Personal Coaching

When you’re having a problem with your sex life, it can be really hard to know where to get help.

You love your friends, but you just can’t talk to them about the tricky sex and relationship stuff. Sometimes it feels too hard to even get the words out.

And going to an office? No matter how big of a city or town you live in, it still feels awfully small when it comes to something like this. You worry about someone recognizing your car in the parking lot, or what if you bump into someone you know?

Or maybe your town really is small, and there just aren’t any sex therapists nearby.

You’re so deep into your situation that you can’t see things clearly anymore. You need someone who’s objective, who doesn’t know you. Someone who can give you concrete steps to take and actions that lead to change. Someone who can help you hold yourself accountable.

You want a game plan.

The Solution? Personal Coaching

I specialize in short term, action- and results-oriented coaching. I work with clients over email, phone, or video chat. We’ll work together to identify what’s getting in the way of you having the sex life of your dreams, and kickstart your love life with proven strategies I’ve developed and tested.


I’m Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!

There’s nothing I haven’t heard before. (No, really!) Here are just some of the ways I can help:

  • Figure out how much sex feels healthy for your relationship.
  • Experience more pleasure during sex.
  • Have your first orgasm by yourself or with a partner.
  • Learn how to communicate about sex effectively, so you can stop having pointless, frustrating fights.
  • Come up with accessible ways to bring the spark back into your relationship and spice things up in the bedroom.
  • Learn to prioritize intimacy & connection, even when life feels overwhelmingly busy.
  • Eliminate performance anxiety.
  • Figure out if you and your partner are truly compatible.
  • Discover what works and what doesn’t work for you, and how to ask for what you want.
  • Feel more confident in your own skin, so you can feel present and alive during sex.
  • Have more fun with your sex life!

Choose Your Own Adventure

Email Coaching

Email coaching sex therapy is best for you if:

  • You have clear questions that need answers or a situation you’d like advice about.
  • You’re good at organizing your thoughts in writing.
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Phone or Video Coaching

Phone or Video coaching sex therapy is best for you if:

  • You have a more complex or ongoing issue that requires thorough and comprehensive support.
  • You want to be able to enjoy sessions from the comfort and privacy of your own home.
  • You want concrete action items, specific steps and detailed exercises.
Currently Not Accepting New Clients

Client Testimonials


Evidently, the class taught me a lot—because after taking it, I started orgasming from someone else’s touch for the first time.


"I can’t explain how much I got out of the session. I’ve never talked about sex with anyone before, but I finally got to the point where I knew I had to take action. For the first time in my life, I feel like I have a better understanding of myself and my needs. I have concrete ideas for how to move forward. My anxiety has all but disappeared."