A Partner’s Guide To The Female Orgasm

August 7, 2025

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The female orgasm: we’ve talked about it a lot over the years, but it never stops being one of the most requested, most misunderstood, and most fascinating topics we cover.

In this episode, we’re flipping the script and looking at orgasm through a partner’s eyes. What does it mean to be supportive? How can you tell if she’s actually orgasming? And why is it so inconsistent? We’re answering your most Googled questions, plus the ones you’ve been too embarrassed to type into a search bar.

Here’s what we’re getting into:

  • Why women fake orgasms (and what to do about it)
  • What to say if your partner has never had one before
  • How to know if she’s really having an orgasm
  • The truth about female performance anxiety
  • Which positions are best for helping her O
  • How to help her experience multiple orgasms
  • G-spot orgasms and squirting: can you make them happen?
  • What to do while she’s orgasming (hint: don’t freeze!)
  • How to make it last longer + aftercare

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