What do you do when your partner says something hurtful that you just can’t shake, even months or years later? Is it something you can grow and heal from or is it simply a dealbreaker?
This advice-column style episode dives into the “grey area” of relationships. We’ll hear stories from members of our community who are sharing their most harrowing ‘can we come back from this?’ moments and give our best advice on how to move forward.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to ‘loop back’ to these conversations to talk them through with your partner, even if a lot of time has passed
- The difference between honesty and cruelty
- How to tell if someone is saying something they don’t mean in the heat of the moment, versus finally telling you how they really feel
Here’s a glance at this episode:
[02:04] Our Instagram audience weighs in on whether or not they’ve had their partner say something hurtful that they couldn’t forget about
[07:33] We talk about one of these ‘can we come back from this’ moments in our own relationship
[13:21] Example #1 — TW: Mention of sexual assault
[18:19] Example #2 — “My husband told me he wasn’t attracted to me during the latter half of pregnancy and postpartum…”
[25:09] Example #3 — “My partner told me the man she was with before me had a bigger dick than I do…”
[29:05] “Who are they fucking tonight?! IT ME.”
[35:06] Example #4 — ”He told me he wished we never had our child…”
[40:30] What can happen when we don’t check in with our partners on what they truly mean
[41:19] Example #5 — “I’m a stay-at-home mom. He told me during a fight that if I wanted his respect to go get a job.”
[45:38] Our favorite resource for when there is an imbalance in mental load
[46:41] Example #6 — ”Partner outright told me they don’t believe mental illness is real…I’ve had depression and anxiety for our entire 25 years of marriage and before that, too.”
[49:04] Example #7 — “…my husband wanted a blow job, but I was in excruciating pain. He said, ‘You could have just sucked it up and did it’…”
[55:24] Example #8 — ”I asked him whether he loved me as much as I love him. He told me, probably not.”
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Links & resources
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