If you’re a survivor of sexual abuse, you’re all too familiar with the lasting impacts of your abuse.

You know what it’s like to feel your heart racing when your partner tries to touch you. You know what it’s like to feel disconnected from your body and your sexuality. You know what it’s like to worry that you’re “damaged goods.”

I know how easy it is to fear that you’ll never be able to have a “normal” sex life, but after working with hundreds of sexual abuse survivors in my sex therapy practice, I can tell you without a doubt that change is possible.

And now, I’m making it even easier to access the tools you need to start your transformation.


A Survivor’s Guide To

Reclaiming Your Sex Life After Abuse

This online course is designed to help you take back control of your own sex life and learn how to experience safety, joy, connection, and pleasure.

Why You Deserve This

You deserve to have a healthy, happy sex life.

So many sexual abuse survivors never get support in their healing process, especially when it comes to sex. On top of having to deal with the abuse itself, you may have to endure a feeling of being lost and not knowing how to move forward. You may not even have made the connection between your current struggles with your sex life and your past abuse.

Even survivors who do go to therapy to process their abuse frequently report that they never learned concrete tips for making sex feel safe and enjoyable again. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I’ve been in psychotherapy for years, but my therapist and I have never really talked about sex before.”

My mission has always been to help women feel empowered when it comes to their sex lives. In my work with sexual abuse survivors, I’ve focused on developing specific strategies for reconnecting with your body, understanding your needs, communicating with your partner, and rekindling your desire.

I want to share all of those tips, techniques, exercises, and game plans with you. Because, again, you deserve to have an amazing sex life. Sexual abuse can mangle your self esteem, but I want you to learn that you’re still a worthy, whole, beautiful, human being.

Your sexual abuse is a part of your history, but it does not dictate your future.

“I thank you so much for this course. It truly opened my eyes to a lot of things I never knew before, and connections I had never made before. I learned so many tools and resources. I’m kinder to myself, gentler with myself. There’s still sadness, of course, but I feel empowered now too. Day by day, the feelings of hope and empowerment grows stronger than the feelings of sadness.”  

- K.L.

Who This Is For

Oftentimes, women will downplay their abuse, saying things like, “it wasn’t that bad”, or “other women have had it worse than I have.” You may even feel yourself downplaying your abuse as you read over this page. Please resist that urge. Any violation of your sexual boundaries is a violation, plain and simple. This course will give you the resources and support you deserve.

This course is for you if you’ve ever:

Freaked out in the middle of being intimate with someone.

Felt fearful of sex, or even lost interest in sex entirely.

Been caught off guard, and surprised by the intensity of your reaction.

Felt like you dissociated during sex, like your mind and your body were in separate places.

Had a hard time trusting yourself to make good decisions about your sex life.

Wondered why sex is still so scary for you, even though you’re with a partner you love and trust.

The course is appropriate for all women who have survived sexual abuse, regardless of your age, relationship status or your sexual orientation.

It’s important to me to encourage survivors to get as much support as necessary, so I highly recommend that you also seek other support in the form of psychotherapy, a support group, or trusted family and friends, especially if you have been recently abused. This course specifically focuses on helping you rebuild your sex life, but there are other layers of healing that may need to be addressed first.

What’s Included

Here’s the course breakdown:

How To Take This Course

I share tips for making your participation in the course itself feel as safe as possible.

The Impacts Of Sexual Abuse

A lot of women don’t make the connections between certain patterns that show up in their sex lives and the abuse that they’ve experienced, so I go over some of the most common effects.

Improve Your Relationship With Sex

I’ll show you exactly how to start making sex feel safe and pleasurable again. We’ll go over strategies for talking to your partner, getting more comfortable knowing when to say “yes” and “no”, and coming up with a trigger plan.

Handle Triggers In The Moment

I’ll help you learn how to manage those times where you feel emotional or overwhelmed.

The Survivor’s Workbook

This workbook will help you personalize all of the strategies in the course to suit your particular situation. It also serves as a handy summary version of the most important information from the course.

How To Be A Great Partner To A Sexual Abuse Survivor

This handout is designed to be shared with your partner, to help them understand what it’s like to be a survivor of sexual abuse. If you’ve ever struggled to describe your experience to a partner, this handout will be a lifesaver.

The course is broken into mini lessons, so it never feels overwhelming. It’s fully online, so you can participate on your own schedule, at your own pace, in the privacy of your own home.

You’ll get exercises and techniques that you can get started on right away, and tools that will be with you for an entire lifetime.

“In my sexual past, I found there were always situations I didn’t like, didn’t feel comfortable in and didn’t speak up about!  It didn’t make sense to me, confident outspoken woman I NORMALLY am.  It also didn’t make sense to my partners.  

After these exercises, I have been able to implement life-changing steps that have raised my sexual confidence and pleasure.  Until now, I didn’t realise my natural response with sex was to dissociate, nor was I aware of the simple triggers that threw me off, and shut me down, every time. Now I have the skills and the techniques to move forward from my past, and create the sex life that has been, until now, out of my control and reach.”

- H.R.

Your Investment In Yourself

A single coaching session with me costs between $449 and $549. I wanted to support survivors by making this course much more accessible. Its currently the most affordable way of accessing my services. 

Stand-Alone Guide

$99One-time payment
  • 6 modules packed with exercises to help you reclaim ownership of your sex life and discover what you truly want.
  • 34-page workbook full of questions to help you go even deeper. Plus cheat-sheets for remembering the most important tips and techniques.
  • 20-page handout you can give directly to your partner, for those times you just can’t explain in your own words.
  • Lifetime access to the Survivor’s Guide and future program updates.

VIP Package

$369One-time payment
  • 6 modules packed with exercises to help you reclaim ownership of your sex life and discover what you truly want.
  • 34-page workbook full of questions to help you go even deeper. Plus cheat-sheets for remembering the most important tips and techniques.
  • 20-page handout you can give directly to your partner, for those times you just can’t explain in your own words.
  • Lifetime access to the Survivor’s Guide and future program updates.
  • 2 private email coaching sessions (valued at $300), so you can get personal support and accountability. Because you shouldn’t have to do this on your own.

What Happens Next?

Right after purchase, you’ll get a welcome email with payment confirmation and access information for the course. You’ll get immediate access to the entire course.

Your transaction will be securely processed by Stripe, PayPal or Apple Pay (depending on your choice of payment method), and your transaction will appear as “One Oh Inc” on your statement for your privacy.

Your information will be kept strictly confidential, and will never be shared.

“I recently purchased your course for sexual abuse survivors, and even though I’m going through it slowly, it has already been so helpful. Thank you for specializing in this area. It’s challenging to even start to explore these issues, but knowing that you have experience working with survivors makes it much easier.

I’m at a point in my life where I want to get past the fears, insecurities, and inhibitions, and fully embrace my sexuality and sex life with my partner. I am looking forward to getting unstuck and taking control. I am looking forward to moving past my past and into a much more fulfilling future.

- C.C.

You’re Ready

It’s time to reconnect with your body and treat it with love and respect. It’s time to start feeling the desire for and enjoyment of sex. It’s time to experience true intimacy with yourself and your partner.

It’s OK to feel nervous or apprehensive, but deep down inside, I think you also know that you’re ready to heal.

I’m so excited for you to get started on your journey!

Hi there! I'm Vanessa Marin.

I’ve been featured by The New York Times, CNN, Rolling Stone, GQ, Esquire, Maxim, Buzzfeed, Lifehacker, Men’s Fitness, and many more.

I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#78931).


A note to male sexual abuse survivors

Being a male sexual abuse survivor can be particularly challenging because sexual abuse against males doesn’t get talked about nearly enough. Even though millions of men are sexual abuse survivors, most men feel alone in their abuse. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with these added challenges.

I work with male sexual abuse survivors in my practice. When I set out to create an online program for survivors, I asked both my male and female clients what they would want from a course like this. My original idea was to create a program that was gender neutral. Almost all of my clients mentioned that they preferred a course specifically targeted to their identified gender.

With that feedback in mind, I created a female-oriented Survivor’s Guide. I have plans in the works for a male-oriented Survivor’s Guide, but it’s not available yet.

If you’re a survivors of sexual abuse and you identify as male, please feel free to reach out so we can discuss resources and options for you.