In my sex therapy practice, the most common concern that motivates a couple to make an appointment is fighting over how often to have sex. I don’t think there’s a single couple out there who haven’t felt out of sync with each other at one time or another.

In my latest article for Bustle, I answer a question from a reader who wants sex 2-3 times per month, while her boyfriend wants it every single day.

I share five steps that any couple can take to help them manage the differences in their libido, including improving your sexual initiation skills and not immediately saying “no”.

I wanted to call out this particular article because I get so many questions about this topic! Check it out on Bustle and let me know what you think.