Picture this

There’s a beautiful woman in your bed (maybe she’s your wife, your girlfriend, or some cutie you just met). She’s got that look in her eye. She’s telling you she’s ready. She starts moving towards you. The anticipation is almost too much to bear. You can feel every cell in your body screaming, “Yes! Yes! Yes!”

And then it happens.

The anxiety hits you like a tidal wave.

You know that the sex you so badly want to have in that moment is just not going to happen for you.

You’re not going to be able to get it up. Or you’ll lose it half-way through. You’ll come too fast. Or not at all.

It’s an awful feeling. It’s enough to make you not even want to attempt sex in the first place…

This doesn’t have to be your fate

I created The Modern Man’s Guide To Conquering Performance Pressure because my sex therapy practice is filled with kind, generous, successful, all around great guys who are struggling with overwhelming performance anxiety.

If you’ve landed on this page, you’re probably one of those men.

You consider yourself a more evolved type of man. You don’t want to pop prescription pills or sketchy supplements for the rest of your life. You don’t want to try those asinine pick-up artist alpha-male techniques. You’re done with the same old tired advice in men’s magazines.

But you also don’t want to keep feeling emasculated by problems with your erection and orgasm.

The Modern Man’s Guide To Conquering Performance Pressure is a comprehensive and innovative approach to resolving erectile difficulties, early ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation. This program is designed to provide accurate information, help you explore the potential causes of your performance anxiety, create strategies for managing stress in the moment, and eliminate performance problems once and for all. In short…

This program will help you leave performance anxiety in the dust 

and approach sex with confidence and ease.

“I’ve been having performance issues for years, but never wanted to acknowledge how bad things were. I met an incredible woman who seemed like my ideal match, but struggled to get it up from the very first night we slept together. What followed was a horrifically awkward and emasculating couple of months trying to convince her that it had nothing to do with her. My sex drive deteriorate into nothing. When she finally left me, I realized I couldn’t afford to keep ignoring the problem. 

I’ll be honest – this program took a lot of thought and effort. It’s not for guys looking for a ‘quick fix’. But after working my way through the program, I’ve found that my confidence has increased exponentially. I understand why I was having erectile difficulties. I feel more in tune with and in control of my body. I have tricks to fall back on. And to top it all off – I’m having the best sex of my life. I don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t found this guide.” 

- Tim C.

What you get with the Modern Man’s Guide:

Stand-Alone Guide VIP Package
200-page downloadable guide purple_check purple_check
50+ tried and tested exercises purple_check purple_check
Lifetime access to program updates purple_check purple_check
2 private email coaching sessions (valued at $230) purple_check

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$99 USD


$299 USD

Want to know more about what’s included? Here’s a breakdown of each chapter:

How To Get The Most Out Of This Program

We start with some simple strategies to help you optimize the time you spend on the program.

Why Most Guys Need What You Just Bought

Every man will have to deal with performance anxiety at one point in his life. Yep, every man. Learn about some of the most common patterns I see with my male clients.

Get The Facts About Why This Is Happening

The real nitty-gritty on what’s going on with your body.

Start Developing Your Game Plan

You’ll start uncovering the potential causes of or factors in your situation. Trust me – there are going to be a few surprises!

Conquer Anxiety For Good

Exercises designed to help you decrease your overall level of anxiety, both inside and out of the bedroom.

Get Hard And Stay Hard

Specific exercises and techniques for men who struggle with erectile difficulties.

Last Longer

Strategies for helping you control your orgasm, including specific positions to use, sex toys to try, and changes to make to your masturbation habits.

Reach Orgasm

Techniques for helping you reach orgasm more quickly and satisfyingly.

Give This To Your Partner

Having a hard time talking about sex with your partner? I’ve got your back! I wrote this chapter directly to her.

What To Do Next

Ideas for moving forward from here.

You need this program


… because you’ve stopped enjoying sex as much as you used to

… because you’re tired of not knowing how to get yourself back on track

… because you’re worried about things getting even worse

… because you’re sick of feeling anxious every time you’re about to have sex

… because you’re ready to take charge of the situation and get real results



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Hi! I’m Vanessa Marin. I’m a sex therapist, coach, and writer. It’s my mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.

I’ve been a featured expert for The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, The Times of London, The Huffington Post, Elle, Allure, Real Simple, Esquire, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, Shape, Redbook, Glamour, Self, XoJane, Bustle, and many more.

I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#78931).