The Ultimate Butt Stuff Episode

September 08,2022

No, you’re not having deja vu… Butt Stuff is back!

We originally released a Butt Stuff episode almost a year ago, and it has consistently been one of our top 5 episodes. It has been so popular that we decided to turn it into a course… conveniently named Butt Stuff as well 🤣

In celebration, we decided to re-record a podcast episode with all of your most pressing questions. We cover everything in this episode! Hemorrhoids, hairy buttholes, safety, straight dudes being on the receiving end, and the one big fear that so many of us have… will there be poop?!

We know there’s some fear and anxiety surrounding the back door, because 72% of our Instagram audience said they’re intimidated by butt stuff. But with 67% admitting to still being curious, we decided to bust those myths and give you the facts so you can decide if anal play is worth a try. (Pssst! It is!)

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[7:24] Let’s get into the butt

[8:15] F.O.I.I.M.A. (We are terrible at naming things)

[11:00] The compelling reasons to give anal play a shot

[16:03] Hygiene, safety, and sanitation

[22:15] Truth hurts, but butt stuff doesn’t have to!

[26:59] “Does that make me gay?”

[33:33] “If I have active hemorrhoids can I have anal play?”

[34:15] “Can you actually orgasm from anal?”

[35:33] “Do men care about hairy buttholes?”

[38:06] “I’m afraid that vaginal sex won’t be enough for him after anal”

[40:49] “Is anal sex safe?”

[42:22] “I tried it in the past during a wild drunken night with my partner but it was painful, should I actually try it again?”

[47:28] “How do I talk to my partner about trying anal play?”

Links & resources

Guide: Butt Stuff Guide
Guide: What’s So Great About Butt Stuff?
Guide: How To Talk To Your Partner About Butt Stuff

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

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