When you’re having a problem with your sex life, it can be really hard to know where to get help.
You love your friends, but you just can’t talk to them about the tricky sex and relationship stuff. Sometimes it feels too hard to even get the words out.
And going to an office? No matter how big of a city or town you live in, it still feels awfully small when it comes to something like this. You worry about someone recognizing your car in the parking lot, or what if you bump into someone you know?
Or maybe your town really is small, and there just aren’t any sex therapists nearby.
You’re so deep into your situation that you can’t see things clearly anymore. You need someone who’s objective, who doesn’t know you. Someone who can give you concrete steps to take and actions that lead to change. Someone who can help you hold yourself accountable.
You want a game plan.
I specialize in short term, action- and results-oriented coaching. I work with clients over email, phone, or video chat. We’ll work together to identify what’s getting in the way of you having the sex life of your dreams, and kickstart your love life with proven strategies I’ve developed and tested.
I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.
I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!
Email coaching sex therapy is best for you if:
Phone or Video coaching sex therapy is best for you if:
"Just being able to have an honest conversation was even more therapeutic than I ever thought it could be. Saying the words out loud… getting a compassionate response… hearing that nothing is wrong with me, and that I’m normal. The whole experience was the breath of fresh air I direly needed."
"I was excited to get your detailed reply with tons of suggestions. It was much more than I was expecting. I am confident that by trying these items, one of more of them will work for us. Thank you so much!"
"The session was so much fun! I was incredibly anxious before the session, and couldn’t imagine I would even be able to relax, much less have fun. Vanessa set me at ease right away and even had me laughing just a few minutes in. I learned so much from this mind-blowing session."
Evidently, the class taught me a lot—because after taking it, I started orgasming from someone else’s touch for the first time.
"I can’t explain how much I got out of the session. I’ve never talked about sex with anyone before, but I finally got to the point where I knew I had to take action. For the first time in my life, I feel like I have a better understanding of myself and my needs. I have concrete ideas for how to move forward. My anxiety has all but disappeared."