Phone & Video Coaching

Do you want personal, individualized coaching with a detailed plan of attack and support every step of the way? Phone & video coaching is for you.

How It Works

The process starts with you. I only take clients who are genuinely excited about working together! I know talking about sex can be challenging at first, and I’m here to guide you every step of the way. You just need to be ready and open!

Before the session, you’ll fill out a detailed questionnaire, which will give you the opportunity to get really clear on how you’d like to spend our time together.

I’ll design a session that addresses all of your questions and goals. I’ll start by sharing my insight, advice, and exercises with you. I’ll also gently lead the session, so you won’t have to worry about awkwardly trying to figure out what to say next.

I’ll record the session, so you can relax and focus on being present, and won’t have to worry about remembering every single detail we discuss.

Coaching Packages

I’ve always liked being flexible with my clients about how often they have their sessions, but I’ve also noticed that people make the biggest transformations when they truly commit to a regular schedule.

Let’s face it – life is busy, and it’s so easy to get swept up into your routine!

I can’t tell you how many incredible assessment sessions I’ve had, where my clients and I have made some serious progress in dismantling their blockages and giving them concrete tools to start building an exceptional sex life.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten glowing emails from my clients the next day, thanking me for a life-changing session and promising to book a follow-up ASAP.

And I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten a sheepish email from those exact same clients, months later, saying, “I had every intention of booking a follow-up, but then my kid got sick, and then I had a crazy period at work, and then I started fighting with my partner again, and I just got so overwhelmed. Can we finally start back up now? I’m kicking myself for not keeping my progress going.”

I don’t want you to have to reach out and send me a sheepish email in a few months!

I want you to experience real and lasting transformation in your sex life right now!

So I want to invite you to commit to working with me regularly for a three month period.


When you sign up, I’ll send you a detailed questionnaire to complete before our first appointment, so I can get a sense of what your life looks like. The questionnaire also asks you to share the challenges you’re currently having with your sex life, and how those challenges are affecting other parts of your life too.

I’ll review your answers, and will prepare a customized assessment session. I’ll map out a gameplan of how I see us working together over the next three months to plow through your challenges and help you start having a more satisfying sex life.

Then we’ll meet every other week to dive in even deeper, and give you specific exercises to work on in between sessions. I’ll gently hold you accountable to the changes we discuss.

I’m also available via email in between sessions, if you need to do a quick check-in.

We’ll also track your progress and celebrate your wins together!

Since the sessions are every other week, you’ll still have plenty of time to tend to the other things in your life, while keeping your commitment and momentum going.

There’s also an option for me to work with both you and your partner, to support your growth as a couple!

If you’re ready to get started, scroll down to the bottom of this page to take a look at my calendar. Scroll down and select the option for “Coaching Package” for either Individuals or Couples, and find a session that works with your schedule. Select your date and time, then make sure to hit the “Book Now” button.

Vanessa is currently not accepting new one-on-one coaching clients.

Ready To Get Started?

Vanessa is currently not accepting new one-on-one coaching clients.

Use the Acuity widget below to book and prepay for an appointment right away.

Please note, I currently work over video chat or phone only. I use Zoom. Don’t worry, I’ll give you instructions for getting set up.

All session times are in Pacific Time.

Your credit card will read “One Oh, Inc” for your privacy. (No mention of my name or “sex therapy” will appear on your statement.)

Your information is kept strictly confidential and is never shared.

I have a 24-hour cancellation policy. If you need to cancel or reschedule, please do so within the 24-hour period.



How long does sex therapy take?

I specialize in short-term sex therapy. I know that you want to feel relief and results right away, so the initial session is designed to give you lots of exercises, tools, and strategies.

Everyone is different, but many of my clients work with me for around 2-5 sessions.

If you have issues that have been plaguing you for years or decades, or if you’re interested in doing a deeper dive into your sex life, you may choose to do sessions for several months.

What if my partner doesn't want to work on our sex life with me?

It takes courage to work on your sex life. Most couples aren’t going to be on the exact same timeline of when they’re ready to do this work. If your partner isn’t ready yet, it can still be helpful to start doing sessions by yourself. You and I can talk about how to get your partner on board. Plus, if your partner knows that you’re serious enough about sex therapy to start on your own, they may be more willing to join you.

What if I don't see any times that work with your schedule?

I tend to book up for popular time slots, so please keep checking back!


What is your cancellation policy?

We have a 24-hour cancellation policy. If you need to cancel or reschedule, you can do so very easily via Acuity. You’ll find links via your email and the Acuity platform.


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