Real talk – are you faking orgasms?

There are so many understandable reasons why you may have started faking. Maybe you were trying to protect your partner’s ego, or trying to make it seem like there was good chemistry between the two of you. Maybe you were worried about taking too long to orgasm, or maybe you‘d never had one so you didn’t even know how you were supposed to get there with your partner.

But what do you do if you’re now in the situation where you’ve been faking for so long that you don’t know how to get yourself out of the hole?

We have good news and better news. First, you’re not broken and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. And we have three options for how to stop faking and start having the orgasms that you deserve! Because life’s too short to fake your way through sex.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[3:41] How many people are faking it?

[7:02] Breaking down the dude experience

[9:16] How do we get into the hole?

[14:56] Despite what we’re taught, it’s not all about him

[17:02] Faking cheats you body (and his) out of genuine orgasm

[24:14] Option #1: Rip off the bandaid!

[27:09] Detouring to the myth of the female orgasm

[27:58] But what do you even say to them???

[29:35] Emotional aftercare is key

[32:10] Option #2: “It’s not you, it’s me!”

[35:10] Option #3: A little less conversation, a little more action

[37:46] It’s all in the presentation

[39:38] A word of caution

[41:27] The most important thing to take away from this episode

Links & resources

Guide: Ultimate Foreplay Guides

Guide: Next Level Intercourse

Guide: Sexual Mastery Package

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