Chances are, the things you learned about sex and intimacy growing up weren't helpful...
Maybe your parents told you stories about storks delivering babies...
or you picked up confusing, half-true things from friends at school...
…or sat through a health class that left you with more questions than answers.
(If you even learned anything at all!)
”Why do boys and girls look different?” “How are babies made?” “What is porn?” “Is it normal to masturbate?” “Does sex hurt?” “Why are other kids sending each other naked pictures?” “How do I know if I’m pregnant?” "Do you have sex?"
You wouldn’t be here, reading this page, if you hadn’t already experienced the harmful impact that this lack of a proper sex education had on your own life.
Maybe you made sexual decisions you regret, have had relationships end because of your sexual hangups, or still struggle with feelings of shame or embarrassment around sex.
You wouldn’t be here, reading this page, if you hadn’t already experienced the harmful impact that this lack of a proper sex education had on your own life.
Maybe you made sexual decisions you regret, have had relationships end because of your sexual hangups, or still struggle with feelings of shame or embarrassment around sex.
You don’t want them to feel the same confusion or discomfort you did.
You want them to have a healthy relationship with intimacy and their bodies.
To feel confident, safe, and empowered in their own skin.
To know when to say no, and when to say yes.
To know how to keep their bodies — and their hearts — safe.
So we're here to help you have ongoing, meaningful conversations with your kids — conversations that build trust, confidence, and a healthy relationship with intimacy and sex.
So we're here to help you have ongoing, meaningful conversations with your kids — conversations that build trust, confidence, and a healthy relationship with intimacy and sex.
We know you want better for your kids.
That’s why we’ve created a program to help you navigate these conversations...
How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex
How To Talk
To Your Kids
About Sex
P.S. These conversations need to start early! Did you know the average age a kid gets exposed to porn is EIGHT?! Heartbreaking, we know. So we have content for kids as young as three years old.
Forget about "The Talk" — instead of a single, high-pressure conversation, we focus on having ongoing, age-appropriate talks with your kids as they grow. From body parts to boundaries to relationships, we've got you covered.
Using Vanessa's Marriage and Family Therapy expertise, experience teaching Sex Ed to hundreds of kids, and our joint experience helping thousands of couples create meaningful relationships, we've designed the perfect curriculum to raise confident and healthy kids.
And the best part? You don't have to get it perfect all at once — these are converstaions you'll weave into everyday life.
Access all recordings and materials anytime you need a refresher. Your schedule, your pace, for life.
lifetime access
Join live calls or watch the replay anytime — because we know life gets busy. Ask anything and receive personalized guidance from a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist along the way.
6 Weeks Of Support
Help your kids build confidence and understand healthy relationships with clear, judgment-free support.
Shame-Free, Empowering Guidance
Never be at a loss for what to say — even in the most awkward moments — with easy-to-follow scripts for every conversation.
word-for-word scripts
Get the right words for each stage of your child's growth, with five key conversations broken down by age group — complete with cheat sheets and scripts.
age-appropriate conversations
here's what you'll get:
This program isn't just a series of calls — it's designed for busy parents who need quick and practical help.
What's the right age to start talking to my kid about this stuff?
Rather than having one talk, we recommend talking to kids about sex and intimacy throughout the course of their lives.
This is actually great news for you because it takes the pressure off making your one-and-only conversation perfect!
When relationships come into play, help your child make smart choices without fear or shame.
decision-making, connection & pleasure
Help your child feel seen and celebrated for who they are. We’ll guide you through conversations about gender, identity, and embracing differences.
diversity & identity
Yes, the internet is a thing, and your kids will find stuff. We’ll help you navigate those tricky conversations.
media & porn
safety & boundaries
Teach your kids how to understand boundaries and speak up if something feels wrong — at every age.
We help you explain the basics, without making it awkward.
bodies, mechanics & conception
In the course, we'll walk you through the 5 crucial conversations we think every child should get to have:
Within each of these conversations, we have specific content broken down into age groups — starting with 5 and under
“5 And Under” might seem really young, but there are some easy ways to start introducing age-appropriate information about bodies, safety, and other topics. Plus, it often feels easier to start talking to a little kid than to a teenager, so it gives you tons of time to get more comfortable before the heavier conversations.
Let’s make one thing clear though: It is NEVER too late to start talking to your kid about sex and intimacy. Please don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t started talking about it yet; this is tricky stuff that there just aren’t many resources for. The best time to start is now.
Frequently Asked Questions
We have content for kids ages 3-17! 3 might seem really young, but there are some easy ways to start introducing age-appropriate information about bodies, safety, and other topics. Plus, it often feels easier to start talking to a little kid than to a teenager, so it gives you tons of time to get more comfortable before the heavier conversations.
Also, kids are learning about sex earlier and earlier these days, so we need to protect them by giving them the correct information.
Did you know that the average age kids see porn these days is EIGHT? Think of how scary, confusing, and misleading it would be to have your only sex education come from porn. That’s one of the most horrifying statistics we’ve ever seen, and was one of our primary motivators in deciding to make this course.
We’re going through the conversations in 6 live (but anonymous) zero-fluff calls. You’ll also get lifetime access to the recordings, conveniently organized by age. Regardless of which format you use, you’ll also have an incredible opportunity to ask personal questions about your unique kid and get coaching from us!
You’ll also get:
- Age-appropriate cheat sheets
- Word-for-word scripts to answer the most common questions kids ask
- Scripts and techniques for other common scenarios and questions parents have
Research shows that talking to kids about sex:
- Makes them more likely to wait longer to start having sex
- Reduces their number of sexual partners
- Reduces risky sexual behavior and decisions
- Increases condom and contraceptive use
- Decreases teen pregnancy
- Decreases STI transmission
- Makes them less susceptible to sexual abuse
- Shame
- Lower self esteem
- Depression
- Guilt
- Riskier sexual decision making
- Body image issues
- Increased risk of sexual abuse
We know talking about sex with your kids can feel uncomfortable, but it’s vitally important for the safety of their bodies, minds, and hearts. Fortunately, there are some really simple ways to prepare them. We’ll give you age-specific strategies and dozens of word-for-word scripts you can use.
So we don’t have our own kids, but what Vanessa does have is years of experience teaching sex ed to hundreds of them. She has also designed sex ed curriculum for other educators. And she’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with hundreds of hours of experience doing therapy directly with children and with their families.
We won’t ever say we know what it’s like to be a parent. We don’t. And even if we were parents, we would never understand what it’s like for YOU, specifically. But just like a doctor or teacher who doesn’t have their own kids, we know we have something to offer you. If it’s important to you to only learn from people who have their own kids, we totally respect that.
Your kid asks you a personal question, like how old you were when you first started having sex, or how often you have sex with your partner. Or your teen asks you point-blank, “What’s your body count?”
Your kid walks in on you and your partner having sex.
Your kid has a serious partner and you have a hunch they may start having sex soon.
Your kid’s teacher calls to warn you that some kids are sharing naked photos with each other on social media.
Another parent calls you to tell you that not only is your kid telling other kids about sex, they’re sharing completely inaccurate information. Like, “Sex is when you put your pen!s in her butt.”
You catch your kids playing “doctor” with each other.
You walk in on your kid looking at porn on your family computer.
Your kid asks you what 69 is. Or what a blow job is. Or if it’s normal to masturbate.
If ANY of these scenarios make your palms sweat, you would benefit from taking the course!
We know you want to be a cycle-breaker, and we’re so excited to help you empower your kid to have a healthy and shame-free relationship with sex.
Note: we’re aiming to release content in September and you’ll get access to it before anyone else. But we will be in conversation with you soon — think polls, surveys, and feedback forms.