“Are you close?” Is there any question that can evoke more anxiety for women in the bedroom?
We all know the feeling. You’re getting down with your partner, and you inevitably get to that awkward moment when you desperately start hoping you’re not going to be asked that question.
Because that one question forces you to make a horrible decision – to fake or not to fake.
Faking can feel so tempting. You don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. You want them to think they’ve done a good job. You feel too embarrassed to describe what you need to a partner, or too guilty to actually let them do it. Sometimes you don’t even know what you need in the first place.
But real talk – every time you fake an orgasm with a partner, a little piece of you dies inside.
Not only do you feel like you’ve missed out on being able to have an orgasm in the first place, but you also get so wrapped up in trying to convincingly fake an orgasm that you wind up enjoying sex even less. You’re more fixated on creating a good performance than on anything else.
You start feeling guilty for lying. Then you see your partner’s satisfied face, and you start feeling resentful. Why do they get to have all the fun, while you get left feeling frustrated and unsatisfied?
But what’s the alternative? Pretending you didn’t even hear the question in the first place? Just lying there quietly? Having to awkwardly explain to your partner that you’re not close? With choices like those, faking it feels like your least-terrible option…
Finishing School: Orgasm With A Partner is a comprehensive online course for women who can orgasm on their own, but struggle to get there with a partner. It teaches you exactly what you need to do to start orgasming reliably with a partner.
Finishing School’s organized, step-by-step system will teach you:
Finishing School is designed for the busy woman on the go, while still helping you learn how to slow down and make more time for pleasure. Since it’s online, you can take the course in your own home, on your own schedule, with complete privacy.
Yes, you’re going to learn how to orgasm. But the best things you’ll get out of Finishing School don’t even involve orgasm. You're going to learn a completely new way of relating to your body, your pleasure, and sex.
Finishing School has been developed and tested for well over a decade. Despite what you may believe, orgasm isn’t rocket science. You will learn how to have an orgasm, just like the thousands of women who have already taken Finishing School!
Most importantly, in Finishing School you’ll have fun learning how to orgasm on your own and with your partner. Because seriously, orgasm should be fun!
Finishing School is a ten week journey. The second you sign up, you’ll get access to the first week of video workshops and exercises to try, including guided practices.
I know you’re busy, so I designed Finishing School to be as streamlined and efficient as possible. I’ve included only the most powerful exercises in each week’s content.
If you want more, you can find additional tips and strategies in the Orgasm Vault – my top secret hideaway for bonus orgasm techniques.
Since Finishing School is fully online, it’s available for you to watch or listen to in your own home, on your own schedule, with complete privacy.
You’ll start with some tips for setting yourself up for success and getting the most out of your Finishing School journey. This week includes:
You’re going to tackle you negative thoughts and beliefs about sex, and you’re going to work on staying more present and focused in the moment. This week includes:
Every woman alive has a complicated relationship with her body. You’re going to work on feeling more comfortable in your own skin and learning how to love your body. This week includes:
This week, you’ll learn how exploring your orgasm on your own can set you up for greater orgasmic success with your partner. This week includes:
You’re going to learn how to talk to your partner about joining you for some partnered exercises. You’re also going to learn how to give feedback, and how to get comfortable with receiving. This week includes:
This mysterious week is the first step in learning how to orgasm with your partner! This week includes:
This week, you’ll learn how to orgasm from your partner’s touch. You’ll also get exercises that you can do to your partner, so Finishing School feels like the two of you working on improving your sex life, together. This week includes:
This week, you’ll learn how to orgasm from oral sex. You’ll again get exercises you can do to your partner, so your Finishing School explorations feel like a teamwork approach. This week includes:
You’re going to spend this week learning about some of the most common problems, issues, and blockages that come up when you’re first learning how to orgasm with a partner. This week includes:
Finally, you’ll wrap up with learning how to orgasm during intercourse. Since this is such a popular topic, I’ve got you covered with three different lessons.
I’m Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom. I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.
I’ve struggled with my own orgasm challenges too! I spent years knowing how to orgasm on my own, but being unable to have them with a partner. It was a huge struggle for me, but I eventually learned how to get there. Over the years, I created a step-by-step system to replicate exactly what I did.
I’ve taught thousands of women just like you how to orgasm with a partner. I am deeply honored, humbled, and awestruck by the work I get to do!
This program is for women who can orgasm on their own, but haven’t been able to get there with a partner. (Important note: If you’ve never had an orgasm, or can’t reliably orgasm on your own, please check out the original version of Finishing School. You’ll learn how to orgasm both on your own and with a partner.)
As you’re reading through this page, you’re probably thinking of plenty of reasons why Finishing School won’t work for you.
All of those reasons are false.
I know it’s easy to come up with excuses, but there’s really only one factor that will determine whether or not Finishing School will work for you – your willingness to try.
Finishing School is only for women who are willing to put in effort.
It’s going to be a fun process, I promise! But you’re not going to have an instant orgasm the second you register. I’ll tell you exactly what to do, but you actually have to do it.
As part of your purchase, you’ll also get absolutely free access to the Orgasm Vault, which is chock-full of valuable orgasm- and sex-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School. The Orgasm Vault will help you learn valuable lessons, like:
You’ll have lifetime access to the Vault, so you can keep improving your sex life long after you’ve had your first orgasms!
For years, I only offered private orgasm coaching. Working together, one-on-one, for the same amount of time as it takes to complete Finishing School costs over $5,000.
I created Finishing School because I wanted to make learning how to orgasm more affordable and accessible.
There’s no denying that Finishing School is an investment. But making this commitment to yourself can be transformative. Simply by signing up, you send yourself the powerful message that your pleasure is important.
You are important.
YOU. ARE. WORTH. IT.
If you commit yourself to the Finishing School system, you WILL orgasm.
I know that orgasm is a sensitive topic, and that it can be easy to give up on yourself.
But there has never been any research that shows that some women are just not capable of having an orgasm with a partner.
Thousands of women – including many self-proclaimed “hopeless cases” – have used the Finishing School system to learn how to orgasm with their partners.
At the same time, I know that it can be scary to take a leap of faith like this. So that’s why I’m offering a 30 day, risk-free, money-back guarantee. I can’t promise you that you’ll be wildly orgasmic in just 30 days. You’re too unique for me to put that kind of timeline on you! Truly commit yourself to Finishing School, and do all of the work. If you don’t feel any sort of change in your relationship with your body, pleasure, orgasm, or sex life, then I will refund you every single penny. All that I ask is that you show me that you’ve done the work. I don’t want you investing in a course that doesn’t feel like the right fit for you; I just don’t want you to give up on yourself. Because that’s my dream for this world; that every woman out there knows she’s capable of pleasure and orgasms, and that she deserves them.
"We come to this place for so many different reasons and from so many different backgrounds. Vanessa understands and allows for each of us to do this work in our own time and at our own pace, while steadfastly supporting us in her knowledge that we are all capable of reaching orgasm and finding satisfaction in our sex lives. After our very first communication, in response to my concerns, Vanessa told me “I can promise you that your body is not broken”, and it was such a relief to hear that from the expert! For some of us, this journey is not a quick one, but Vanessa will never give up on us, and she helps us have the confidence and motivation to not give up on ourselves."
"I started Finishing School With A Partner because I knew that sex could be a lot better. I’ve always felt like something was missing and I felt a lot of shame asking for what I wanted. Finishing School gave me permission to take as long as I need to reach an orgasm, and to be able to ask my partner to slow down and to meet me on my level. I considered myself to be educated about female anatomy, but Vanessa explained it in a way that made me feel a lot better about needing specific kinds of stimulation, that I’m not inadequate, and that my body does exactly what it was designed to do. I am already feeling a huge difference in the way I think and approach sex with my partner. Vanessa had me trying a bunch of new methods to reach orgasm and changing things up, and varying the methods when I’m by myself has made it a lot easier to receive pleasure from my partner. There is so much to unpack in this course, I am excited to keep going. "
"Recently I’d been feeling disconnected from my body during sex. I could get myself off easily when alone, but when having sex with a partner the stress of reaching orgasm seemed to make my body shut down. Sex was feeling less fun and more stressful. The pressure to come led me to start faking it, which gave me a lot of shame. Thank god for Finishing School! Vanessa’s class has given me a new relationship to my body and for the first time I actually have a sensual connection to my vagina. It’s been a literal pleasure getting to know this side of myself! I no longer have to fake it and my sex-related anxiety is at an all-time low. The newfound sexual connection to my body is worth the price alone but then you throw orgasms into the mix and WOW; I’m a changed woman."
"This workshop was so much more than just learning how to orgasm. It forced me to think about my sexuality, explore my fears, and demand more for myself in the bedroom. Vanessa was responsive and supportive throughout the process. It was also empowering to learn how to get myself in the mood and mindset to engage with my body instead of relying on another person. Finally, even if I ever did gather the courage to shop for lube or a vibrator, I would not have known what to get, so I was so grateful that they came with the course (and they are both great!)."
"Vanessa Marin and her program are truly amazing. Finishing School helped me to understand female orgasms better, and made me feel more comfortable and accept who I am. I feel more confident and supported since taking Vanessa’s program. I have been able to orgasm with my partner and feel so much closer and intimate with him."
Because you’ve been trying your damnedest to just “let it happen”, but it doesn’t.
Because you’re tired of relationships getting tense, or even ending, because of your orgasm.
Because a little piece of you dies every time you fake an orgasm.
Because you’re sick of sex being something that you do for your partner instead of for yourself.
Because you don’t want to orgasm “some day”; you want to orgasm now. And you don’t want to waste another minute.
If you’ve never had an orgasm before, this is the right version of Finishing School for you.
If you’ve never had an orgasm before, this is the right version of Finishing School for you.