If the thought of scheduling sex makes you cringe a little… we get that a lot.

You might be thinking..

“Ugh. That’s so unromantic.” or… “NOT hot.” or… “If we have to schedule it, something must be wrong with our relationship.”

We’re here to today to give you our hot take on our favorite controversial relationship topic. And yes… we’re going to try to change your mind.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the biggest myths about scheduling sex, what scheduled intimacy really means (and doesn’t mean), and the practical ways to make it feel exciting instead of like something else on your to-do list.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why “spontaneous sex” is one of the biggest myths we buy into.
• How scheduling sex can actually reduce stress, pressure, and anxiety.
• What scheduling can do for couples with mismatched desire (especially responsive desire).
• Why having sex earlier in the evening can completely change your sex life.
• How to build anticipation without feeling awkward or forced.
• The “bare minimum” approach that makes sex dates feel doable (even on low-energy days).
• Why taking turns leading sex dates helps both partners feel cared for.
• The simple mindset shift that turns scheduling sex into something you look forward to.

Spoiler: scheduling sex doesn’t replace spontaneity. For many couples, it actually creates more of it.

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