What is Sex Therapy?
When I tell people what I do for a living, the same questions come up over and over again:
“What the heck is sex therapy?”
“Why would the average person want to do sex therapy?”
“How can you actually help people with their sex lives?”
I love my job, but I know that the idea of sex therapy can sound pretty weird, especially if you’ve never heard of it before!
Put simply, sex therapy helps you have a happy and healthy sex life.
I can help you with an incredibly diverse array of issues, including:
- You and your partner are looking to spice up your sex life.
- You or your partner feel disconnected during sex. It feels like one or both of you is simply not present.
- You want to work through sexual abuse or trauma.
- You want to talk about a past sexual relationship or experience and focus on ways to improve in the future.
- You and your partner have mismatched sex drives.
- You are exploring different definitions of queer.
- You are having difficulty expressing or feeling comfortable with a sexual desire, fantasy, or fetish.
- You want to feel more comfortable in your own skin. You want to be able to fully inhabit your sexuality.
- You want to increase your sex drive.
- You want support in coming to terms with your sexual identity.
- You are transitioning from your biological gender to your identified gender, or with a partner who is transitioning.
- You are having difficulty with, or are interested in, open relationships or polyamorous relationships.
- You feel curious about your sexuality.
Potential benefits of sex therapy include:
- An ability to talk about sex with less embarrassment, less shame, and more understanding. For many clients, this one aspect of sex therapy is absolutely life-changing.
- Increased comfort with your body and your sexuality.
- Specific sexual skills.
- Knowledge about biology, anatomy, and sexual health.
- Improved intimacy, communication, romance and closeness.
- An ability to find humor in the moments when things don’t go exactly as planned.
- A deeper understanding of and connection to yourself.
- Better, more fulfilling, more connected, more exciting sex.
And finally, just so we’re on the same page a few words about what sex therapy is not:
- I never make physical contact with my clients.
- I never ask couples to make sexual contact in front of me.
- I never shame or judge individuals for having certain sexual desires, interests or experiences.
- I never try to change my clients’ sexual identity.
- I never pressure couples or individuals to talk about subjects that they are not comfortable talking about.
Interested in getting started? Visit my Appointments page to schedule a consultation.