Every once in a while an orgasm hits you like a freight train, and you lie there afterward wondering what on earth that was and why you can’t do it again.

What if that wasn’t luck?

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why getting really efficient at reaching orgasm can be the exact thing capping how big it gets
• The four things about your orgasm you can actually change
• What your body does automatically the second an orgasm starts that’s probably cutting it short
• Why the window for a second orgasm stays open longer than you think, and the one moment that closes it
• The truth about G-spot, cervical, and nipple orgasms, and why none of them outrank the clitoris
• What Vanessa found after twenty years of thinking she already knew everything about her own body

What if your orgasm was only the beginning?

Advanced Orgasm is our course for the woman who already orgasms reliably, on her own and with a partner, and is curious what else her body can do. It doesn’t teach you how to orgasm. It teaches you how to shape what happens when you do.

• The four Amplifiers we walk through in this episode. Intensity, Duration, Frequency, and Pathway. Four levers you can pull, with the step-by-step for each one.
• You get to decide what kind of orgasm you have. Slow and drawn out tonight, enormous on Friday, two of them if that’s the mood.
• A 30-day actually-try-it guarantee. Give it a fair shot, and if you haven’t learned something that expands how you explore your own pleasure, we’ll refund you.
• Lifetime access, including every upgrade we ever make to it.

Check out Advanced Orgasm here

Not sure if it’s for you? If your orgasm only shows up under very particular conditions, or you can get there on your own but not with a partner, that’s not a flaw. You’re just at a different starting line. Start with Finishing School

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