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We try the “fake it til you make it” approach to confidence — but stay firmly planted in “fake it” territory.

We stumble our way through sex, hoping to magically discover the techniques that make it look as good as it does in the movies.

So lot of us wind up end up settling for less-than-satisfying sex and relationships that just don’t feel like they used to.

But that doesn’t have to be your fate…

Our online courses and guides have helped tens of thousands of couples transform their relationships — in and out of the bedroom. We’ve got something for everyone and every budget. 



We feel awkward and embarrassed talking about our needs — even with our long-term partner — so we keep our mouths shut.

Sex and relationships are such an important part of our lives, but it’s not like anyone ever handed us a user manual for intimacy!



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Orgasm

Fun in the bedroom

challenges

sex drive

male performance

relationships

Orgasm

ENJOY MORE PLEASURE AND ORGASMS — EVEN IF YOU’VE NEVER HAD ONE BEFORE!

Finishing School

In this course, you’ll follow proven, step-by-step techniques for orgasming on your own and with a partner. But the benefits go way beyond the bedroom! Finishing School™ has helped thousands of women gain confidence, increase their sense of self-worth, and KNOW that they’re deserving of all of life’s pleasures.

Finishing School™ will show you how to:
  • Connect with your body and tap into all of its potential.

  • Prioritize your pleasure on your own and with a partner.

  • Have consistent orgasms, even if you’ve never had one before.

  • Become the sexy, confident woman you’re meant to be.

Masturbation is the key to discovering what gets you off, but so many women don’t know how to do it! Or they’re too embarrassed to even try. This masturclass will show you step-by-step what to do. 

Master masturbation and you’ll:
  • Have hotter sex and more pleasurable orgasms.

  • Develop a better relationship with your body. 

  • Gain confidence in every part of your life.

BETTER, HOTTER SEX STARTS WITH YOU!

Masturbation Masturclass

BEST SELLER

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Having More Fun In The Bedroom

Once you’re having Next Level Intercourse, you’ll:
  • Eliminate shame and embarrassment about not knowing what you’re doing.

  • Feel confident that you know how to make it a “best ever” experience for you and your partner.

  • Start craving sex because you now know it’s going to be enjoyable and deeply satisfying.

  • Feel motivated and excited to keep exploring new ways to play together.

UNLOCK THE SECRETS TO UNBELIEVABLE SEX FOR BOTH OF YOU!

Next Level Intercourse

THE SEX EDUCATION YOU WISH YOU’D HAD!

Ultimate Foreplay Guides

It’s time to stop guessing and start feeling confident in your moves. The Ultimate Foreplay Guides show you EXACTLY how to finger a vulva, go down on a vulva, give a blow job, and give a hand job.

The Ultimate Foreplay Guides will give you:
  • The confidence to pleasure your partner in exciting and unexpected ways.

  • A conversation starter to ask for what you want in bed.

  • The secret to enjoying giving and receiving pleasure.
With support from this step-by-step guide, you can:
  • Overcome your fears about butt stuff.

  • Grow more confident in your sex life by adding new layers to your sexual exploration.

  • Master a new skill in bed.

  • Feel more connected to your partner while exploring something new.

EXPLORE THE BACKDOOR

Butt Stuff

When you level up your dirty talk skills you…
  • Boost your confidence because you’ll feel like a teasing and tempting badass.

  • Get totally turned on because nothing builds anticipation and desire like talking about what you’re going to do to each other beforehand.

  • Explore new things because dirty talk is a low-risk way to change up your routine and bring more fun into the bedroom. (And you’re always 100% in control!)

  • Strengthen your connection because dirty talk infuses playfulness into the bedroom.

EXPLORE ONE OF THE HOTTEST THINGS YOU CAN DO WITH YOUR MOUTH

Dirty Talk 101

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BEST SELLER

BEST SELLER

With the Sexual Bucket List you’ll:
  • Create a judgment-free atmosphere for exploration. Discussing what you want in bed outside of the bedroom takes away the pressure, so you can fully enjoy your time between the sheets.

  • Reveal your sexual sweet spots as a couple with clear guidelines and inclusive ideas that eliminate uncertainty. So it’s easy to decide what you want in the moment of passion!

  • Unlock a roadmap to your desires so you can experience more pleasure. Because initiating is easier and sex is more satisfying when you know what you both want.

DISCOVER YOUR DESIRES

Sexual Bucket List

Challenges

In just 30 days you can:
  • Feel closer than you did when you first started dating.

  • Look forward to spending time together.

  • Develop better connection habits and skills. You’ll be making space for deeper conversations, inside jokes, and hugs and kisses throughout the day.

  • Experience more joy, love, and laughter every day.

REIGNITE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND FALL IN LOVE ALL OVER AGAIN - IN JUST 10 MINUTES A DAY!

30 Day Connection Challenge

A SHOT OF ESPRESSO FOR YOUR SEX LIFE!

30 Day Sex Challenge

Bring some surprise and excitement into your relationship with the 30 Day Sex Challenge. Each day you’ll get a playful and unintimidating challenge sent to you via email. Enjoy the benefits of getting creative in the bedroom — while someone else comes up with the ideas. (And it makes a great gift too!)

In just 30 days you can:
  • Have fun and easy conversations about sex.

  • Go from lackluster and routine to Best Sex Ever!

  • Develop a deeper connection with your partner.

BEST SELLER

BEST SELLER

check out the rest of our course offerings

Sex Drive

START CRAVING SEX WITH YOUR PARTNER!

Bring Your Sex Life Back To Life

It’s not your fault your sex life feels a little disappointing. We’ll show you how to get that spark back! This masterclass is designed to rekindle the passion you once had for each other.

You’ll discover:
  • Why mismatched sex drives aren’t actually a problem.

  • The no-nonsense approach you need to take to feel more desire.

  • A step-by-step process for making the space in your busy schedules for a sex life worth craving.

FEEL LIKE A TEENAGER AGAIN!

Rediscovering Desire

Do you have a low libido? Are you and your partner rarely on the same page when it comes to sex? This is normal for so many couples. We’ll help you understand how your sex drive actually works, and give you practical tools you can put to use tonight.

Rediscover your desire and you’ll:
  • Enjoy and actually start to crave sex.

  • Discover what your sex drive needs to get revved up.

  • Feel giddy and excited to be with your partner — just like you did in the early days of your relationship.

check out the rest of our course offerings

Male Performance

GUYS, THIS ONE’S FOR YOU!

Modern Man's Guide

If you’re worried about timing and what your partner is thinking it can be impossible to enjoy sex. Pills and sprays don’t work. Instead, The Modern Man’s Guide takes a holistic approach to what’s happening in your brain and your body.  

Take charge of your brain in the bedroom and you’ll have:
  • Confidence in your technique.

  • Control over your orgasm timing.

  • And of course… hotter sex! Because intimacy becomes more satisfying for both of you.

check out the rest of our course offerings

For Parents

(AKA REDISCOVERING INTIMACY AND SEX FOR PARENTS)

MILFs, DILFs, and PILFs

Inside the course you’ll discover how to:
  • Prioritize yourselves, even if it’s just a few minutes at a time. When parents take time to nurture their relationship, the whole family wins.

  • Reignite the bond that brought you together by getting on the same page emotionally and sexually. This course offers the support you need to become a team and enjoy time together again.

  • Maintain your connection. That perfect moment to prioritize yourselves isn’t coming. Unless you find ways to make it happen for YOU.

check out the rest of our course offerings

Having An Exceptional Relationship

A BALANCED RELATIONSHIP IS JUST A FEW CLICKS AWAY!

Mental Load Workbook

In a lot of relationships, one partner unconsciously takes on the mental responsibility for both people. If you’re ready to share that checklist with your partner, this workbook will show you how to split up the load. Each partnership and family is different, but we’ll help you find a way that works for you. 

When you’ve balanced the mental load in your relationship you’ll:
  • Clear out resentment and frustration toward your partner.

  • Feel appreciated and cared for. 

  • Free up mental space so you can focus on reaching your goals.

Supercharge your confidence in the bedroom and you’ll…
  • Discover how to relax and enjoy receiving pleasure because you know you’re deserving of it.

  • Find the courage to try new things — even if they feel a little scary at first.️

  • Free yourself from the negative beliefs you’ve been unconsciously carrying about sex.️

  • Turn your partner into your confidence-building teammate so you both become bolder and braver in bed.️

BECOME WILDLY CONFIDENT IN THE BEDROOM... AND BEYOND!

Supercharge Your Confidence In The Bedroom

Does initiating sex feel awkward or intimidating? With 22 different ideas for making the first move, we’ll show you how initiating can feel fun and playful.

In Initiation 101 you’ll uncover how to:
  • Confidently make the first move.

  • Be more likely to get a YES from your partner when you put yourself out there.

  • Thoughtfully respond to your partner’s initiations. 

  • Make initiating more fun and less intimidating for both of you!

BRING MORE YES INTO YOUR SEX LIFE!

Initiation 101

“What do you like in bed?” For so many people, this question feels impossible to answer! But it doesn’t need to be that hard to uncover your needs and desires in the bedroom. We’ll show you how!

This masterclass and accompanying guide will help you:
  • Pay attention to the signals your body is giving you.

  • Discover what makes you feel good even if you have no clue!

DISCOVER YOURSELF AND YOUR NEEDS

How To Know What You Want In The Bedroom

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GET CONFIDENT IN BED, CONNECT DEEPLY WITH YOUR PARTNER, AND FEEL PLEASURE LIKE NEVER BEFORE

Better, Hotter, More

This 6-week course gives you:
  • Supreme satisfaction as both you and your partner will explore new techniques that maximize pleasure, deepen your understanding of one another, and optimize orgasms.

  • Unshakable confidence as you get in touch with your body, discover what you like, and know how to ask for it.

  • Deeper desire because when pleasure is a priority for both of you, sex becomes irresistible.

  • Everlasting intimacy and connection with your partner.
Once you’re having Next Level Intercourse, you’ll:
  • Eliminate shame and embarrassment about not knowing what you’re doing.

  • Feel confident that you know how to make it a “best ever” experience for you and your partner.

  • Start craving sex because you now know it’s going to be enjoyable and deeply satisfying.

  • Feel motivated and excited to keep exploring new ways to play together.

UNLOCK THE SECRETS TO UNBELIEVABLE SEX FOR BOTH OF YOU!

Next Level Intercourse

THE SEX EDUCATION YOU WISH YOU’D HAD!

Ultimate Foreplay Guides

It’s time to stop guessing and start feeling confident in your moves. The Ultimate Foreplay Guides show you EXACTLY how to finger a vulva, go down on a vulva, give a blow job, and give a hand job.

The Ultimate Foreplay Guides will give you:
  • The confidence to pleasure your partner in exciting and unexpected ways.

  • A conversation starter to ask for what you want in bed.

  • The secret to enjoying giving and receiving pleasure.

BEST SELLER

BEST SELLER

With support from this step-by-step guide, you can:
  • Overcome your fears about butt stuff.

  • Grow more confident in your sex life by adding new layers to your sexual exploration.

  • Master a new skill in bed.

  • Feel more connected to your partner while exploring something new.

EXPLORE THE BACKDOOR

Butt Stuff

GET CONFIDENT IN BED, CONNECT DEEPLY WITH YOUR PARTNER, AND FEEL PLEASURE LIKE NEVER BEFORE

Better, Hotter, More

This 6-week course gives you:
  • Supreme satisfaction as both you and your partner will explore new techniques that maximize pleasure, deepen your understanding of one another, and optimize orgasms.

  • Unshakable confidence as you get in touch with your body, discover what you like, and know how to ask for it.

  • Deeper desire because when pleasure is a priority for both of you, sex becomes irresistible.

  • Everlasting intimacy and connection with your partner.
When you level up your dirty talk skills you…
  • Boost your confidence because you’ll feel like a teasing and tempting badass.

  • Get totally turned on because nothing builds anticipation and desire like talking about what you’re going to do to each other beforehand.

  • Explore new things because dirty talk is a low-risk way to change up your routine and bring more fun into the bedroom. (And you’re always 100% in control!)

  • Strengthen your connection because dirty talk infuses playfulness into the bedroom.

EXPLORE ONE OF THE HOTTEST THINGS YOU CAN DO WITH YOUR MOUTH

Dirty Talk 101

ENJOY MORE PLEASURE AND ORGASMS — EVEN IF YOU’VE NEVER HAD ONE BEFORE!

Finishing School

In this course, you’ll follow proven, step-by-step techniques for orgasming on your own and with a partner. But the benefits go way beyond the bedroom! Finishing School™ has helped thousands of women gain confidence, increase their sense of self-worth, and KNOW that they’re deserving of all of life’s pleasures.

Finishing School™ will show you how to:
  • Connect with your body and tap into all of its potential.

  • Prioritize your pleasure on your own and with a partner.

  • Have consistent orgasms, even if you’ve never had one before.

  • Become the sexy, confident woman you’re meant to be.

BEST SELLER

Supercharge your confidence in the bedroom and you’ll…
  • Discover how to relax and enjoy receiving pleasure because you know you’re deserving of it.

  • Find the courage to try new things — even if they feel a little scary at first.️

  • Free yourself from the negative beliefs you’ve been unconsciously carrying about sex.️

  • Turn your partner into your confidence-building teammate so you both become bolder and braver in bed.️

BECOME WILDLY CONFIDENT IN THE BEDROOM... AND BEYOND!

Supercharge Your Confidence In The Bedroom

(AKA REDISCOVERING INTIMACY AND SEX FOR PARENTS)

MILFs, DILFs, and PILFs

Inside the course you’ll discover how to:
  • Prioritize yourselves, even if it’s just a few minutes at a time. When parents take time to nurture their relationship, the whole family wins.

  • Reignite the bond that brought you together by getting on the same page emotionally and sexually. This course offers the support you need to become a team and enjoy time together again.

  • Maintain your connection. That perfect moment to prioritize yourselves isn’t coming. Unless you find ways to make it happen for YOU.

Does initiating sex feel awkward or intimidating? With 22 different ideas for making the first move, we’ll show you how initiating can feel fun and playful.

In Initiation 101 you’ll uncover how to:
  • Confidently make the first move.

  • Be more likely to get a YES from your partner when you put yourself out there.

  • Thoughtfully respond to your partner’s initiations. 

  • Make initiating more fun and less intimidating for both of you!

BRING MORE YES INTO YOUR SEX LIFE!

Initiation 101

START CRAVING SEX WITH YOUR PARTNER!

Bring Your Sex Life Back To Life

It’s not your fault your sex life feels a little disappointing. We’ll show you how to get that spark back! This masterclass is designed to rekindle the passion you once had for each other.

You’ll discover:
  • Why mismatched sex drives aren’t actually a problem.

  • The no-nonsense approach you need to take to feel more desire.

  • A step-by-step process for making the space in your busy schedules for a sex life worth craving.

BEST SELLER

With the Sexual Bucket List you’ll:
  • Create a judgment-free atmosphere for exploration. Discussing what you want in bed outside of the bedroom takes away the pressure, so you can fully enjoy your time between the sheets.

  • Reveal your sexual sweet spots as a couple with clear guidelines and inclusive ideas that eliminate uncertainty. So it’s easy to decide what you want in the moment of passion!

  • Unlock a roadmap to your desires so you can experience more pleasure. Because initiating is easier and sex is more satisfying when you know what you both want.

DISCOVER YOUR DESIRES

Sexual Bucket List

FEEL LIKE A TEENAGER AGAIN!

Rediscovering Desire

Do you have a low libido? Are you and your partner rarely on the same page when it comes to sex? This is normal for so many couples. We’ll help you understand how your sex drive actually works, and give you practical tools you can put to use tonight.

Rediscover your desire and you’ll:
  • Enjoy and actually start to crave sex.

  • Discover what your sex drive needs to get revved up.

  • Feel giddy and excited to be with your partner — just like you did in the early days of your relationship.
“What do you like in bed?” For so many people, this question feels impossible to answer! But it doesn’t need to be that hard to uncover your needs and desires in the bedroom. We’ll show you how!

This masterclass and accompanying guide will help you:
  • Pay attention to the signals your body is giving you.

  • Discover what makes you feel good even if you have no clue!

DISCOVER YOURSELF AND YOUR NEEDS

How To Know What You Want In The Bedroom

A BALANCED RELATIONSHIP IS JUST A FEW CLICKS AWAY!

Mental Load Workbook

In a lot of relationships, one partner unconsciously takes on the mental responsibility for both people. If you’re ready to share that checklist with your partner, this workbook will show you how to split up the load. Each partnership and family is different, but we’ll help you find a way that works for you. 

When you’ve balanced the mental load in your relationship you’ll:
  • Clear out resentment and frustration toward your partner.

  • Feel appreciated and cared for. 

  • Free up mental space so you can focus on reaching your goals.

Masturbation is the key to discovering what gets you off, but so many women don’t know how to do it! Or they’re too embarrassed to even try. This masturclass will show you step-by-step what to do. 

Master masturbation and you’ll:
  • Have hotter sex and more pleasurable orgasms.

  • Develop a better relationship with your body. 

  • Gain confidence in every part of your life.

BETTER, HOTTER SEX STARTS WITH YOU!

Masturbation Masturclass

GUYS, THIS ONE’S FOR YOU!

Modern Man's Guide

If you’re worried about timing and what your partner is thinking it can be impossible to enjoy sex. Pills and sprays don’t work. Instead, The Modern Man’s Guide takes a holistic approach to what’s happening in your brain and your body.  

Take charge of your brain in the bedroom and you’ll have:
  • Confidence in your technique.

  • Control over your orgasm timing.

  • And of course… hotter sex! Because intimacy becomes more satisfying for both of you.

In just 30 days you can:
  • Feel closer than you did when you first started dating.

  • Look forward to spending time together.

  • Develop better connection habits and skills. You’ll be making space for deeper conversations, inside jokes, and hugs and kisses throughout the day.

  • Experience more joy, love, and laughter every day.

REIGNITE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND FALL IN LOVE ALL OVER AGAIN - IN JUST 10 MINUTES A DAY!

30 Day Connection Challenge

A SHOT OF ESPRESSO FOR YOUR SEX LIFE!

30 Day Sex Challenge

Bring some surprise and excitement into your relationship with the 30 Day Sex Challenge. Each day you’ll get a playful and unintimidating challenge sent to you via email. Enjoy the benefits of getting creative in the bedroom — while someone else comes up with the ideas. (And it makes a great gift too!)

In just 30 days you can:
  • Have fun and easy conversations about sex.

  • Go from lackluster and routine to Best Sex Ever!

  • Develop a deeper connection with your partner.

BEST SELLER

BEST SELLER

Vanessa’s a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. (Which makes him very popular at parties!)

Our mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.
We’re here to make you laugh while giving you the courage to talk openly about sex and relationships so you can have more fun in the bedroom.

We're Vanessa and Xander Marin.

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