With sexual abuse and harassment being covered so frequently in the media over these last few months, it seemed like a good time to talk…Read More
What do you really want when it comes to your sex life?
Sex can be such a vulnerable topic that not many people take the time to actually think about what they want in detail.
You might think, “I want to have sex more often” or “I want to stop fighting about our sex life”. Or even simply, “I want things to be different.”
But what does that really mean to you? Why do you want it? What impact would that have on you?
If you want your sex life to change, you have to start with getting a clearer picture of exactly what you want.Read More
Do you believe that you don’t have control over your sex drive? Or that you should spontaneously desire sex?
If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I spend a lot of time talking about common sex myths. There’s so much misinformation out there which leads to unrealistic expectations and disappointment.
I love busting up these myths and filling you in on the truth about sex.
Today I’m continuing the libido theme of the last few weeks, and sharing the six main sex drive myths that are ruining your sex life.Read More
I was recently asked by the New York Times to write about my experiences as a sex therapist.
I’ve been interviewed by the Times before, but getting to write my own piece for them has been one of the highlights of my career.
My first article tackles one of the most common issues I come across in my work with couples – how to navigate social media boundaries in your relationship.Read More
Your desire has two modes – “Drive” and “Reverse”. When you’re in Drive, you want sex. When you’re in Reverse, you don’t want sex. You need to know what puts you in Drive and what puts you in Reverse.Read More
When you hear the words “sex drive,” “libido,” or “desire,” you probably just think of one thing – being in the mood for sex.
But it’s a bit more complex than that.
There are actually two completely different sex drive types.
If you want to have an active and exciting sex life – without constantly fighting about sex with your partner – it’s crucial that you each understand which type you are.Read More
Be honest: you’re not very comfortable initiating sex, are you? In the not-too-distant past, you may have initiated sex by clumsily groping at your partner like a horny…Read More
The phrase “scheduled sex” evokes dread for most couples. We have the idea that sex is always supposed to be spontaneous, so making the decision…Read More
If you’re like most people, your relationship with your body isn’t so great. You may have parts of your body that you’re ashamed of. Parts that make you cringe when you get a glimpse of them in the mirror. Parts that you hate so much that you actively avoid being near mirrors. Your body might feel stubborn, stuck, heavy, stagnant, detached, or alien. Sometimes it can even feel like your body is your enemy, or is actively working against you.
Let me share a personal story that I don’t talk about very often…Read More