A Survivor's Guide To
Reclaiming Your Sex Life After Abuse

On this page, you’ll find everything you need for the entire course.

Download and print the Survivor’s Guide Workbook, and go through the videos one by one.

If you have a partner, we’ve also created a Partner’s Handout that’s meant to help them learn how to be a supportive partner while you do this work. It’s meant to give them a summary version of what this journey is going to be like for you, and help them understand how they can best support you. Of course, whether you want to give it to them is completely up to you.

Please note that this guide is a resource, not a replacement for therapy.

Additional Resources

Free Guide About
Learning how to orgasm

Free Guide About
mismatched sex drives

Free Guide
about low libido

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hey there!

Vanessa’s a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. (Which makes him very popular at parties!)

Our mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.

We’re here to make you laugh and give you the courage to talk openly about intimacy, so you can have more fun in and out of the bedroom.

We're vanessa + xander marin!