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If You Have To Schedule Sex, Does It Mean Your Relationship Is Doomed?

Today I’m answering one of the most controversial and polarizing questions I get asked these days: should you schedule sex?

The thought of scheduling sex brings up a lot of dread for couples. Many couples believe that if they’re not having spontaneous sex, something must be wrong with their relationship, or with their sexual chemistry or compatibility.

For many people, making the decision to schedule sex feels like an admission that your sex life is officially dead.

But is that the truth?

If You Usually Get A “No”, Try Initiating Sex In This Way

Is it possible for just one word to make a huge impact on your sex life?

Today I’m here to show you that it is. This tip is plucked straight out of The Passion Project. It was such a popular technique and got so much great feedback when I ran the course in November and February, so I decided to share it with you.

Here’s why changing this one word can be so powerful…

Think You Know What Your Partner Wants? You Might Be Wrong

I’m going to spend this entire month talking about how to balance mismatched sex drives in a relationship.

If it feels like you and your partner are on totally different pages about when to have sex, you’re going to want to check back here every week for more tips! Or sign up for my mailing list to get the new posts emailed directly to you a few days before they get published here!

This month, I want to share with you five stories from five couples who have gone through my online course for overcoming mismatched sex drives: The Passion Project: A Couples Blueprint To Rediscovering Desire And Reigniting The Spark.

I thought it would be interesting to share the most powerful lessons these real couples learned from working with their mismatched sex drives.

Feel Self-Conscious Of Your Body During Sex? This One Sentence Can Change EVERYTHING For You

The way you feel about your body has been proven to dramatically affect your experience of sex. If you feel better about your body, you’re much more likely to feel more pleasure during sex, have orgasms, feel present in the moment and connected to your partner, and report a better overall experience.

Here’s how you can use one sentence to feel better about your body during sex.

Feel Better About Your Body By Feeling Better About Other People’s Bodies

How you think about and talk about other people’s bodies has a surprisingly big effect on how you feel about your own.

Today I have a couple of tools to help you change your relationship with your body by changing your relationship with other people’s bodies.

The first trick is to…

How To Use The Five-To-One Rule To Conquer Negative Thoughts About Your Body

Last week I talked about the ways you treat your body. Today, I want to talk about the ways you talk to your body.

The sad truth is that most of us talk to our bodies in deeply cruel, insulting, and unloving ways.

We can go to those negative places so quickly too. It almost feels automatic or instinctual.

These negative judgments typically come from the cultures we grow up in. You’ve been socialized your entire life to believe that your body should look a certain way.

What’s deemed “desirable” – or even “acceptable” – by societal standards is usually incredibly narrow and specific.

Today, I want to share with you a little trick that I call the Five-To-One Rule.

5 Minutes To Feeling Confident In Your Own Skin

This month, I’m going to help you improve your body confidence.

Feeling comfortable and in-tune with your body is essential to having the sex life you crave. So this month you’re going to work on accepting your body, learning to reconnect with it (even when you don’t feel like it), and establishing a loving and positive relationship with the frame that carries you through life.

You’re Lying To Yourself If You Think You’re Too Busy

When I ask the couples I work with to tell me what gets in the way of them having a better sex life, they almost always say, “We’re just so busy.”

I call BS.

Because here’s the thing: When you use the excuse “I’m too busy”, what you’re really telling your partner is, “The other things I chose to do today were more important to me than spending quality time with you.” The truth is that you are not too busy for daily connection with your partner.

If You’ve Ever Said, “Oh No, I Could NEVER Do That”, Read This

“Oh no,” she responded, a shudder passing through her body, “I could NEVER do that.”

“Why?” I asked.

This was from a session that I had with a couple a few weeks ago. They had been together for several years, and they both felt like their sex life had gotten stale and boring.