We do weekly “ask us anything” boxes over on Instagram… and let’s just say… you all really show up with the questions 😏
Today, we’re bringing your q’s to the podcast and diving into them for real.
We’re talking about everything from sex pillows to dry spells, morning sex mismatches, body confidence, toys, and what to do when your partner just isn’t that into the resources you know could be helpful.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The pros and cons of sex pillows (and whether they’re worth trying).
- How to think about a “dry spell” in a relationship (and what’s actually normal).
- How to navigate it when one of you loves morning sex… and the other one really doesn’t.
- Whether you actually need to feel horny to initiate (this one might surprise you).
- How to feel more comfortable in lingerie (even if it feels awkward at first).
- What to do when you want to make improvements… but your partner feels content as-is.
- How to feel more comfortable in lingerie (even if it feels awkward at first).
- What to do when you’re tired from life, parenting, and work… and intimacy isn’t top of mind.
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “huh… I wonder about that too,” — you’re going to feel very seen in this episode.
Because these are the kinds of questions so many people have… they just don’t always say out loud.
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