Do you have some burning questions that are keeping you up at night?
Do you have a situation that you don’t feel comfortable talking about with your usual support network?
Do you want objective feedback from a trained professional?

Then email coaching may be the thing for you!

I offer email coaching because I know that virtually everyone struggles with sex in one way or another, and not everyone needs, can afford, or has the time for in-depth sex therapy. For many people, email coaching is a much more useful and convenient option.

How it works

Take a look at my quick intake form below, write an email with your responses, then send it over to

You can make your responses as short or as long as you want – basically think of it as your opportunity to reflect on your situation and gather your thoughts. Almost as if you were writing in a journal, or to a friend.

I respond within 24-48 hours with my feedback, advice, and suggested exercises, written out in detail.

I was beyond nervous about reaching out to a sex therapist – plus I’m a student on a tight budget – so I was drawn to the convenience and affordability of Vanessa’s email coaching sessions. I was skeptical about how much help she could offer via email, but I was amazed by all of her insights. The email I received back from her was jam-packed with answers and ideas that I referred back to for months to come. 

- Alyson C.

What I can help you with

I’m happy to answer any sex or relationship questions you have, including:

Learning how to have your first orgasm, or how to orgasm with a partner

Ways to experience more pleasure during sex

How to communicate with your partner about sex and intimacy

Improving sexual skills

Bringing the spark back into a relationship

Discovering what works and doesn’t work for you, and how to ask for what you want

When I coach via email, I spend the entire time focusing solely on coming up with advice and suggestions, so we end up covering a of ground.

What it costs

$115 per exchange.

Much less than my standard video chat sessions, which range from $299 to $399.

My email coaching session with Vanessa exactly what I had hoped for. Her advice was incredibly helpful and comforting, not to mention useful. I’ve already started putting her advice into play, and it’s working. The whole experience was professional, thorough, and easy. 

- Evan O.

Who it’s for

People who are better able to organize their thoughts by writing.

Those who are too shy for phone or video chat consultation.

Someone who needs advice, suggestions, and inspiration.

Anyone looking to have a happier and healthier sex life!

Ready to get started?

First, head on over to my email coaching order form and send a payment of $115. Your order will be processed securely and confidentially.

Next, send me an email with the following information:


Phone number:



Are you in a relationship?:

If you are currently in a relationship, please tell me a bit about it:

Do you have children?:


Is there anything I should know about your family history or your childhood?:

Is there anything in your medical history I should be aware of?:

Is there anything about your romantic or sexual history that you want to share?:

Any other background information that might be helpful for me to know?:


What made you decide to sign up for an email coaching session?:

Tell me about what your sex life currently looks like:

What are the top three things you’d like to learn, issues you’d like to address, or questions you’d like to ask?:


What are your goals beyond this session?:

Any other details I missed?:


I’ll confirm your payment, and will shoot you back a response within 48 hours. It’s that easy!

Vanessa is something special. You can tell she believes so deeply in what she does.

- Hailey R.

Your information is kept strictly confidential and is never shared. 

Please note that email coaching is not psychotherapy. 

Hi there! I'm Vanessa Marin. 

I’ve been a featured expert for The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, CNN, The Times of London, GQ, Rolling Stone, Elle, Allure, Esquire, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Glamour, Self, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, The Huffington Post, XoJane, Bustle, and many more.

I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#78931).