“I can’t believe I’m at this point in my life and I still don’t know how to orgasm.”

“I feel like I’m the only woman in the world who doesn’t know how to orgasm.”

“I’m too embarrassed to talk about it with even my closest friends.”

“I don’t think it’s ever going to happen for me. I’m scared I’m one of those hopeless cases.”

If you struggle to orgasm on your own or with a partner, you’re all too familiar with these anxiety-ridden thoughts. You’ve waged long battles with these thoughts in your head, but they always seem to come out on top.

Sure, you want to orgasm because you want to feel good. But it’s become so much more than that at this point. You want to stop feeling so lost. You want to stop feeling so ashamed. You want to stop feeling so alone.

If you’re like most women, you also blame yourself for not knowing how to orgasm. You feel like something must be wrong with you. Like you should have figured this out already.

In your darkest moments, you feel like you must be broken.

But here’s the thing: this is not your fault.

The truth is that you were never given the opportunity to learn how to orgasm.

For years, you’ve been bombarded with the message that you should be able to orgasm as easily as you can snap your fingers, but no one ever told you how the heck that was supposed to happen.

I mean really –  where have you ever seen advice that went beyond unhelpful BS like, “just relax!” or “stop thinking about it!” Where have you ever seen clear, detailed, step-by-step instructions for how to reach orgasm? It simply hasn’t existed.

Until now.

It’s time to stop feeling confused, anxious, unwomanly, and hopeless, and start actually learning how to orgasm.

It’s time to join Finishing School!

Finishing School: Learn How To Orgasm is a comprehensive online course that teaches you how to have your first orgasms alone and with a partner. Absolutely everything you need is right there at your fingertips, in an organized step-by-step system.

You’ll banish those destructive internal monologues, you’ll learn what your body actually needs to reach orgasm, and you’ll have fun doing it.

Because seriously, orgasm should be FUN!

You can rest easy knowing that these strategies have been developed and tested over a decade of working as a sex therapist.

Finishing School been featured and reviewed in Refinery29, Glamour, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Elle, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Prevention Magazine, and more.

Most importantly, it’s gotten rave reviews from the hundreds of women who have gone through the program.

“Evidently, the class taught me a lot—because after taking it, I started orgasming from someone else’s touch for the first time.”

- Glamour Magazine

How It Works

Finishing School is divided into three courses, spread out over nine weeks:

Module One – Uncover And Overcome Your Blockages To Orgasm

Misinformation, past experiences, shame, and embarrassment can all sabotage your ability to orgasm.

In this section, you’ll discover what has been blocking you from reaching orgasm. You’ll explore your relationship with your body, and your beliefs about sex, orgasm, and masturbation. You’ll learn everything you need to know about your anatomy and how orgasm actually works.

Here’s one of the most exciting tidbits you’ll learn: there is no proof that some percentage of women will never be able to orgasm. Every woman (yes, even you!) is capable of orgasm.

There are eight workshops in this section, including:

How to get the most out of Finishing School

Get the facts about orgasm

Develop a better relationship with your body

Module Two – Learn How To Masturbate, And Have Fun Doing It!

Most women are resistant to masturbating because they don’t know what to do. It’s not like anyone ever taught you how to masturbate, right?

I’m here to change that by sharing dozens of actual techniques. You’ll learn specific strokes to use, unique sequences, different positions to try, experiments with pressure and speed, and my favorite toy and product recommendations.

Even if you feel nervous or hesitant now, I promise that you will enjoy this process! Learning how to get yourself off is one of the most empowering and exciting experiences you will ever have. Guaranteed.

This section contains ten workshops, including:

Set up your masturbation practice

Allowing yourself to orgasm

What to do if you’re stuck on the brink

Having stronger orgasms and multiple orgasms

Module Three – Teach Your Partner How To Bring You Pleasure

In the final portion of the course, you’ll to learn specific details about bringing a partner in on your orgasmic discoveries.

You’ll learn new techniques, positions, and product recommendations. You’ll learn how to talk to new and long-term partners, without embarrassment. You’ll explore how to stay more present and confident during sex, and how to enjoy all of the moments leading up to orgasm.

There are ten workshops in this section, including:

How to talk to your partner about your orgasms

How to feel more comfortable taking up time and attention

Orgasming from manual stimulation, oral sex, and intercourse

How to get orgasmic timing in your favor

“I used to keep quiet about my own needs during sex but now I’m confident enough to tell him where to touch me and when to pick up (or slow down) the pace. And seeing me ready and raring to go so often has definitely increased his pleasure, too. Our entire relationship feels stronger now… This course has been an incredible learning experience and has impacted my general outlook on sex more than I could’ve imagined. I’m more curious about my sexuality than I’ve ever been and I don’t think there’s anything more positive than being comfortable in your own skin… Doing something by yourself, for yourself, without any outside input is incredibly empowering.”

- Prevention Magazine

Finishing School is designed for the busy woman on the go, while still helping you learn how to slow down and make more time for pleasure. It’s available for you to watch or listen to in your own home, on your own schedule, with complete privacy.

You’ll get answers to questions like:

How can I tell if I’m orgasming or not?

What’s the difference between vaginal, clitoral, and G-spot orgasms?

How long does it normally take to reach orgasm?

What do I do if I’ve been faking orgasms with my partner?

Why can’t I orgasm during sex?

How do I stop focusing so much on my partner’s pleasure and start focusing on my own?

Can I get addicted to a vibrator?

What do I do if my partner asks me what I want, and I have no idea?

You would take a course to learn how to paint or how to speak French, so why wouldn’t you take a course to learn how to have the most pleasurable experience of your life?

Sure, there are a lot of tips online and in magazines about female orgasm. But that’s actually more of a problem than a solution. There’s a lot of misinformation out there, and it can be hard to sort through what’s real and what’s not. It’s hard to know where to start, what to do, and when.

I’m sure you’ve already read tons of articles, but you wouldn’t be on this page if any of those “tips” had actually worked!

When you sign up for Finishing School, you get access to a step-by-step system. You don’t have to waste any time or energy trying to separate fact from fiction, or trying to cobble together a bunch of disconnected tips. You can rest easy knowing you’re following a tried and tested plan.

Your Gifts!

Enrollment in Finishing School comes with two amazing gifts, valued at $150:

1 Minna Life Limon, a luxury vibrator, perfect for women and couples ($120 value)
1 bottle of Pjur premium lubricant ($30 value)

You’ll receive these gifts in a plain, unmarked box, to protect your privacy.

Finishing School also comes with unlimited personal email coaching sessions until you reach your first orgasms alone and with a partner. These sessions usually cost at $115 a pop, so the value adds up quickly.

“I can’t describe how good it felt to sign up for Finishing School. It was like I was finally standing up for myself after so many years of feeling frustrated and broken and declaring, ‘I deserve pleasure!’ It has been transformative in so many ways.”

- Katie W.

Make An Investment In Your Pleasure.

For years, I only offered private orgasm coaching. Working together one-on-one for the same duration as Finishing School costs close to $2,000. I created Finishing School because I wanted to share my strategies and techniques with women who aren’t able to afford that price point.

Once you factor in the value of the gifts, Finishing School works out to $7 per day. For what you spend on a cup of coffee and a bagel, you could get rid of one of the biggest sources of frustration and embarrassment in your life, and start experiencing the type of pleasure you’ve only dreamed of.

And that’s not even factoring in the private email coaching. If you take advantage of these sessions just a few times, the program essentially pays for itself.

There’s no denying that Finishing School is an investment. But making this kind of commitment to yourself can be transformative. Simply by signing up, you send yourself the powerful message that your pleasure is important. You are important. You are worth it.

“I had my first orgasm days after starting Finishing School. I can’t believe I wasted years – yeaaaaars! – of my life stressing out about my lack of orgasm, only to realize how simple it was once I had the proper information and instructions. I feel so much joy and relief.”

- Annette R.

My “With You Til The End” Guarantee.

You’ll get lifetime access to all of the material in the course and unlimited email coaching with me until you reach your first orgasms alone and with a partner.

I know orgasm is a sensitive topic, and I know how easy it can be to give up on yourself. But I want you to know without a doubt that I am not going to give up on you.


I’ll be just an email away whenever you need a pep talk, more motivation, or a friendly ear. I’m in this with you!

“Within 24 hours of signing up for Finishing School, I had the best sex of my life with my boyfriend. It was like something inside of me burst open and I finally gave myself permission to be present in the bedroom.”

- Sophia C.

You’re Ready For This.

Because you’ve been trying your damnedest to just “let it happen”, but it’s not.

Because you’re sick of relationships getting tense, or even ending, because of your orgasm.

Because a little piece of you dies every time you fake an orgasm.

Because you’re sick of sex being something that you do for your partner instead of for yourself.

Because you don’t want to orgasm “some day”; you want to orgasm now. And you don’t want to waste another minute.

Because even though you’re nervous, you know that you’re ready.

“You won’t regret the investment. You will regret giving up.”

- Clare C.

Need Some Encouragement?

I know this is a big decision, and I want you to feel confident making it! Here’s what recent Finishing School participants have said about their experiences:

“I was really nervous to sign up for Finishing School. I knew, in theory, that I wasn’t the only one struggling but it really felt that way when no one talks about it. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed of myself that I couldn’t orgasm. It felt like a real failure. It was helpful, especially in Module One, to think through some of those feelings and understand what might be part of the solution so I could work on it. And, while still working through the exercises, I ended up telling a some of my female friends that I had signed up for the class. I found that many of them also had trouble, had only orgasmed a few times in their lives, or not at all. It was such a relief to shed some of those feelings of embarrassment among friends. Talking about it made me feel proud that I was taking steps to take better care of myself.”
Tanya M.
“Vanessa’s lessons have reassured me that I’m *not* broken, that learning about myself is a process, and that I should treat myself with the same kindness I show to others.”
Divya R.
“Finishing School was packed full of useful information, presented in a way that was friendly and comfortable. It is worth the time, effort and money because I am worth it.”
Jodie D.
“The biggest thing Finishing School has done for me thus far is reassured me that I am completely normal and beautiful regardless of the outcome that occurs during sex or masturbation. It has been a fun journey and is continuing to be a fun journey of discovering my sexuality as a human being and I feel like that is a magnificent thing. I was hesitant and scared to sign up at first because I thought it wasn’t normal that I had never orgasmed. I thought there was something wrong with me. Working through these modules has made me realize and reaffirmed that I am a completely whole individual on a journey to experience bliss for myself. How fun and exciting is that!?!?!”
Sarahann C.
“Learning how to orgasm is just the tip of the iceberg. Throughout the program you’ll learn how to truly make yourself a priority and listen to your body. In my experience, it gave me the format and resources to explore new and unexpected ways to feel pleasure. In doing so, you gain more confidence. Vanessa does a great job at compiling countless tools to expand your mind, dig deeper and open up new channels for pleasure. Just do it, you’re worth it!”
Stephanie M.
“I learned that I love sex, when I truly did not know that before. Previously, it was sort of a chore and I spent some nights praying my husband wouldn’t ‘make a move.’ I am shocked at how much closer we are now.”
“It finally happened this morning! I was sooo aroused that I couldn’t care less taking up all attention and I then only needed a minute of touching myself in the right place to climax – quite mind-blowingly! It still felt soooo good that I could even imagine that one day I might even achieve a second orgasm, under the right circumstances. But I am over the moon with just one and the build-up towards it. Thank you, thank you, thank you from an ecstatic me and very happy [partner]!”
“I now feel empowered to do what I like and not worry about what it shoooouuuuld be like or what it shooooould feel like or what is I shoooouuld sound like when I experience it. This course has given me the freedom to feel that my experience while orgasming might be different from others- and that’s ok.”
“Finishing School has helped me clear my mind, try new techniques, and relax! And they actually work! I was totally surprised by my first orgasm. I definitely was proud of myself.”
This program helped me realize – I’m not alone. It calmed the nerves and empowered me to feel comfortable experimenting.”
I learned that I am not broken, I just wasn’t in touch with myself enough.”
“Do it. You learn so much about yourself. Even if I had not learned to orgasm (I did!), it would have been worth it because the physiological part was so awesome. It’s like a therapy session where you leave feeling so much better.”
“I cried tears of pure joy when I had my first orgasm.”
“I have had an excellent experience with Finishing School. I am overjoyed to finally be able to experience something that has been so mysterious to me for so many years.”
“It is a great program – informative, empowering, emotionally rewarding, and worth every penny because IT WORKS.”
“My pleasure is at an all time high. I know that every encounter will be satisfying. My curiosity and interest have increased. My husband doesn’t know what hit him.”
“It made it less daunting and less like a mountain that was impossible to climb. It made it honest, clear, pleasurable and fun.”
“I am not as scared of touching myself or doing what feels good. I am also learning to clear my mind more and stay focused. It is hard work, but enjoyable to learn and figure out more about myself.”
“Discovering that I actually CAN have an orgasm has been amazing.”
“Finishing School made me understand how to prioritize myself and what I need. It taught me to not be afraid.”
“I guess it shouldn’t have been a surprise but I learned that I am not the only one that has thought the negative thoughts about orgasm. My thoughts have been worked through and sent packing thanks to Finishing School.”
“I was surprised by the simple concept of diligence working. I preach practice to my students in my professional field all of the time. But, I had never come to terms with my need to put in a little bit of practice on this part of my life.”
“I loved the graph of the different ways to come to orgasm. It was helpful to actually have some examples to try and different combinations.”
“I really got down to the bottom of what was stopping me mentally from orgasming.”
“Do it. You will love it. You are worth it and your orgasm is worth it. Your partner will love working through it with you in Module 3.”
“This is such a valuable experience beyond just learning how to orgasm. You ended learning a lot about yourself and desires.”
“Don’t be shy! I waited too long… and definitely regret not getting started sooner.”

United States

  • Guided nine-week program
  • Lifetime access to Finishing School
  • Unlimited personal email coaching sessions ($115 per session value)
  • 1 Minna Life Limon luxury vibrator ($120 value)
  • 1 bottle of Pjur premium lubricant ($30 value)


  • Guided nine-week program
  • Lifetime access to Finishing School
  • Unlimited personal email coaching sessions ($115 per session value)

International registrants: Due to customs restrictions, I’m unable to send the gifts internationally. My apologies!

Already have a favorite vibrator and lube? No problem! Use the code NOGIFTS100 for a discount.

Interested in a payment plan? Click here!

I also offer a payment plan, if you’d prefer to pay in installments. If you choose this option, you’ll pay a third of price today, and the remainder in two payments over the next two months.

For U.S. payment plan, click here. For International payment plan, click here. You’ll be redirected to Partial.ly, where you’ll be prompted to create an account and enter your payment information.

Please note – when ordering with the payment plan, you’ll receive an email with access information to Module One of Finishing School within 24 hours. You’ll receive access to Module Two after your second payment, and Module Three after your third payment. If your order includes the Minna Life vibrator and Pjur lube, your package will be shipped out after your third payment.

What Happens Next?

As soon as you click the “Yes!” button, you’ll be lead through the checkout process.

Your transaction is securely processed by Shopify, and your credit card will read “One Oh, Corp” for your privacy.

Immediately after purchase, you’ll get a welcome email with payment confirmation and directions for the first module. I’ll also ask you to double-check your shipping address so I can ensure you get your gifts discreetly and promptly!

Within a few short minutes, you’ll get started learning how to orgasm!

Three weeks later, you’ll get another email with access information to Module Two. Three weeks after that, you’ll get Module Three.

Your information will be kept strictly confidential, and will never be shared.

Hi there! I'm Vanessa Marin. 

I’ve been a featured expert for The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, CNN, The Times of London, GQ, Rolling Stone, Elle, Allure, Esquire, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Glamour, Self, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, The Huffington Post, XoJane, Bustle, and many more.

I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#78931).


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