Here’s one of the most frustrating truths about being in a relationship: for as much as you love your partner, as attracted as you are to them, it is so easy to fall into a sexual rut.
Every couple goes through this!
Between busy schedules, demanding jobs, kids, families, and never-ending responsibilities, it can feel like you and your partner have slipped to the bottom of your to-do lists. (Pun fully intended!)
But if you want to take your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary, what’s the solution?
You probably know the answer already: try new things in the bedroom.
When you try new things, you get to see your partner in a new light. It feels like you’re dating each other again, still getting to know each other. Things feel fresh and new instead of stale.
There’s a funny kind of inertia that kicks in too. Once you start trying new things in the bedroom, it feels easier to keep being creative.
But if you’re like most people…
In the moment, your partner might ask you, “What do you want to do?” But by then, it’s just too late to be creative.
So what can you do instead?
Well, I’ve got a few ideas for you. 60, to be specific.
Introducing… The 30 Day Sex Challenge!
The 30 Day Sex Challenge is a month-long, email-based challenge designed to give you and your partner tons of new ideas to try in the bedroom together, plus the motivation to put effort into reconnecting with each other.
You and your partner will get the comfort of spending quality time together every day, and the excitement of not knowing exactly what you’ll be doing until the day you do it!
The 30 Day Sex Challenge is meant to be a lot of fun, but it’s also practical. The challenges themselves will take between 10-30 minutes of your time. None of them require any additional purchases or special toys or props. The challenges are designed to nudge you a little out of your comfort zones, but without being overwhelming. It’s more about creating simple – but powerful – moments of connection than doing wild bedroom gymnastics!
Since the 30 Day Sex Challenge is email-based, you can work your way through it in your own home, on your own schedule, with complete privacy.
The techniques in the 30 Day Sex Challenge have been developed in over 15 years of work in the sex therapy field.
You’ll also get a beautiful PDF of all of the challenges so you can repeat the 30 Day Sex Challenge any time you want to spice things up in the bedroom with your partner.
It is so much fun to try new things in the bedroom with your partner! The 30 Day Sex Challenge will help you recapture the magic of your early days together and fall in love all over again.
Every day for the next 30 days, you’ll get an email from me with two new ideas to try in the bedroom together.
You’ll get a Sensual Challenge (touch- and foreplay-oriented), and a Sexual Challenge (sex-oriented). You and your partner get to choose which one you want to try that day. (And who knows, maybe you’ll end up doing both…)
You can choose to do the challenge within 30 days, or you can spread it out and do a challenge a couple times a week, or a few times a month.
At the end of the month, you’ll get a beautifully-designed PDF workbook of all of the ideas for you to refer back to over and over again whenever you want to spice up your sex life. If you miss a couple of the days of the challenge, it’s no problem, since you’ll have access to all of the ideas for life.
I’m Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you take your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary!
I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.
Most importantly, I’m a wife, and I’ve been with my husband Xander for over a decade. I know all about the struggles of keeping the passion alive in a long-term relationship. My relationship has been my best teacher, and I feel deeply honored to share the lessons I’ve learned (and continue to learn!) with other couples.
The 30 Day Sex Challenge is inclusive. It’s designed for people of all ages, races, genders, and sexual orientations.
For the price of a cup of coffee per day – and far less than you might spend on a weekly date night – you and your partner can spend an entire month bringing suspense, connection, variety, and anticipation back into the bedroom.
Your relationship, your partner, and your sex life are worth investing in.
I know how hard it can be to take action when it comes changing your sex life. But I also know that the only way to make a change is to get started right away!
That’s why I’m offering a limited time, 7-day free trial so you can see exactly how the challenge works. During the trial, you can cancel at any time, absolutely free of charge. But I’m confident you’ll want to keep the fun going.
Don’t worry, I’ve got your back!
Enter your email address below to get an absolutely free bonus: How To Get Your Partner Excited About Doing The Challenge Together!
I’ll also address some of the common concerns about the challenge, like not having enough time or not being in the mood.
"The ideas that came daily in my email inbox gave me the confidence to suggest ideas and stage some fun adult playtime. I found myself thinking about sex more and noticed how our intimacy out of the bedroom increased as well. I love a brush of his hand across my back as he passes me in the kitchen or a goodbye kiss in the morning that lasts just a little longer. I feel like I have a bag of tricks, and more self confidence too."
"That was a fun month! When you have been with the same partner for a long time it is easy to fall into patterns and I find most of the initiation falls on me. I don’t know how other people feel but I love it the my wife makes the first move. During this past month she made the first move multiple times, and I loved it. I don’t know if she felt more confident or what, but it was fun! New ideas brought more play into our bedroom routines (and lots of other places too)."
"It helped us think more creatively. Even though the challenge was scheduled, we found that we ended up being more spontaneous. We flirted with each other more throughout the week. And my husband surprised me with a 4-day getaway to the beach… very romantic! "
"I loved your ideas, and the idea of even putting this out there! It's such a needed topic to talk about and work on. I loved your specificity with each of the challenges. To me, the more specific the better so we know what to do. We talked more and did things we'd never done before. Also really appreciated your resources of videos and books to enhance our imaginations. I thought it was great!"
"I've been following you for a while - through your email list, on Instagram, etc. And I've taken a few of your courses over the past few years. The information and advice that I've received has had a wonderfully positive impact on my relationship with my husband and our romantic/sexual connection. The other day, I had my annual physical and during the intake process with the nurse, I was asked "Are you sexually active?" Every other year, my response has been a perfunctory "Yes". But this year, I spontaneously replied with a "Oh Yeah!!!" Thank you, Vanessa, for helping me go from "I guess so." to "Damn Skippy!"
Prioritizing your sex life with the 30 Day Sex Challenge will bring some major energy and excitement into your relationship! You’ll feel more playful, more vibrant, more alive, and more deeply connected than you ever have before.