Finishing School

Orgasm with a partner

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“Are you close?” Is there any question that can evoke more anxiety for women in the bedroom?

We all know the feeling. You’re getting down with your partner, and you inevitably get to that awkward moment when you desperately start hoping you’re not going to be asked that question.

Because that one question forces you to make a horrible decision – to fake or not to fake.

Faking can feel so tempting. You don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. You want them to think they’ve done a good job. You feel too embarrassed to describe what you need to a partner, or too guilty to actually let them do it. Sometimes you don’t even know what you need in the first place.

But real talk – every time you fake an orgasm with a partner, a little piece of you dies inside.

Not only do you feel like you’ve missed out on being able to have an orgasm in the first place, but you also get so wrapped up in trying to convincingly fake an orgasm that you wind up enjoying sex even less. You’re more fixated on creating a good performance than on anything else.

You start feeling guilty for lying. Then you see your partner’s satisfied face, and you start feeling resentful. Why do they get to have all the fun, while you get left feeling frustrated and unsatisfied?

But what’s the alternative? Pretending you didn’t even hear the question in the first place? Just lying there quietly? Having to awkwardly explain to your partner that you’re not close? With choices like those, faking it feels like your least-terrible option…

Not anymore!

It’s time to join Finishing School: Orgasm With A Partner!

Course Overview

Finishing School: Orgasm With A Partner is a comprehensive online course for women who can orgasm on their own, but struggle to get there with a partner. It teaches you exactly what you need to do to start orgasming reliably with a partner.

Finishing School’s organized, step-by-step system will teach you:

How It Works

Finishing School is a ten week journey. The second you sign up, you’ll get access to the first week of video workshops and exercises to try, including guided practices.

I know you’re busy, so I designed Finishing School to be as streamlined and efficient as possible. I’ve included only the most powerful exercises in each week’s content.

If you want more, you can find additional tips and strategies in the Orgasm Vault – my top secret hideaway for bonus orgasm techniques.

Since Finishing School is fully online, it’s available for you to watch or listen to in your own home, on your own schedule, with complete privacy.

COURSE CURRICULUM
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Week 1: Welcome To Finishing School

You’ll start with some tips for setting yourself up for success and getting the most out of your Finishing School journey. This week includes:

  • 101 – How Finishing School: Orgasm With A Partner Works
  • 102 – How To Take Care Of Yourself During Finishing School
  • 103 – The Truth About How Orgasm With A Partner Really Works. Be prepared to have your mind blown as I go over the most common and harmful orgasm myths!
  • 104- Get In The Zone. This is a special Finishing School warm-up that you can use every time you log into the course.

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Week 2: Move Past Your Mental Blockages

You’re going to tackle you negative thoughts and beliefs about sex, and you’re going to work on staying more present and focused in the moment. This week includes:

  • 105 – Unpack Your Sexual Baggage. Learn the Mistaken Bodyguard technique for letting go of orgasm-sabotaging thoughts.
  • 106 – Get Your Head In The Game. Are you frustrated by how distracted you get during sex? Here you’ll learn how you can stay mentally focused.

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Week 3: Break Down Your Body Blockages

Every woman alive has a complicated relationship with her body. You’re going to work on feeling more comfortable in your own skin and learning how to love your body. This week includes:

  • 107 – Learn To Love Your Body Exactly How It Is. Discover The Touch And Talk Technique, a simple but powerful way to reconnect with your body.
  • 108 – Get Comfortable With Your Pussy. If reading the title of this lesson made you flinch, then this will be a powerful one for you!

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Week 4: Explore Your Orgasm

This week, you’ll learn how exploring your orgasm on your own can set you up for greater orgasmic success with your partner. This week includes:

  • 109 – Up Your Masturbation Game. In this workshop, you’ll learn how masturbation can actually help you become more orgasmic with a partner, and get a specific practice you can use to optimize your orgasmic potential.

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Week 5: Get Your Partner On Your Team

You’re going to learn how to talk to your partner about joining you for some partnered exercises. You’re also going to learn how to give feedback, and how to get comfortable with receiving. This week includes:

  • 110 – Get Your Partner Up To Speed. Learn how to talk to your partner about exploring the exercises in Finishing School with you, plus my advice for approaching your orgasm if you don’t want to talk to your partner about it beforehand.
  • 111 – Receive With Ease. If you have a hard time letting your partner focus on you, the Double Dose Of Deserving will help you get way more comfortable.
  • 112 – Give Good Feedback. Learn how giving Positively Pleasurable feedback will feel easier for you and be more constructive for your partner.
  • 113 – Setting Up Your Partnered Sessions. You’re going to learn how to you and your partner can create a positive and encouraging environment for exploring orgasm. The techniques in this lesson are just as important as the actual orgasm techniques you’re going to learn!

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Week 6: [Top Secret]

This mysterious week is the first step in learning how to orgasm with your partner! This week includes:

  • 114 – Secret lesson!
  • 115 – Secret lesson!

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Week 7: How To Orgasm From Touch

This week, you’ll learn how to orgasm from your partner’s touch. You’ll also get exercises that you can do to your partner, so Finishing School feels like the two of you working on improving your sex life, together. This week includes:

  • 116 – Treat Yourselves To Touch.
  • 117 – How To Orgasm From Touch.

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Week 8: How To Orgasm From Oral

This week, you’ll learn how to orgasm from oral sex. You’ll again get exercises you can do to your partner, so your Finishing School explorations feel like a teamwork approach. This week includes:

  • 118 – How To Orgasm From Oral.

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Week 9: Troubleshoot Common Challenges

You’re going to spend this week learning about some of the most common problems, issues, and blockages that come up when you’re first learning how to orgasm with a partner. This week includes:

  • 119 – If You’re Not Motivated. Four key tricks for staying motivated.
  • 120 – If You Keep Getting Distracted. Five techniques for staying present and focused in the moment, including the Polite Brushoff technique.
  • 121 – If You Don’t Feel Much. Four powerful ways to create more sensation during your practice sessions.

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Week 10: Orgasm During Intercourse

Finally, you’ll wrap up with learning how to orgasm during intercourse. Since this is such a popular topic, I’ve got you covered with three different lessons.

  • 122 – Get Stimulated. Learn my eleven Pleasure Boosters, to help you get the kind of stimulation you need to orgasm during intercourse.
  • 123 – Get Situated. Discover the eleven best sex positions for orgasm.
  • 124 – Get The Timing In Your Favor. Learn key techniques for making sure you both get to orgasm during sex.

I’M HERE TO HELP YOU

Have Your First Orgasm With a Partner

I’m Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom. I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

I’ve struggled with my own orgasm challenges too! I spent years knowing how to orgasm on my own, but being unable to have them with a partner. It was a huge struggle for me, but I eventually learned how to get there. Over the years, I created a step-by-step system to replicate exactly what I did.

I’ve taught thousands of women just like you how to orgasm with a partner. I am deeply honored, humbled, and awestruck by the work I get to do!

Is This For You?

This program is for women who can orgasm on their own, but haven’t been able to get there with a partner. (Important note: If you’ve never had an orgasm, or can’t reliably orgasm on your own, please check out the original version of Finishing School. You’ll learn how to orgasm both on your own and with a partner.)

As you’re reading through this page, you’re probably thinking of plenty of reasons why Finishing School won’t work for you.

All of those reasons are false.

It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship or single.
It doesn’t matter how old you are.
It doesn’t matter what your previous level of experience is.
It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation is.

I know it’s easy to come up with excuses, but there’s really only one factor that will determine whether or not Finishing School will work for you – your willingness to try.

Finishing School is only for women who are willing to put in effort.

It’s going to be a fun process, I promise! But you’re not going to have an instant orgasm the second you register. I’ll tell you exactly what to do, but you actually have to do it.

If you’re willing to give it a shot, you will learn how to orgasm.

“Less than a month later I have experienced a complete, 180 degree change! I can reach orgasm almost every time (but completely understand why and do not get discouraged when I don’t). I feel confident and empowered both by myself and with a partner. I am more intimately connected with my body and my sexuality; I enjoy exploring new techniques and new experiences on my way to orgasm.”

– ALANA H.

Course Packages

CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE!
MOST POPULAR

Self-Study

  • The entire Finishing School system. ($649 value)
    Orgasm With A Partner, to guide you through, step-by-step, having powerful and reliable orgasms with your partner. Includes audio and video lessons, plus detailed workbooks.
  • Free access to the Orgasm Vault. ($500 value)
    A library of valuable orgasm-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School. Think of Finishing School as your course syllabus, and the Orgasm Vault as your recommended reading.
  • Free access to a continuously updated Q&A library of FAQs and my responses. ($200 value)
    So you can continue improving your relationship with your orgasm with new tips and techniques.
  • Lifetime access to Finishing School and all future program updates. (Priceless)
    So you can learn on your own schedule and keep learning for life. Free access to all future program updates. (Priceless)
  • A $1,349 value!
    • 4 Monthly Payments of

    $179

    ENROLL NOW Or save $67 with a one-time payment of $649 (10% off!)
    LIMITED AVAILABILITY

    VIP

  • Everything included in Finishing School (a $1,349 value), plus…
  • 3 private 50-minute coaching sessions. ($1,497 value)
    We’ll use these personal sessions to target specific techniques and create a personalized game plan for your Finishing School success. To jumpstart our work together, you’ll fill out a pre-session questionnaire, so I can dive right in and start giving you valuable feedback right away. We’ll also talk about how to schedule the course in a way that will fit with your life, and set goals to hold you accountable. You’ll get recordings of the calls, so you can refer back to them at any time.
  • Unlimited personal email coaching. ($175 - $2,450 value)
    Includes my “With You Until The End” guarantee. I’ll be there to provide ongoing personal support and guidance until you’ve had your first orgasms on your own and with a partner. I’ve got your back!
  • $3,021 - $5,396 value!
    • One Payment Of

    $1,996

    ENROLL NOW

    What To Expect When You Purchase

    FREE ACCESS TO

    The Orgasm Vault

    As part of your purchase, you’ll also get absolutely free access to the Orgasm Vault, which is chock-full of valuable orgasm- and sex-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School. The Orgasm Vault will help you learn valuable lessons, like:

    You’ll have lifetime access to the Vault, so you can keep improving your sex life long after you’ve had your first orgasms!

    You’re Worth It

    For years, I only offered private orgasm coaching. Working together, one-on-one, for the same amount of time as it takes to complete Finishing School costs over $5,000.

    I created Finishing School because I wanted to make learning how to orgasm more affordable and accessible.

    There’s no denying that Finishing School is an investment. But making this commitment to yourself can be transformative. Simply by signing up, you send yourself the powerful message that your pleasure is important.

    You are important.

    YOU. ARE. WORTH. IT.

    The 30 Day, Risk-Free, Money-Back Guarantee

     

    If you commit yourself to the Finishing School system, you WILL orgasm.

    I know that orgasm is a sensitive topic, and that it can be easy to give up on yourself.

    But there has never been any research that shows that some women are just not capable of having an orgasm with a partner.

    Thousands of women – including many self-proclaimed “hopeless cases” – have used the Finishing School system to learn how to orgasm with their partners.

    This system works.

     

    At the same time, I know that it can be scary to take a leap of faith like this. So that’s why I’m offering a 30 day, risk-free, money-back guarantee. I can’t promise you that you’ll be wildly orgasmic in just 30 days. You’re too unique for me to put that kind of timeline on you! Truly commit yourself to Finishing School, and do all of the work. If you don’t feel any sort of change in your relationship with your body, pleasure, orgasm, or sex life, then I will refund you every single penny. All that I ask is that you show me that you’ve done the work. I don’t want you investing in a course that doesn’t feel like the right fit for you; I just don’t want you to give up on yourself. Because that’s my dream for this world; that every woman out there knows she’s capable of pleasure and orgasms, and that she deserves them.

    Finishing School been featured and reviewed in Refinery29, Glamour, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Elle, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Prevention Magazine, and more.

    Most importantly, it’s gotten rave reviews from the thousands of women who have gone through the program.

    Finishing Was Just The Beginning

    REVIEWS AND SUCCESS STORIES

    "We come to this place for so many different reasons and from so many different backgrounds. Vanessa understands and allows for each of us to do this work in our own time and at our own pace, while steadfastly supporting us in her knowledge that we are all capable of reaching orgasm and finding satisfaction in our sex lives. After our very first communication, in response to my concerns, Vanessa told me “I can promise you that your body is not broken”, and it was such a relief to hear that from the expert! For some of us, this journey is not a quick one, but Vanessa will never give up on us, and she helps us have the confidence and motivation to not give up on ourselves."

    - LEAH H.

    "I started Finishing School With A Partner because I knew that sex could be a lot better. I’ve always felt like something was missing and I felt a lot of shame asking for what I wanted. Finishing School gave me permission to take as long as I need to reach an orgasm, and to be able to ask my partner to slow down and to meet me on my level. I considered myself to be educated about female anatomy, but Vanessa explained it in a way that made me feel a lot better about needing specific kinds of stimulation, that I’m not inadequate, and that my body does exactly what it was designed to do. I am already feeling a huge difference in the way I think and approach sex with my partner. Vanessa had me trying a bunch of new methods to reach orgasm and changing things up, and varying the methods when I’m by myself has made it a lot easier to receive pleasure from my partner. There is so much to unpack in this course, I am excited to keep going. "

    - ROCHELLE P.

    "Recently I’d been feeling disconnected from my body during sex. I could get myself off easily when alone, but when having sex with a partner the stress of reaching orgasm seemed to make my body shut down. Sex was feeling less fun and more stressful. The pressure to come led me to start faking it, which gave me a lot of shame. Thank god for Finishing School! Vanessa’s class has given me a new relationship to my body and for the first time I actually have a sensual connection to my vagina. It’s been a literal pleasure getting to know this side of myself! I no longer have to fake it and my sex-related anxiety is at an all-time low. The newfound sexual connection to my body is worth the price alone but then you throw orgasms into the mix and WOW; I’m a changed woman."

    - SAVANNAH H.

    "This workshop was so much more than just learning how to orgasm. It forced me to think about my sexuality, explore my fears, and demand more for myself in the bedroom. Vanessa was responsive and supportive throughout the process. It was also empowering to learn how to get myself in the mood and mindset to engage with my body instead of relying on another person. Finally, even if I ever did gather the courage to shop for lube or a vibrator, I would not have known what to get, so I was so grateful that they came with the course (and they are both great!)."

    - SARAH S.

    "Vanessa Marin and her program are truly amazing. Finishing School helped me to understand female orgasms better, and made me feel more comfortable and accept who I am. I feel more confident and supported since taking Vanessa’s program. I have been able to orgasm with my partner and feel so much closer and intimate with him."

    - JEANNINE FRIEDRICH
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    You’re Ready For This

    Because you’ve been trying your damnedest to just “let it happen”, but it doesn’t.

    Because you’re tired of relationships getting tense, or even ending, because of your orgasm.

    Because a little piece of you dies every time you fake an orgasm.

    Because you’re sick of sex being something that you do for your partner instead of for yourself.

    Because you don’t want to orgasm “some day”; you want to orgasm now. And you don’t want to waste another minute.

    Course Packages

    CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE!
    MOST POPULAR

    Self-Study

  • The entire Finishing School system. ($649 value)
    Orgasm With A Partner, to guide you through, step-by-step, having powerful and reliable orgasms with your partner. Includes audio and video lessons, plus detailed workbooks.
  • Free access to the Orgasm Vault. ($500 value)
    A library of valuable orgasm-related tips, tricks, and resources beyond what’s covered in Finishing School. Think of Finishing School as your course syllabus, and the Orgasm Vault as your recommended reading.
  • Free access to a continuously updated Q&A library of FAQs and my responses. ($200 value)
    So you can continue improving your relationship with your orgasm with new tips and techniques.
  • Lifetime access to Finishing School and all future program updates. (Priceless)
    So you can learn on your own schedule and keep learning for life. Free access to all future program updates. (Priceless)
  • A $1,349 value!
    • 4 Monthly Payments of

    $179

    ENROLL NOW Or save $67 with a one-time payment of $649 (10% off!)
    LIMITED AVAILABILITY

    VIP

  • Everything included in Finishing School (a $1,349 value), plus…
  • 3 private 50-minute coaching sessions. ($1,497 value)
    We’ll use these personal sessions to target specific techniques and create a personalized game plan for your Finishing School success. To jumpstart our work together, you’ll fill out a pre-session questionnaire, so I can dive right in and start giving you valuable feedback right away. We’ll also talk about how to schedule the course in a way that will fit with your life, and set goals to hold you accountable. You’ll get recordings of the calls, so you can refer back to them at any time.
  • Unlimited personal email coaching. ($175 - $2,450 value)
    Includes my “With You Until The End” guarantee. I’ll be there to provide ongoing personal support and guidance until you’ve had your first orgasms on your own and with a partner. I’ve got your back!
  • $3,021 - $5,396 value!
    • One Payment Of

    $1,996

    ENROLL NOW

    What To Expect When You Purchase

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