Butt Stuff

This is the first of two episodes about butt stuff, and it’s your primer episode! What makes anal play so great anyway and why are people so intimidated by it? Well, we’re answering those questions and talking about how to break through some of the objections surrounding this topic. Next week we’ll talk about the mechanics of how to actually try anal play and anal sex.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The appeal of anal
- That there’s a lot more options on the table than just anal sex
- How to break down objections to trying/enjoying anal play
- Whether it’s ok for straight men to enjoy receiving anal play
Here’s a glance at this episode:
[5:40] Instagram polls: “Have you tried any anal play?” and “Are you intimidated by anal play?”
[8:15] Our big disclaimer, and three reasons you might want to consider anal.
[10:52] Brussels sprouts and curiosity.
[11:49] A peach emoji anatomy lesson.
[15:05] We’re gonna talk about it: poop.
[19:15] Pro tips for easy clean up and preparation.
[21:12] The pain factor — does anal hurt?
[22:26] Common mistakes first-timers make and how you can avoid them!
[24:39] Is it okay for straight men to enjoy anal play from the receiving end?
[31:08] Xander talks about his own journey with receiving anal play
[33:26] Listener question: “I’m worried I’ll never be able to satisfy my husband because I’ve heard all men want anal.”
[35:56] Listener question: “Why would you want anal when you can just have vaginal?”
[38:10] Listener question: “How do I convince my partner to try anal? I’m into it but my husband is squeamish.”
[39:26] Listener question: “I tried it in the past during a wild drunken night with my partner and it was really painful. Should I actually try it again? I’m still hesitant.”
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