We are socialized to feel like we shouldn’t be NEEDY, but what does that even mean? In this episode we are talking through what a need is, how to get in touch with your needs and wants, and how to express them to your partner.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What neediness is
- What neediness IS NOT
- Genuinely helpful tools for addressing neediness in relationships
Here’s a glance at this episode:
[1:07] Why being ‘needy’ is misunderstood
[6:40] How to decipher a need vs. a want/desire
[10:48] Will you die? No. Will you die INSIDE?! Maybe.
[12:08] Gender dynamics and needs/wants + poll results
[15:55] What people DON’T like when you are expressing needs/wants/desires
[18:44] How to practice asking for what you need
[20:00] Do you need something from your partner? Or do you need something from yourself?
[22:24] Tips for asking for what you want from your partner
[24:08] How to make your ask feel softer if you’re worried about saying “I want” or “I need”
[28:11] Specific requests vs. global requests
[30:20] How minimizing your needs can come across even more needy
[31:13] The hard truth about needs and wants
[32:08] Listener Question: “What’s the line between being secure in asking what you want vs. asking for too much?”
[34:58] Listener Question: “What is a need vs. what is an entitlement?”
[37:13] Listener Question: “How do I get my partner to be more needy?”