Penis performance issues are way more common than most people realize… and way more misunderstood than they need to be.
Today’s episode came straight from your questions — from trouble getting or keeping an erection, to finishing too quickly (or not at all), to the stress, shame, and “what does this mean about us?” thoughts that sneak in — we’re breaking it all down.
This episode is about understanding what’s happening, supporting your partner with compassion, and learning how to navigate these moments in a way that brings you closer — not further apart.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- What commonly causes penis performance issues — and why it’s rarely just one thing.
- Whether long-term porn use can affect erection quality or performance.
- If masturbating “too often” can actually create problems.
- How stress, anxiety, and aging can impact erections (and why it’s not a personal failure).
- The connection between low testosterone and ED — and how to navigate it when a partner refuses treatment.
- Whether circumcision has any link to penis performance issues.
- How to bring up concerns about ED with a partner who doesn’t seem to recognize there’s an issue.
- What these challenges mean emotionally — and what they don’t say about attraction, masculinity, or your relationship.
- How to approach the conversation with compassion instead of pressure or panic.
Links and Resources:
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