One thing that almost all of my sex therapy clients have in common is that they think they’re the only one suffering from their particular problem.

I’m doing my best to change societal perceptions of sex therapy and create a warm and welcoming environment for my clients, but the reality is that a lot of people are embarrassed to seek help, especially for an issue as sensitive as sex.

Feeling like you’re the only person struggling with sex can sometimes add to that sense of embarrassment, making it even harder to reach out to a sex therapist.

For this reason, I wanted to share the top five reasons why women seek sex therapy and sex coaching.

Inability to orgasm

This is the number one reason why my female clients seek my services.

Most women tend to think that they are the only woman in the world who hasn’t figured out how to orgasm, but that belief couldn’t be further from the truth!

Trust me, there are plenty of women out there who can’t reach orgasm.

Some women have never had an orgasm. Others can orgasm just fine on their own, but have a hard time getting there with a partner.

Interested in learning how you can have your first orgasm, or how to orgasm with a partner? Head on over here!

Low or no sexual desire

A huge number of women come in for sex therapy complaining about about low libido.

Sex drives are complex, and the causes of low desire can be numerous. Most women these days live incredibly stressful lives, juggling jobs, relationships, kids, and a million other commitments. It’s hard to find the time or energy for sex, much less the desire to.

And that’s not to mention other causes of low desire, including medical conditions, medications, relationship issues, and depression.

Sometimes it can feel like your sex life has so many things working against it.

Sexual pain or trauma

Sexual abuse is extremely common – some studies estimate that one in every three or four women has been abused. Sexual abuse can create lasting anxiety about sex, the inability to enjoy intimacy, and sexual pain.

Other women can develop pain conditions unrelated to trauma. Some women experience muscle spasms, dryness, or deep internal pain.

Wanting to reconnect with her partner

A lot of my female clients come in after noticing that the sexual chemistry has faded in their relationship. Sex has become routine, mechanical, and disconnected.

Many of these women are looking to increase their and their partner’s sexual skills. Some women worry about boring their partners in the bedroom. Others recognize that sex was never very good in the relationship.

Body image issues

It is pretty freaking tough to be a woman in this day and age. The bodily standards that we are expected to live up to are absolutely insane.

Our stomachs are supposed to be flat and toned, our thighs are supposed to have a “gap” in between them, our breasts are supposed to be large and perky, our skin is supposed to be smooth and unblemished. The list goes on and on.

When you’re so distracted by the way your body looks, it can be really hard to enjoy sex.

These clients want to develop healthier relationships with their bodies, stop constantly criticizing themselves, and learn to experience greater bodily pleasure.

Don’t despair if your particular concern isn’t on this list! I see women for plenty of other reasons.

Head on over here learn how we might be able to work together!