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Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski. HIGHLY recommended for women who want to better understand their sex drives. A great compliment to Rediscovering Desire!
The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitalityby Kimberly Ann Johnson. A must-read after giving birth.
Vaginas: An Owners Manual by Carol Livoti. A straightforward guide to taking good care of your vagina.
What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety by Jaclyn Friedman. A good basic guide for women.
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix. How to create loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships.
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel. Understanding how desire works in long-term relationships. A great compliment to Rediscovering Desire!
Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships by John Welwood. Addresses some of the most common relationship challenges.
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman. If you’re going to start with one relationship book, this is a great pick. Understanding your love language is key to a happy relationship.
The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman. A super practical book for transforming all of your relationships.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman. Gottman really is one of the best experts on relationship, and this book is fantastic.
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel. A great resource for couples struggling with infidelity.
It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health by Robie Harris. For pre-teens.
It’s So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families by Robie Harris. For young kids.
Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Turning “The Talk” Into A Conversation For Life by Laura Berman. Good for kids of all ages.
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin. A bit dense, but a very interesting exploration fantasies.
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman. A must-read if you want to explore S&M.
Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Lovers by Patrick Califia. Another must-read.
Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples by Glenda Corwin. It’s frustratingly hard to find good resources for lesbians, but this is a good guide.
The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality by Julie Sondra Decker. Asexuality is so misunderstood. This is a wonderful guide.
The Transgender Guidebook: Keys to a Successful Transition by Anne L Boedecker.
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community by Laura Erickson-Schroth. Wonderfully practical.
You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery by Dara Hoffman-Fox.
The New Male Sexuality by Bernie Zilbergeld. A classic guide for men who want to better understand their sexuality and become a better lover.
The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners by Charlie Glickman. All men, regardless of their orientation, are capable of experiencing prostate pleasure.
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino.
The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love by Dossie Easton. The classic guide to understanding open relationships.
Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame by George Collins and Andrew Adleman
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes.
Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide To Confronting, Diagnosing, And Treating Sexual Pain by Deborah Coady and Nancy Fish. An incredible book for women who experience sexual pain.
When Sex Hurts: A Woman’s Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain by Andrew Goldstein
Guide To Getting It On: Unzipped by Paul Joannides. A basic primer on all things sex.
Position of the Day Playbook: Sex Every Day in Every Way by Nerve. I’ve never found a positions book that I truly love, but this one is the best of the bunch.
She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner. One of my all time favorite book recommendations! Specifically focused on how to perform oral sex on a woman. Most sexual technique books are not great, but this one is phenomenal.
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams. The title says it all!
Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carellas. If you’ve ever been curious about Tantra, this book is a great starting place.
The Body Bears the Burden: Trauma, Dissociation, and Disease by Robert Scaer. Understanding how trauma leaves a lasting impact on your body.
The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild. Geared a bit more towards clinicians, but it’s still a fantastic resource for understanding trauma.
The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain and Illness by Miriam Kaufman and Cory Silverberg. It’s really hard to find good resources for people with disabilities, but this book is great.
Your Body Speaks Your Mind by Deb Shapiro. Understanding what your physical symptoms and illnesses have to say about your body, and how you can develop a better relationship with your body.
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