A Couples’ Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire
And Reigniting The Spark
Sex is supposed to make you feel close and connected to your partner. But when your sex drives are mismatched, it can feel like you’re miles apart.
Having mismatched sex drives is one of the most common – and damaging – problems that couples have to face. It’s so destructive because both partners feel like they’re in the wrong.
If you’re the lower sex drive partner, you feel judged for not wanting sex more often.
If you’re the higher sex drive partner, you feel judged for wanting sex as often as you do.
You both feel defensive.
You both feel like you’re the one who is “supposed” to change.
You both feel misunderstood.
You both feel invisible to one another.
Sex starts to feel like a war between the two of you, and you start having it less and less. Even when you do have sex, it feels disconnected, dispassionate, and boring.
Sex becomes something to be dreaded instead of something to be desired.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
Instead, imagine if your sex life felt like a project that the two of you were working on together. That you were a team in revving up your sex drives, and creating a sex life that felt passionate, intimate, and satisfying to both of you.
Introducing… THE PASSION PROJECT:
A Couples’ Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark
WHAT IT IS
The Passion Project is a twelve-week online course for couples with mismatched sex drives.
Conventional advice tells you that your sex life needs to be a compromise. The partner with the lower sex drive needs to have sex when they don’t feel like it. The partner with the higher sex drive needs to go without sex when they desire it.
Conventional advice focuses on the frequency. One partner wants it once a month, and the other wants it once a week? Compromise with every other week!
But this kind of compromise ends up feeling like a lose-lose type of situation. You both continue feeling judged and misunderstood. And “compromise” sex never ends up feeling all that good for either of you. That’s because sex is not just about the numbers!
The Passion Project takes a completely different approach.
I don’t view sex drive as a personal issue. Yes, you feel desire personally, but you have sex with your partner. If you want to learn how to have a more active, exciting, and intimate sex life, you have to work on it as a couple.
Instead of sending you off to your own corners to increase or decrease your sex drives – and making you feel even more broken and misunderstood in the process – The Passion Project focuses on helping you work together to discover what you each need from each other.
Not only is it more effective to work as a team, it’s more fun too!
The Passion Project helps you focus on what really matters: working together with your partner to have high-quality sex that’s worthy of your desire.
When you have sex that feels intimate, connecting, playful, and pleasurable to both of you, and you feel seen, respected and desired by your partner, the differences in your sex drives melt away.
You’ll naturally have sex more frequently, but you won’t be as obsessed with the numbers either.
In this innovative and comprehensive online course, you’ll learn:
My ‘Five Foundations’ model of sex drive: everything you need to know about how your sex drive works.
How to feel connected to your own desire, and more alive in your own skin.
How to understand what you need from your partner, and how to communicate those needs to them clearly and confidently.
How to talk about sex without it turning into yet another fight.
How to make the time and space in your busy lives for the sex that you want to have.
How to connect with each other in ways you never even dreamed possible.
When you’re not having sex, your relationship feels stagnant and sluggish. You just don’t feel as connected to each other when touch and intimacy aren’t a regular part of your relationship.
The Passion Project will help you bring your relationship back to life.
When my fiancé first approached me about this program my initial reaction was not very positive. I instantly felt that he was telling me that I was not fulfilling his needs and that our relationship was in jeopardy.
This program was actually really helpful and gave us a better understanding of what our ‘drivers’ were and what were things that ‘put us in reverse.’ We were able to understand our differences in drives and identify some of the ways we could go about working around the things that put us ‘in reverse’.
It even helped me put into words the things I was not able to explain to my fiancé previously, about what had been making me uninterested in sex.
For anyone who is willing to work on their relationship, whether it is be because things have gotten really bad, or whether it is precautionary, I highly recommend giving the program a shot. You never know what you may find out about each other, or yourself.
Richelle R.
Completing the material has helped each of us open up and share things about each other that we’ve never considered; and as a result, we have become a good bit closer too!
Among the many other benefits, I feel as if we both have a deeper understanding for each other and conflicts have greatly diminished. Our sex drives are very different and the project has helped us understand why this is; it gave us the tools to work together on this aspect of our relationship.
I know there are those who are hesitant about signing up for the course, but you’re not alone. I mulled over it for weeks before mentioning it to my fiancé. At the end of the day, it’s an investment for your relationship; one that will leave a welcome impression for years to come. And I for one, can say that is reason enough.
Rudy L.
HOW IT WORKS
The Passion Project is delivered in a series of audio workshops, spread out over twelve weeks.
The course is based on my Five Foundations model of sex drive.
You’ll uncover the specific dynamics that are sabotaging your sex life, and learn how you can work together as a couple to take back control.
Every other week, you’ll have a “date” with your partner where you’ll focus on one of the foundations together. You’ll listen to the workshops, and pick specific assignments to try out during the week, on your own and together as a couple.
If you can’t participate during a particular week, it’s no problem! Since everything is pre-recorded, you can listen whenever you have the chance. You’ll also have lifetime access to the course, so there’s no rush to finish. This course is designed to work with your schedule.
Here’s what’s covered, week by week:
Module 1:
Introducing The Five Foundations Of Sex Drive
You’ll start off nice and easy, with an introduction to how The Passion Project works.
You’ll cover:
What to expect from the course.
How to make the best use of your time.
The truth about how your sex drive actually works. (Believe me, there will be lots of surprises here!)
How to find the motivation to work on your sex life.
This is where you’ll learn the first of the Five Foundations, which relates to your body.
In this module, you’ll learn:
The physical variables that may be affecting your sex life, including medications and medical conditions.
Simple, practical guidelines for how to take better care of your body.
The specific action steps you need to take to liberate your libido.
Module 2:
The Physical Foundation
Module 3:
The Mental Foundation
Your mental state can play a huge role in your desire for sex and your enjoyment of it.
You’ll learn:
How to make sex something you think about on a more regular basis.
How to turn yourself on.
How to stop getting so distracted during sex.
One extremely simple step you can take that can completely transform how you and your partner initiate sex.
Sex is obviously a very emotional topic for most people! Some people need to feel connected in order to have sex, while other people need to have sex in order to feel connected. In this module, you’ll learn how to balance those different needs.
You’ll also learn:
How to decrease your stress levels.
How to clear out your emotional blockages, get rid of shame and embarrassment, and develop a healthier relationship with sex.
How to feel more connected and present during sex.
Module 4:
The Emotional Foundation
Module 5:
The Relational Foundation
In this module, you’ll focus on nurturing your relationship inside and outside of the bedroom.
You’ll learn:
How to talk about sex with your partner.
How to learn what you need from each other in order to feel open to and interested in intimacy.
How to master sexual initiation.
In your final module, you’ll really turn up the heat! You’ll learn how to banish boredom from your bedroom, and have sex that feels way more passionate and exciting.
You’ll learn:
How to feel sexier on a daily basis.
How to set the mood with each other, without feeling cheesy or inauthentic.
How to allow yourself to receive with ease.
Specific ideas for new things you and your partner can try in the bedroom, plus concrete frameworks for how to explore.
Module 6:
The Sensual Foundation
Module 1:
Introducing The Five Foundations Of Sex Drive
You’ll start off nice and easy, with an introduction to how The Passion Project works. You’ll cover:
What to expect from the course.
How to make the best use of your time.
The truth about how your sex drive actually works. (Believe me, there will be lots of surprises here!)
How to find the motivation to work on your sex life.
Module 2:
The Physical Foundation
This is where you’ll learn the first of the Five Foundations, which relates to your physical body. In this module, you’ll learn:
The physical variables that may be affecting your sex life, including medications and medical conditions.
Simple, practical guidelines for how to take better care of your body.
The specific action steps you need to take to liberate your libido.
Module 3:
The Mental Foundation
Your mental state can play a huge role in your desire for sex and your enjoyment of it. You’ll learn:
How to make sex something you think about on a more regular basis.
How to turn yourself on.
How to stop getting so distracted during sex.
One extremely simple step you can take that can completely transform how you and your partner initiate sex.
Module 4:
The Emotional Foundation
Sex is obviously a very emotional topic for most people! Some people need to feel connected in order to have sex, while other people need to have sex in order to feel connected. In this module, you’ll learn how to balance those different needs. You’ll also learn:
How to decrease your stress levels.
How to clear out your emotional blockages, get rid of shame and embarrassment, and develop a healthier relationship with sex.
How to feel more connected and present during sex.
Module 5:
The Relational Foundation
In this module, you’ll focus on nurturing your relationship inside and outside of the bedroom. You’ll learn:
How to talk about sex with your partner.
How to learn what you need from each other in order to feel open to and interested in intimacy.
How to master sexual initiation.
Module 6:
The Sensual Foundation
In your final module, you’ll really turn up the heat! You’ll learn how to banish boredom from your bedroom, and have sex that feels way more passionate and exciting. You’ll learn:
How to feel sexier on a daily basis.
How to set the mood with each other, without feeling cheesy or inauthentic.
How to allow yourself to receive with ease.
Specific ideas for new things you and your partner can try in the bedroom, plus concrete frameworks for how to explore.
From “not tonight, honey…” to “honey, I can’t wait for tonight!”
ABOUT YOUR INSTRUCTOR
Hi there! I’m Vanessa Marin!
I’m a sex therapist, coach, and writer.
I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’ve been featured by The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, CNN, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, and many more.
Most importantly, I’m a wife, and I’ve been with my partner for over a decade. I know all about the struggles of keeping the passion alive in a long-term relationship. My relationship has been my best teacher, and I feel deeply honored to share the lessons I’ve learned (and continue to learn!) with other couples.
My style is warm, friendly, professional, and soothing. My first goal is to help set you at ease. I want you to understand that all couples struggle with their sex lives (myself included!), so you’re definitely not alone.
My second goal is to help you recognize that it’s absolutely possible to rediscover your sex drive, rediscover your spark, and reconnect with your partner in a way that feels exciting and satisfying for both of you. I’ve helped hundreds of couples bring their dead bedrooms back to life, and I know it’s possible for you too.
IS THE PASSION PROJECT FOR YOU?
The Passion Project is for couples who have been struggling with mismatched sex drives, and are ready to bring the life back into their sex life.
The Passion Project is for you if:
You and your partner aren’t on the same page about how often to have sex, what kind of sex to have, or how to talk about your sex life.
You’ve tried to talk about your sex life with your partner hundreds of times. It feels like you’re talking in circles, and never actually getting anywhere.
Your entire relationship feels tainted. The problems you’re having in the bedroom seem to poison your relationship outside of the bedroom.
You feel more like friends or roommates than lovers, and the wall between the two of you is growing more and more every day.
You feel like you’re walking on eggshells, afraid to even look at each other in the wrong way.
Sex feels like work instead of fun.
The sex you do have feels one-sided. Neither one of you is getting what you want or need.
You realize this is more than just about sex. You miss feeling close to your partner.
These are issues that practically all couples experience, so The Passion Project does not discriminate. It’s suitable for couples of all ages, races, genders, sexual orientations, and arrangements.
CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE
There are two ways to get the Passion Project:
The Essential Package
This is the most cost-effective way of accessing The Passion Project material and bonuses.
You get:
The entire Passion Project system: twelve weeks, six modules of audio workshops, and six workbooks to guide you through reconnecting with your desire and with each other.
Lifetime access to The Passion Project. You can go through the course on your own schedule, and repeat the content whenever you’re going through a slump.
Free access to any and all future upgrades, so you can continue improving your your sex life with new tips and techniques.
The VIP Package
A special fast-track option for couples who are ready to go all in.
This package is for you if you want to jumpstart your Passion Project adventure and get personal support and accountability for following through. I’ll work with you individually and as a couple to help you understand the unique dynamics of your situation, plow through your blockages, and reconnect with each other in ways you never even dreamed possible.
The VIP package is for you if you don’t want your sex life to get put on the back-burner yet again. You’re ready to make powerful and lasting change right now.
You get:
Everything included in the Essential package.
2x 50-minute individual sessions, held over phone or video chat. In advance, you’ll fill out a pre-session questionnaire, so I can dive in and start giving you personalized feedback from the very first minute of the session. We’ll target specific techniques that will help you take the maximum advantage of The Passion Project. We’ll also set goals and talk about what you need to stay motivated. You’ll get a recording of the call, so you can refer back to it at anytime. ($700 value)
1x 80-minute couples session. I’ll take everything I learned from your individual sessions, and custom tailor a joint session for the two of you. We’ll talk about what you need from each other, how to best communicate with each other, and how to work together as a team to bring your sex life back to life. ($500 value)
WHAT IT COSTS
Working together one-on-one to learn all of the techniques in The Passion Project costs many thousands of dollars.
I created The Passion Project – and two different ways of accessing it – because I wanted to make my Five Foundations system more affordable and accessible.
The Passion Project works out to just a fraction of what you’d spend working with me one-on-one. The Essential package costs just a little more than a single private coaching session.
There’s no denying that The Passion Project is an investment. But why shouldn’t you make an investment in the one thing that matters most in life – feeling truly connected to the person you love the most in the world?
We have funny relationships with money, and we’re taught to prioritize the wrong things.
How much money do you spend on your phone? Your clothes? Your car?
We balk at the idea of investing in our relationships, but is having the latest iPhone or a new pair of shoes really going to make you as happy as that sly little look you and your partner exchange after you’ve just had toe-curling, heart-opening, mind-blowing, soul-satisfying sex?
Life is too short and too precious to let your sex life wither away.
Your relationship, your partner, and your sex life are worth investing in.
The Passion Project has been much more than we expected. It has helped the overall communication in our relationship by working through the questions that go along with the content. These questions have brought up topics that we before would not be willing or able to talk about without getting angry or frustrated. We now realize how important they were to fixing the issues that we were experiencing. So much of the information helped us realize that our issues are normal and something that many other couples are experiencing or have experienced. We’re very happy that we signed up for the course!
Jessica O. and Matthew O.- The most cost-effective way of accessing The Passion Project material and bonuses.
$849
The entire Passion Project system: 12-week program, including six modules of audio workshops, and six workbooks to guide you through reconnecting with your desire and with each other.
Lifetime access to The Passion Project. You can go through the course on your own schedule, and repeat the content whenever you’re going through a slump.
Free access to any and all future upgrades, so you can continue improving your your sex life with new tips and techniques.
- You don’t want your sex life to get put on the back-burner yet again. You’re ready to make powerful and lasting change right now.
$1,799
Everything included in the Essential package. ($849 value)
2x 50-minute individual sessions, held over phone or video chat. We’ll target specific techniques that will help you take the maximum advantage of The Passion Project. We’ll also set goals and talk about what you need to stay motivated. ($700 value)
1x 80-minute couples session. Together, we’ll talk about what you need from each other, how to best communicate with each other, and how to work together as a team to bring your sex life back to life. ($500 value)
MY PROMISE TO YOU
When you purchase The Passion Project, you get:
Lifetime access to the course.
Free access to all future upgrades and updates.
You may be wondering about a money-back guarantee. I want to be clear that I don’t offer one. Here’s why: I know that The Passion Project will teach you the tools that you need to keep your sex life vibrant and satisfying for life. But I also know that every couple is on a different timeline. Some couples are ready to go all-in on the program, and will notice results immediately. Other couples may need a bit of time to get used to some of the work you’re going to be doing together.
I am fully transparent about the fact that building a healthy and happy sex life is a process. I don’t want you to put pressure on your relationship to completely transform before a 14-day refund window passes. If you feel rushed to change, that will guarantee that you won’t change.
Instead, you’ll have my guarantees of lifetime access and future upgrades to help you keep improving for life.
I know it takes a leap of faith to start a journey like this, but I promise you, once you’ve experienced what it’s like to reconnect in the bedroom, it will all be worth it.
If you’re genuinely looking to break down the stumbling blocks to a better sex life with your partner, then this is the best place for you to be. The Passion Project allowed my husband and I to each write down the answers to guided questions in our space at a time when we could give them the attention they deserve. Just sharing our answers with one another was a step towards creating an intimacy we hadn’t had since before we were married.
Vanessa’s questions were non-threatening and created a safe and comfortable way for us to talk about the lack of passion in our marriage. She made our issue sound normal – that we’re not the only couple suffering from a sexual disconnect. We discovered we both missed our intimate connection.
The Passion Project is broken down into five separate modules. Each module has specific projects from which you and your partner can choose (separately or together). For me, this was the best part of each module. I didn’t feel as if I had to ‘eat the whole elephant at once.’ I was able to take small bites which were less threatening. We could do each project, module and the class on our schedule.
Now, my husband and I make sexual contact a priority, and we are not embarrassed to discuss how we can continue to improve on the progress we made with Vanessa’s course. And, because we have lifetime access and all the workbooks it is easy to revisit a particular module or project when needed.
The Passion Project was worth every bit of my investment of time and resources.
Michele S.Michele and I had no sex life to speak of when she signed us up for The Passion Project. Michele said, ‘I’m worried about our sex life’ and I remember the sigh and my gut response being, ‘You picked a topic I’m already insecure about.’ My baggage about sex goes back, long before my current wife was in my life. But, it was important to her that I told her I try. Once I gave up the avoidance mechanism I had employed, The Passion Project did the rest. I learned to forgive myself. As we worked through each module we were forced to communicate with one another and clear the air in the best way possible. I can honestly say that I am not insecure to discuss sex with my wife any longer.
Jesse S.WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE SAYING
Here’s what my clients have said about my approach to working with mismatched sex drives:
“Vanessa saved our marriage. Sex had been a problem for us for years, and every time we tried to talk about it, we’d get into a massive fight. The word ‘divorce’ was thrown around more than a few times. Vanessa helped us realize how badly we had miscommunicated about our needs. She patiently guided us through a series of incredibly helpful exercises, and helped us get back on the same page.”
- Dave and Ashley S.“What Vanessa has done for us is just amazing. She gave us extremely in-depth, very clear, and realistic exercises that we could easily incorporate into our sex life. She has a true talent for speaking really naturally and nicely about things that people usually find awkward or difficult.”
- Michelle D. and Paige R.“I never dreamed that the two of us could have so much fun with sex. It’s like we are rediscovering each other for the first time, and everything feels new again. We have been having the best sex of our lives thanks to you!”
- Robin T. and Damien H.“It was challenging to even think about exploring these issues, but knowing that you’re an expert to help makes it much easier. It was a big investment for me, but I need to continue investing in myself at this point in my life. I now feel confident that I can get unstuck and take control over an area that I’m typically so passive in.”
- Jenna W.“This is the best thing we have ever done for our relationship.”
- Ava and Jake N.WHAT HAPPENS NEXT
As soon as you click the “Enroll Now” button, you’ll be led through the checkout process.
Your payment will be processed by Stripe, PayPal, or Apple Pay (depending on the payment method you choose). Your credit card statement will read “One Oh, Inc” for your privacy. (No mention of “sex therapy” on your statement!)
Immediately after purchase, you’ll get a welcome email with payment confirmation.
Within 24 hours, you’ll get an email with the first module of The Passion Project. Every other week after that, you’ll get an email with the next five modules of the course. (But remember, you’re free to take the course on your own schedule, so there’s no need to rush. You’ll have lifetime access to the material.)
Your information will be kept strictly confidential, and will never be shared.
I’VE GOT YOUR BACK
I want you to feel supported every step of the way, including during the registration process. If you have any questions about the course, or if you just need to know that there’s an actual human behind this website (there is! It’s me!), don’t hesitate to use my contact form below to get in touch!
- The most cost-effective way of accessing The Passion Project material and bonuses.
$849
The entire Passion Project system: 12-week program, including six modules of audio workshops, and six workbooks to guide you through reconnecting with your desire and with each other.
Lifetime access to The Passion Project. You can go through the course on your own schedule, and repeat the content whenever you’re going through a slump.
Free access to any and all future upgrades, so you can continue improving your your sex life with new tips and techniques.
- You don’t want your sex life to get put on the back-burner yet again. You’re ready to make powerful and lasting change right now.
$1,799
Everything included in the Essential package. ($849 value)
2x 50-minute individual sessions, held over phone or video chat. We’ll target specific techniques that will help you take the maximum advantage of The Passion Project. We’ll also set goals and talk about what you need to stay motivated. ($700 value)
1x 80-minute couples session. Together, we’ll talk about what you need from each other, how to best communicate with each other, and how to work together as a team to bring your sex life back to life. ($500 value)
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