Does it make you feel uncomfortable or ashamed? Does the whole process feel baffling to you? Are you still waiting to have your first orgasm, or do you struggle to orgasm consistently on your own or with your partner?
If orgasm is a challenge for you, you might feel pretty alone. You might feel like you’re the only woman going through this, and that orgasm must be so much easier for everyone else. But the truth is that millions of women have never had an orgasm, or aren’t able to have them consistently.
After close to two decades of study, research, and teaching, I’ve come to understand the dirty little secret about why the vast majority of women struggle with their orgasm…
We don’t talk about female orgasm openly and honestly, and we don’t give women the accurate, detailed information they need to know to be able to orgasm. We only talk about female orgasm in terms of it being “complicated”, “mysterious”, and “difficult”, and make women feel badly about our bodies and our needs. If you’re lucky to find any advice about orgasm, it’s always vague and unhelpful, like, “just relax” or “stop thinking about it.”
We women have been denied the opportunity to learn basic information about our bodies and have a fun, joyful, relaxed relationship with our bodies, pleasure, and orgasm.
Finishing School Live leads you through, step-by-step, having your first and better orgasms on your own and with your partner. It’s a comprehensive online course paired with live group coaching with an incredible community of supportive women. You’ll get to experience all of the pleasure your body is capable of, while also being part of a revolution that’s redefining how we approach female orgasm!
The Finishing School system will teach you:
You’ll be invited to live group coaching sessions every other week to get answers to your questions, plus heaps of motivation, support, and accountability!
Yes, you’re going to learn how to orgasm. But the best things you’ll get out of Finishing School don’t even involve orgasm. You're going to learn a completely new way of relating to your body, pleasure, and sex.
Finishing School has been developed and tested for well over a decade. You will learn how to have an orgasm, just like the thousands of women who have already taken Finishing School!
Most importantly, in Finishing School you’ll have fun learning how to orgasm on your own and with your partner. Because seriously, orgasm should be fun!
The second you sign up for Finishing School, you’ll get access to the first week of video workshops and exercises to try, including guided practices.
Every other week, you’ll be invited to join live group coaching calls. These calls will be your chance to ask questions and get tons of personalized feedback, support, and accountability. The calls will be anonymous, so no one will know your name or see your face, but you’ll still get to feel the support and encouragement of a revolutionary community of women.
If you can’t make it to a live session, no problem! You can send in your questions before the session, and I’ll answer them during the call. You’ll get a recording of each of the live sessions, so you won’t miss anything.
You’ll get lifetime access to Finishing School, but the live calls will keep you motivated and accountable to work through the course and practice regularly.
I know you’re busy, so Finishing School is designed to be as streamlined and efficient as possible. You’ll get only the most powerful exercises in each week’s content.
If you want more, you can find additional tips and strategies in the Orgasm Vault – your top secret hideaway for bonus techniques!
Since Finishing School is fully online, it’s available for you to watch or listen to in your own home, on your own schedule, with complete privacy.
What Women Are Saying
Signing up for Finishing School was a leap, but I am so glad I did. Just three weeks in and already I feel miles ahead of where I started. At first I was hesitant and uncertain of success. What if I put in the time and effort … and failed? After years of health issues, I felt disconnected from my body and unsure of what I could feel anymore.
Vanessa Marin is so clear about the fact that all women can access sexual pleasure. I honestly didn’t know I needed to hear this. But that’s the thing about Finishing School. The approach is so positive that I feel like it is un-complicating my sex life. The course is constructed and paced to make sure I arrive at each stage equipped with reassuring information and even a set of custom tools for making the most of my journey.
It’s so worth the commitment. After a difficult break up, Finishing School is exactly what I needed to rebuild my sexual confidence and self-compassion. Already I feel a deeper bodily awareness and more alive to opportunities to nurture my own pleasure. I realize now that my sexual fulfillment isn’t going to happen out of nowhere; but it also isn’t an unsolvable mystery.
You’ll start with setting yourself up for success so you can get the most out of your Finishing School journey. This week includes:
This week, you’ll get a priceless foundation of orgasmic knowledge, and discover the specific reasons why you haven’t been having them. You’ll learn:
You already know that your mind is playing a huge role in blocking your orgasm. If you have negative thoughts about your body or sex in general, if you find yourself getting distracted by random or anxious thoughts in the moment, or if it feels like you’re waging a never-ending war against your brain, that will all come to an end this week. You’ll learn:
It’s hard to feel pleasure in your body if you dislike – or even hate – your own body. This week is packed with powerful practices to help you feel comfortable in your own skin. This week includes:
Most women feel uncomfortable with the idea of masturbating, but there really is nothing as empowering as bringing your own body pleasure! If you’ve never masturbated before, or if you’ve never been able to figure out how to do it, this week will be a game-changer for you! This week includes:
So many women feel embarrassed and discouraged if they don’t orgasm immediately. But Finishing School is set up to show you that orgasm is a process, and that the challenges you run into are opportunities to grow even more! This week, you’ll learn:
This week, you’ll have the space to try out tons of different techniques, and fine-tune what your body responds to best. This week includes:
It’s time to put all of the pieces together and start orgasming! This is where all of your hard work over the last few weeks pays off! This week includes:
This week, you’ll transition into the second part of Finishing School – learning how to orgasm with a partner. This week includes:
Finishing School can be an incredibly bonding experience for couples. It can feel like something the two of you are doing together, to spice up your sex life and increase your intimacy! This week includes:
This mysterious week is the first step in learning how to orgasm with your partner!
This week, you’ll learn how to orgasm from your partner’s hands. You’ll also get exercises that you can do to your partner, so Finishing School feels like the two of you improving your sex life, together. This week includes:
This week, you’ll learn how to orgasm from oral sex. You’ll again get exercises you can do to your partner, so Finishing School feels like the two of you spicing up your sex life together. This week includes:
Finally, you’ll wrap up with orgasming during intercourse. Since this is such a popular topic, I’ve got you covered with three different lessons:
As you’re reading through this page, you’re probably thinking of plenty of reasons why Finishing School won’t work for you.
But here’s the truth…
There’s really only one factor that will determine whether Finishing School will work for you – your willingness to try.
Finishing School is only for women who are willing to put in effort.
It’s going to be a fun process, I promise! But you’re not going to have an instant orgasm the second you register. I’ll tell you exactly what to do, but you actually have to do it.
As part of your purchase, you’ll also get absolutely free access to the Orgasm Vault, which is chock-full of valuable orgasm- and sex-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School. The Orgasm Vault will help you learn valuable lessons, like:
You’ll have lifetime access to the Vault, so you can keep improving your sex life long after you’ve had your first orgasms!
I’ll be talking directly to the partners of the ladies in Finishing School. I’ll tell them the truth about how female orgasm works, and the information they need to know to be a supportive partner to you. I’ll talk about some of the common challenges that couples go through around female orgasm, and normalize the fact that orgasm is a challenge for so many women. And I’ll answer any questions you or your partner have!
Your partner will walk away from this call fully equipped to be the most amazing, supportive partner in your orgasmic journey, and you’ll walk away feeling like the weight of the world has been lifted off of your shoulders!
Even if you’re not currently in a relationship, this call can be really valuable, because you’ll get to see the kinds of questions that partners are asking, and will get the tools to have these kinds of conversations in the future. Plus, you’ll get a recording of the call that you can watch with any future partner!
In this bonus workshop, I’ll guide you through, step-by-step, exactly how to comfortably initiate sex with your partner, how to consider their requests, and how you can both work together as a team to create a positive environment for initiation in your relationship.
Once you finish the course, you’ll get free access to the 30 Day Sex Challenge! This is an email based challenge, where every single day, you and your partner get an email with specific “challenges” to try in the bedroom together.
One of my goals with Finishing School is to help sex feel fun for you again! Because I know from first hand experience that orgasmic struggles can suck all of the joy out of sex. The 30 Day Sex Challenge is a super playful way for you and your partner to reconnect inside of the bedroom. Think of it as an awesome way to celebrate your Finishing School success!
I’m Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you take your sex life from ordinary to extraordinary! I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.
I’ve struggled with my own orgasm challenges too, for 10 YEARS! I dealt with so much shame, frustration, anxiety, and hopelessness. I eventually learned how to get there, and I turned my own journey into a step-by-step system to teach other women to have their first orgasms too!
Since then, I’ve taught thousands of women just like you to orgasm. I am deeply honored, humbled, and awestruck by the work I get to do, and I would love for you to be the next Finishing School success story!
For years, I only offered private orgasm coaching. Working together, one-on-one, for the same amount of time as it takes to complete Finishing School costs close to $6,000.
I created Finishing School because I wanted to make learning how to orgasm more affordable and accessible.
There’s no denying that Finishing School is an investment. But making this commitment to yourself can be transformative. Simply by signing up, you are sending yourself the powerful message that your pleasure is important.
You are important.
When you invest in your pleasure with this round of Finishing School Live, you’re not only helping yourself, you’re also helping to empower other women!
I’m taking a portion of the company’s profits from Finishing School, and using half to establish a scholarship fund for women who are unable to afford the full Finishing School tuition. The other half will go to charitable organizations that are helping promote sexual education and end sexual violence across the globe.
I HIGHLY recommend Finishing School for any woman that is struggling with her orgasm.
I couldn’t believe that I was learning some of this information for the first time in my life! This course has helped me initiate so many conversations with my friends and sisters about orgasms and break the taboo of not discussing it. From that, I have learned that every woman is indeed so different. What works for one woman may not work for you and vice versa.
Once I learned that orgasming is a skill and it may not just magically happen to you, it made me very determined to learn and gave me hope! Vanessa helped me understand my body better and feel more comfortable communicating with my partner. Now I can actually answer the question: “What would you like me to do?”
You will not regret this investment in yourself. There is so much knowledge and comfort in this course!!
If you commit yourself to the Finishing School system, you WILL orgasm.
I know that orgasm is a sensitive topic, and that it can be easy to give up on yourself. But there has never been any research that shows that some women are just not capable of having an orgasm.
Thousands of women – including many self-proclaimed “hopeless cases” – have used the Finishing School system to learn how to orgasm.
At the same time, I know that it can be scary to take a leap of faith like this. So that’s why I’m offering a 30 day, risk-free, money-back guarantee. I can’t promise you that you’ll be wildly orgasmic in just 30 days. You’re too unique for me to put that kind of timeline on you! Truly commit yourself to Finishing School, and do all of the work. If you don’t feel any sort of change in your relationship with your body, pleasure, orgasm, or sex life, then I will refund you every single penny. All that I ask is that you show me that you’ve done the work. I don’t want you investing in a course that doesn’t feel like the right fit for you; I just don’t want you to give up on yourself. Because that’s my dream for this world; that every woman out there knows she’s capable of pleasure and orgasms, and that she deserves them.
"Since starting the course with Vanessa I have become much more comfortable with my body. I have learned to show my body love and be kind to it in the way I would be towards a partner. I have acknowledged my mental blockages and have been taught ways to deal with them healthily. The course is very easy to follow and allows you to work at your own pace. I'm so glad I took the leap and I look forward to continuing the practices I've been taught."
"I was really nervous to sign up for Finishing School. I knew, in theory, that I wasn’t the only one struggling but it really felt that way when no one talks about it. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed of myself that I couldn’t orgasm. It felt like a real failure. It was helpful, especially in Module One, to think through some of those feelings and understand what might be part of the solution so I could work on it. And, while still working through the exercises, I ended up telling a some of my female friends that I had signed up for the class. I found that many of them also had trouble, had only orgasmed a few times in their lives, or not at all. It was such a relief to shed some of those feelings of embarrassment among friends. Talking about it made me feel proud that I was taking steps to take better care of myself."
"The biggest thing Finishing School has done for me thus far is reassured me that I am completely normal and beautiful regardless of the outcome that occurs during sex or masturbation. It has been a fun journey and is continuing to be a fun journey of discovering my sexuality as a human being and I feel like that is a magnificent thing. I was hesitant and scared to sign up at first because I thought it wasn’t normal that I had never orgasmed. I thought there was something wrong with me. Working through these modules has made me realize and reaffirmed that I am a completely whole individual on a journey to experience bliss for myself. How fun and exciting is that!?!?!"
"Learning how to orgasm is just the tip of the iceberg. Throughout the program you’ll learn how to truly make yourself a priority and listen to your body. In my experience, it gave me the format and resources to explore new and unexpected ways to feel pleasure. In doing so, you gain more confidence. Vanessa does a great job at compiling countless tools to expand your mind, dig deeper and open up new channels for pleasure. Just do it, you’re worth it!"
"Wow wow wow! I was super nervous about signing up for Finishing School, but so glad I did! It’s also really nice knowing that you have Vanessa on your side and with you every step of the way. She really knows how to make you feel good about yourself, and make you feel worth it."
"Finishing School was packed full of useful information, presented in a way that was friendly and comfortable. It is worth the time, effort and money because I am worth it. "
"Vanessa’s lessons have reassured me that I’m *not* broken, that learning about myself is a process, and that I should treat myself with the same kindness I show to others. "
"I was nervous about signing up to for Finishing School at first. I was very upset about my sex life, and so ashamed and embarrassed that I couldn’t enjoy myself with my partner. In Module One, it was really helpful to think through some of those feelings and try to understand what the problem was and what I can do change how I approach sex. It’s been amazing how much I’ve learned to relax and enjoy myself in bed now and how I’m not even nervous or worried anymore. It’s such a nice relief to know you’re not alone. Finishing School has opened a lot of doors for me and it has been a fun journey."
I know from personal experience that when you’re struggling with your orgasm, it’s very easy to get tunnel vision. It’s hard to imagine anything that could be more exciting than having consistent orgasms on your own and with your partner. But what you may not realize right now is that changing your relationship with your orgasm can actually open a door for you to change your entire life.
What if you approached sex with a sense of ease and excitement, knowing you have the power to create whatever kind of experience you want? What if sex became something that energized you instead of depleted you, because you get something out of it instead of just giving all of yourself to it? What if you found yourself being more courageous and creative in the bedroom, doing things that you didn’t have the nerve to do before?
And what if that courage and confidence extended outside of the bedroom too? How would it feel to open yourself up to your partner, showing more vulnerability, more sides of yourself, creating the kind of relationship you always dreamed of having? How would it feel to hold hands more often, even when you’re doing simple things like walking the dog or grocery shopping? To smile and laugh more, as if everything was an inside joke between the two of you.
What if you had a life where you got to experience moments of pleasure on a daily basis. In the bedroom, yes, but outside of it too. What if you could take a few extra minutes in the morning to sit on your porch and quietly sip your coffee? What if you could linger over a goodbye hug with your partner, and kiss them like you really mean it? What if you could sit still and do nothing, and feel exquisitely at peace? What if you felt alive, and vibrant, and like the world exists to bring you pleasure and joy? Not because you’re pompous or arrogant, but because you have that quiet confidence of knowing that you deserve good things and good experiences, just like everyone else.
What Women Are Saying
Finishing School was eye-opening, emotional and rewarding!
I was on the fence about taking this course because I was unsure if it would work and it was a lot of money.
But almost immediately I was blown away at how much it helped my relationship with my boyfriend. I was not expecting this! Not only are we learning to have better sex but it brought so much more emotional intimacy and understanding to our relationship. We have a much better relationship and it is a testament to this course. I can’t thank Vanessa enough. Sometimes you don’t realize how stale your relationship has been until things have improved.
The live coaching calls were probably my favorite part. I loved that Vanessa took her time and gave lengthy answers to each question. I loved the community aspect of them. I can’t tell you how much it helped me to know, that there were other women out there like me. This is a topic that is hard to talk about so I felt very alone. This course changed that! It is totally worth the money.