The Episode We Almost Didn’t Release…

January 06,2022

Full transparency: we didn’t know if we were going to release this episode. We’re talking about everything from how we processed the chaos that is the holidays to whether we upheld our “Holiday Classic” sex pact.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[00:43] We introduce you to today’s podcast episode, it’s very different from our usual!

[03:20] A recap of what happened over our holidays (some family shit)

[07:12] Vanessa gives an update on her personal therapy journey

[09:50] Xander weighs in on HIS therapy journey and also his feelings about Vanessa’s family

[14:05] A good rule of thumb for when your partner is in conflict with someone else

[17:45] How we did as a couple over the holidays (and we’re sharing a common pitfall)

[21:44] We ask each other how we felt about ourselves during the past few weeks

[25:10] How Xander has grown when Vanessa is going through a difficult time

[30:05] A sexual check in (we made a holiday pact!!)

[34:45] Xander talks about his issue with dark and quiet sex — and we talk about how the “Holiday Classic” actually was

[43:50] We talk about our sexual requests for each other!

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!