Are You Good In Bed?

November 18,2021

We turned to our Instagram audience @vanessamarintherapy to ask them “what makes someone good in bed?” and they DELIVERED. They also opened up on telling us what makes someone bad in bed. Do you really know what actually makes sex good? Listen to find out some major themes we noticed. We’ll unpack our findings and give you practical advice to sharpen your skills in the bedroom.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

You’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[00:57] Can you even fuck?!

[7:05] It’s poll time! We asked people, “Do you feel like you’re good in bed?”

[8:45] What makes people BAD in bed? There’s a clear winner.

[12:40] “The Jackhammer”

[16:02] Self consciousness in the bedroom

[18:00] Our favorite resource for getting more confident in the bedroom

[22:30] A REAL doozie of a story

[25:28] What makes people GOOD in bed?

[26:34] “Puttin’ on my road work vest!”

[29:10] Horny…for other peoples’ pleasure!

[33:40] Some specific examples of a great sexual partner

[39:19] “Make it intimate, and also NASTY.”

[41:50] When you think about it, sex is really silly

Links & resources

Confidence in the Bedroom Masterclass

PDF of our findings for this episode!

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!