I want to make sex therapy as easy and as unintimidating as possible, so I offer my coaching services over video chat (or the phone if you’re shy!). You’ll be able to enjoy the comfort and privacy of your own home, and won’t have to worry about traveling to and from my office.

When you’re having a problem with your sex life, it can be really hard to know where to get help.

You love your friends, but you just can’t talk to them about the tricky sex and relationship stuff! Sometimes it feels too hard to even get the words out.

Even if you can talk to your friends, you worry about them judging your partner. It’s nice to feel their support when you’re venting in the moment, but you still want them to like your partner!

No matter how big of a city or town you live it, it still feels awfully small. You worry about your car being seen in a parking lot, or running into someone you know on your way into an office. You don’t want to have to scramble to come up with an awkward excuse in the moment.

Or maybe your town really is small, and there just aren’t any sex therapists nearby.


You feel like you’re so deep into your situation that you can’t see things clearly anymore. You want to talk to someone objective, who doesn’t know you, and have them take a look at and tell you what they see.

And you want change. You can’t keep going the way things are going. You want concrete action items, specific steps, detailed exercises.

You want a game plan.


Hi! I’m Vanessa Marin!

I’m a sex therapist, coach, and writer with 15 years of experience. I have a Bachelor’s degree in Human Sexuality from Brown University, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies.

I’ve been a featured expert for The New York Times, O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, CNN, The Times of London, GQ, Rolling Stone, Elle, Allure, Esquire, Shape, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Glamour, Self, Buzzfeed, Jezebel, Lifehacker, The Huffington Post, XoJane, Bustle, and many more.

This is not just a job for me – I get so much joy out of helping people have healthier and happier sex lives!

How It Works

I specialize in short term, action- and results-oriented coaching.

I want you to get relief and results right away, so I do something a little different for the first session.

In this unique and innovative deep-dive, we’ll identify what’s getting in the way of you having the sex life of your dreams, and kickstart your love life with proven strategies I’ve developed and tested.

The process starts with a detailed questionnaire you’ll fill out before the session. This questionnaire offers you the opportunity to get really clear on how you’d like to spend our time together. A lot of my clients have told me they were surprised by how helpful just the questionnaire itself was.

I’ll take it from there! I’ll read over your answers, and will design a session to help address all of your questions and goals. I’ll start sharing my insight, advice, and exercises with you. I’ll also gently lead the session, so you won’t have to worry about awkwardly trying to figure out what to say next.

The very next day, you’ll get an organized report of everything we talked about, including specific exercises to try and a game-plan for the next few weeks.

What I Can Help You With

This session is for you if you’re looking to:

Reignite the spark in your long term relationship, and recapture that early passion and excitement

Figure out how much sex feels healthy in your relationship

Learn how to prioritize intimacy and connection, even when life feels overwhelmingly busy

Feel more confident in your own skin, so you can feel present and alive during sex

Learn how to communicate about sex, so you can stop having endless, pointless fights

Put an end to performance pressure

Have more fun with your sex life!


“I can’t explain how much I got out of the session. I’ve never talked about sex with anyone before, but I finally got to the point where I knew I had to take action. For the first time in my life, I feel like I have a better understanding of myself and my needs. I have concrete ideas for how to move forward. My anxiety has all but disappeared.” - Alexandra J.

“The session notes were amazing. I was surprised by how thorough they were, and everything resonated with me. Vanessa hit the nail on the head. I felt like I had so many resources for moving forward, and I felt confident doing so.” - Penelope M.

“I never dreamed that the two of us could have so much fun with sex. It’s like we are rediscovering each other for the first time, and everything feels new again. We have been having the best sex of our lives thanks to you!” - Robin T. and Damien H.

“The session was so much fun! I was incredibly anxious before the session, and couldn’t imagine I would even be able to relax, much less have fun. Vanessa set me at ease right away and even had me laughing just a few minutes in. I learned so much from this mind-blowing session. - Tracy K.

“Just being able to have an honest conversation was even more therapeutic than I ever thought it could be. Saying the words out loud… getting a compassionate response… hearing that nothing is wrong with me, and that I’m normal. The whole experience was the breath of fresh air I direly needed. - Derek W.

“This is the best thing we have ever done for our relationship.” - Ava and Jake N.

Get Started Right Now!

Use the Schedulicity widget below to book and prepay for an appointment right away.

I’ll be in touch to confirm your appointment and send along your pre-session questionnaire as soon as I see your request.

Please note that I currently work over video chat or phone only. I typically use Google Hangouts, but I can also use Skype. Don’t worry, I’ll give you instructions for getting set up.

All session times are in Pacific Time. 

Your credit card will read “One Oh, Inc” for your privacy. (No mention of “sex therapy”.) Your information will be kept strictly confidential.


Don’t hesitate to use my contact form to get in touch!

I know you might be feeling shy or nervous now,
but I can promise you that you’ll walk away from this session
wondering why you even hesitated to sign up in the first place.