What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses

July 08,2021

When was the last time you had a truly amazing kiss?

The sad reality is that most couples just don’t kiss that much anymore!

A lot of us, if we’re really honest with ourselves, feel a little insecure about our kissing technique.

And if we’re even more brutally honest, a lot of us don’t really like the way our partner kisses.

There’s a lot of sex advice out there about oral sex technique and sex positions, but you rarely hear discussions of kissing technique.

In this episode, we’re going back to basics and talking all things kissing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[1:40] Our epic kissing love story.

[9:36] Tip #1: Be gentle and start slow.

[10:25] Tip #2: Be present.

[12:10] Tip #3: Pay attention to your partner’s cues.

[22:10] Tip #4: Try nibbling on the lips.

[24:00] Tip #5: Try running your tongue along your partner’s lips.

[25:21] Tip #6: Don’t forget about your hands!

[28:46] Tip #7: Kiss other areas, too.

[30:38] Tip #8: Play with eye contact.

[31:38] Tip #9: Breathe together.

[32:46] Tip #10: Take little breaks.

[33:18] Tip #11: Switch up the rhythm.

[34:12] Tip #12: Get your whole body involved.

[35:27] Bad kissing advice.

[39:58] What to do if you don’t like the way your partner kisses.

[44:20] What to do about bad breath.

[52:29] Too much tongue/too much spit.

[54:06] Listener question: “My boyfriend can’t breath through his nose so he can’t make out.”

[54:45] Listener question: “Does everyone make out during sex?”

[56:14] Listener question: “What does it mean if I just never want to kiss my partner anymore? Is our relationship doomed?”

[57:34] Listener question: “WTF do I do with my hands? How do dudes like to be touched during a make-out session?”

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

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