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Back - And Keep It Burning!
Online Courses & Guides
We try the “fake it til you make it” approach to confidence — but stay firmly planted in “fake it” territory.
We stumble our way through sex, hoping to magically discover the techniques that make it look as good as it does in the movies.
So lot of us wind up end up settling for less-than-satisfying sex and relationships that just don’t feel like they used to.
But that doesn’t have to be your fate…
Our online courses and guides have helped tens of thousands of couples transform their relationships — in and out of the bedroom. We’ve got something for everyone and every budget.
We feel awkward and embarrassed talking about our needs — even with our long-term partner — so we keep our mouths shut.
Sex and relationships are such an important part of our lives, but it’s not like anyone ever handed us a user manual for intimacy!
Having More Fun In The Bedroom
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THE SEX EDUCATION YOU WISH YOU’D HAD!
The Ultimate
Foreplay Guides
It’s time to stop guessing and start feeling confident in your technique! The Ultimate Foreplay Guides show you exactly how to use your hands and mouth on your partner in ways that will BLOW. THEIR. MIND.
This guide will leave you feeling ready and able to pleasure your partner in exciting, unexpected ways.
This guide will leave you feeling ready and able to pleasure your partner in exciting, unexpected ways.
best seller
The Ultimate Sex Guide includes over forty tastefully illustrated sex positions with detailed, step-by-step instructions on how to get into, out of, and move in each position. Plus, discover the secret to craving more sex!
Get ready for toe-curling, bedsheet-gripping, heart-opening experiences for BOTH of you!
Get ready for toe-curling, bedsheet-gripping, heart-opening experiences for BOTH of you!
UNLOCK THE SECRETS TO UNBELIEVABLE SEX FOR BOTH OF YOU!
The Ultimate Sex Guide
7 days of fun and flirty activities, games, and conversation starters for you to feel closer, connect deeper, and have your best week ever.
Your cheat code to connecting more deeply, loving more fiercely, and starting to have the best sex of your life
Your Best Week Ever
For Parents
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Join Our Early-Access, Beta Launch Of Our Newest Program: How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex
How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex
How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex is our 6-week live program designed to help you have "the talk" with confidence & break generational shame cycles around sex
Having An Exceptional Relationship
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This practical, playful, and wildly effective online course will help you and your partner finally understand what you both need to feel enthusiastic about intimacy.
You'll discover why initiation is so hard, how to navigate rejection, mindset shifts that will change your life, and of course, you'll get 61 incredible initiation ideas!
You'll discover why initiation is so hard, how to navigate rejection, mindset shifts that will change your life, and of course, you'll get 61 incredible initiation ideas!
For couples who want the lead-up to sex to feel just as exciting as the climax!
The Art Of Initiation
A BALANCED RELATIONSHIP IS JUST A FEW CLICKS AWAY!
Mental Load Workbook
In a lot of relationships, one partner unconsciously takes on the mental responsibility for both people.
This workbook will help you balance the load. Each partnership and family is different, but we’ll help you find equal balance and a system that works for you.
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with Vanessa + Xander
The Deeper Membership
our all-access pass to all our core content on demand for one low monthly price
LEARN MORE
Skip the awkward Googling and pricey therapy sessions. Deeper gives you instant access to our entire core content library — therapist-designed courses, live monthly sessions with us, and interactive resources designed to fit into your real life. Your relationship upgrade starts now — and it’s just one click away.
brand new
with Vanessa + Xander
The Deeper Membership
our all-access pass to all our core content on demand for one low monthly price
LEARN MORE
Skip the awkward Googling and pricey therapy sessions. Deeper gives you instant access to our entire core content library — therapist-designed courses, live monthly sessions with us, and interactive resources designed to fit into your real life. Your relationship upgrade starts now — and it’s just one click away.
Stop avoiding intimacy
and start having wildly pleasurable sex & orgasms.
Finishing School™
Discover your body’s potential and feel confident in bed with a step-by-step course on overcoming the physical and emotional blockages to orgasm.
IT'S back!
7 days of fun and flirty activities, games, and conversation starters for you to feel closer, connect deeper, and have your best week ever.
Your cheat code to connecting more deeply, loving more fiercely, and starting to have the best sex of your life
Your Best Week Ever
THE SEX EDUCATION YOU WISH YOU’D HAD!
The Ultimate
Foreplay Guides
It’s time to stop guessing and start feeling confident in your technique! The Ultimate Foreplay Guides show you exactly how to use your hands and mouth on your partner in ways that will BLOW. THEIR. MIND.
This guide will leave you feeling ready and able to pleasure your partner in exciting, unexpected ways.
This guide will leave you feeling ready and able to pleasure your partner in exciting, unexpected ways.
This practical, playful, and wildly effective online course will help you and your partner finally understand what you both need to feel enthusiastic about intimacy.
You'll discover why initiation is so hard, how to navigate rejection, mindset shifts that will change your life, and of course, you'll get 61 incredible initiation ideas!
You'll discover why initiation is so hard, how to navigate rejection, mindset shifts that will change your life, and of course, you'll get 61 incredible initiation ideas!
For couples who want the lead-up to sex to feel just as exciting as the climax!
The Art Of Initiation
best seller
The Ultimate Sex Guide includes over forty tastefully illustrated sex positions with detailed, step-by-step instructions on how to get into, out of, and move in each position. Plus, discover the secret to craving more sex!
Get ready for toe-curling, bedsheet-gripping, heart-opening experiences for BOTH of you!
Get ready for toe-curling, bedsheet-gripping, heart-opening experiences for BOTH of you!
UNLOCK THE SECRETS TO UNBELIEVABLE SEX FOR BOTH OF YOU!
The Ultimate Sex Guide
A BALANCED RELATIONSHIP IS JUST A FEW CLICKS AWAY!
Mental Load Workbook
In a lot of relationships, one partner unconsciously takes on the mental responsibility for both people.
This workbook will help you balance the load. Each partnership and family is different, but we’ll help you find equal balance and a system that works for you.
Vanessa’s a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. (Which makes him very popular at parties!)
Our mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.
We’re here to make you laugh while giving you the courage to talk openly about sex and relationships so you can have more fun in the bedroom.
We're Vanessa and Xander Marin.
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With lifetime access, you can revisit a course or review a guide any time your relationship needs a pick-me-up. Plus you get all updates for free whenever we make improvements.
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Go at your own pace and take a break if you need it. You’re always in control.
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