What Makes a Great Kiss? And What to Do if You Don’t Like the Way Your Partner Kisses

July 8, 2021


When was the last time you had a truly amazing kiss?

The sad reality is that most couples just don’t kiss that much anymore!

A lot of us, if we’re really honest with ourselves, feel a little insecure about our kissing technique.

And if we’re even more brutally honest, a lot of us don’t really like the way our partner kisses.

There’s a lot of sex advice out there about oral sex technique and sex positions, but you rarely hear discussions of kissing technique.

In this episode, we’re going back to basics and talking all things kissing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The specific techniques that people say make for a great kiss – and the techniques that lead to a bad kiss.
  • Next-level kissing techniques.
  • Exactly what to do if you don’t like the way your partner kisses.
  • Troubleshooting for the worst kissing pet peeves.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[1:40] Our epic kissing love story.

[9:36] Tip #1: Be gentle and start slow.

[10:25] Tip #2: Be present.

[12:10] Tip #3: Pay attention to your partner’s cues.

[22:10] Tip #4: Try nibbling on the lips.

[24:00] Tip #5: Try running your tongue along your partner’s lips.

[25:21] Tip #6: Don’t forget about your hands!

[28:46] Tip #7: Kiss other areas, too.

[30:38] Tip #8: Play with eye contact.

[31:38] Tip #9: Breathe together.

[32:46] Tip #10: Take little breaks.

[33:18] Tip #11: Switch up the rhythm.

[34:12] Tip #12: Get your whole body involved.

[35:27] Bad kissing advice.

[39:58] What to do if you don’t like the way your partner kisses.

[44:20] What to do about bad breath.

[52:29] Too much tongue/too much spit.

[54:06] Listener question: “My boyfriend can’t breath through his nose so he can’t make out.”

[54:45] Listener question: “Does everyone make out during sex?”

[56:14] Listener question: “What does it mean if I just never want to kiss my partner anymore? Is our relationship doomed?”

[57:34] Listener question: “WTF do I do with my hands? How do dudes like to be touched during a make-out session?”

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