What do you think you should or shouldn’t do when it comes to sex?

Do you think sex should be spontaneous?

That you should want to have sex whenever your partner wants it?

That you shouldn’t have to tell your partner what you want?

That you should orgasm at the same time?

We all have these ideas of the things we are and aren’t supposed to do when it comes to sex.

And unfortunately, all of these “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” really get in the way of us actually having FUN in the bedroom!

Because when we’re so focused on what we should do, we neglect what we want to do. 

For example, I used to have a big “shouldn’t” around initiating sex when I was in my twenties. I fell for the crappy stereotypes that say in a heterosexual relationship, the guy should always be the one initiating sex. So I held back and didn’t initiate. I ended up suppressing my desire, building up more shame, feeling inauthentic, and missing out on lots of opportunities for intimacy. I “shoulded” all over myself!

So this month, we decided to do something fun and create…

The Slay Your Shoulds Challenge! 

Here’s how it’s going to work:

First, I want to get a sense of which “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” are most common in our community. What’s getting in your way the most right now?

So I’ve put together a brief survey that I’d love for you to fill out!

Click here to take the “Slay Your Shoulds” survey!

Then I’ll be back each Friday for the rest of this month to address the top 4 “shoulds”, and give you a game plan for getting rid of them! 

After this month is over, you’ll have made some serious progress in banishing the limiting beliefs that are getting in the way of you having a sex life that feels authentic, passionate, playful, and FUN!

P.S. Did you know we have a YouTube channel? Xander and I release new videos every week! Click here to check out our latest video, 7 Ways To Initiate Sex That Will Make Your Partner Say “HELL YES!”