Night Ideas – One cute, one sexy — so you never fall into a rut.
Let’s break it down.
This is the most affordable and comprehensive way to get expert-backed support, guidance, and action plans for your relationship and sex life.
Join Now & Unlock Everything Inside!
Your relationship deserves this. And we’re here to help you every step of the way.
Join Now & Unlock Everything Inside!
Your relationship deserves this. And we’re here to help you every step of the way.
Your Exclusive Founding Member Offer? Just $47/month or $97 for 3 months.
$47/month (cancel anytime) OR $97 for 3 months — that’s over 30% in savings!
For a limited time, you can join as a Founding Member and lock in:
Lock in this special rate for life — the price goes up after April 2nd!
Exclusive Founding Member Welcome Party — we’re kicking this off together.
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This is the most affordable and comprehensive way to get expert-backed support, guidance, and action plans for your relationship and sex life.
Join Now & Unlock Everything Inside!
Your relationship deserves this. And we’re here to help you every step of the way.
Join Now & Unlock Everything Inside!
Your relationship deserves this. And we’re here to help you every step of the way.
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You have questions. We have answers.
Nope! We know life is full—kids, work, responsibilities, and all the things pulling you in different directions. That’s
why Deeper is designed to fit seamlessly into your life. Whether you have 10 minutes one day or want to dive into a full
guided journey, you can engage at your own pace. You’ll get expert-led tools that make it easy to take action — no
overwhelm, just real, practical support for your relationship.
Yes! If you choose our monthly payment option, you are free to cancel anytime and you aren't locked into any ongoing commitment. Just be sure to let us know a few days before your billing cycle. When you email us to cancel, you will retain access until the end of your billing cycle and won't be charged again in the future.
If you choose the three month offer, you may cancel at the end of your commitment or move to a monthly option.
Both payment options will automatically renew at the end of the billing cycle unless you let us know ahead of your next charge.
If you choose the three month offer, you may cancel at the end of your commitment or move to a monthly option.
Both payment options will automatically renew at the end of the billing cycle unless you let us know ahead of your next charge.
That’s exactly why Deeper includes a personalized quiz that helps you pinpoint where to start. You’ll each get customized guidance based on what you need most—whether that’s better communication, bringing back the spark, or exploring new ways to connect. Think of it as a choose-your-own-adventure for your love life!
Totally fair! While the Deeper community is an amazing space to connect with others on the same journey, it’s completely optional. You can still get full access to Vanessa AI, the guided journey, the content library, and all the expert-led resources — without ever posting in the community.
If you want to engage in the Deeper community but prefer to stay anonymous, choose a different name for yourself!
This is your experience, and you get to engage in whatever way feels right for you.
If you want to engage in the Deeper community but prefer to stay anonymous, choose a different name for yourself!
This is your experience, and you get to engage in whatever way feels right for you.
Deeper is for anyone who wants to improve their relationship, whether you’re doing it solo or with a partner. Ideally,
you’ll explore these tools together, but we know that’s not always possible. If your partner isn’t quite on board yet,
you’ll still gain insights, strategies, and confidence to bring positive change into your relationship. And who knows?
They might just get curious once they see the shifts happening!
If you’re still on the fence, ask yourself this:
Do you want a way back to each other that feels doable and actually fits into your life?
Do you want to feel that deep, undeniable connection — like you just get each other again?
Do you want that holy sh*t we still got it feeling — the heat, the laughter, the spark that made you choose each other in the first place?
Do you want to feel wanted again? To bring back the kind of intimacy that makes even the smallest moments feel electric?
If you’re nodding along, Deeper is for you.
This is the membership we wish we had — and now it’s yours.
For years, we’ve helped people through our book, courses, guides, social media, and podcast episodes. But we always wanted to create something bigger — something that actually helped couples follow through and make real, lasting change.
This is it.
We’ll guide you every step of the way.
This is it.
We’ll guide you every step of the way.
But the first step? That one’s on you.
Your relationship deserves more. More depth. More meaning. More passion.
And you deserve a clear, easy way to make that happen.
And you deserve a clear, easy way to make that happen.
We’re opening the doors to Deeper for one week only.
Why join now?
This offer disappears on April 2nd. After that, the price goes up, and Founding Member perks go away.
Let’s Go Deeper — Together.
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