Roleplaying 101: Ditch The Awkwardness And Find Your Confidence

July 07,2022

In today’s episode we’re diving into something that 74% of our audience have never done – roleplay!

Most people think that roleplaying feels awkward and uncomfortable. They worry about not knowing who to roleplay, not being able to get or stay in character, and generally embarrassing themselves.

But we think that roleplaying can be a whole lot of fun – and can even be a great way to feel more present in the bedroom!

So in today’s episode, we’re going to give you our step-by-step roadmap for easing into roleplaying, and discovering your confidence!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[3:54] One of the biggest misconceptions people have about roleplay

[6:00] Discussing the elephant in the room – awkwardness

[8:16] What it really means to roleplay

[12:20] Don’t let your to-do list get in the way of a good time

[14:07] The possibilities are endless when it comes to roleplay options

[18:28] A surprising take on roleplaying

[20:49] Our gameplan for exactly how to start roleplaying

[25:17] “I’m laughing with you, not at you”

[33:03] Listener Question #1: My partner wants me to roleplay but it makes me worried that he doesn’t think I’m sexy or that our sex life is boring.

[36:00] Listener Question #2: I feel like there would be pressure to not to break character. Would that take the focus away from me reaching orgasm?

[37:05] Red Light, Green Light – knowing when to stop the roleplay

[38:21] Listener Question #3: Is it better to improve a scenario or script it out?

[40:54] Listener Question #4: My husband sprung some roleplay on me in the past and I laughed because I was caught off guard. I really want to role play with him but he says I hurt his feelings and he doesn’t want to do it again.

Links & resources

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

If you’re interested in improving your sex life, you can work with me via my online courses or personal coaching sessions. I look forward to supporting you in creating the sex life you’ve always wanted!