Starting this week, I’m introducing a new feature to the blog: The Weekend Sexperiment. Each Friday, I’ll be alternating between The Weekend Sexperiment and Reader’s Request Fridays. In TWS posts, I’ll offer a simple sex therapy homework assignment to try out over the weekend. Some experiments will be geared towards couples, but I’ll also have plenty that are suitable for single folks. As always, please feel free to contact me if you have a certain topic you’d like to see covered.

This weekend, your assignment is to take penetrative intercourse off of the table. You can have as much sexual interaction as you want, but the “main course” is off-limits. If you and your partner don’t engage in penetrative sex, identify what sexual act you usually fall back on the most, and banish that. Single people can outlaw their usual masturbation routine.

The purpose of this experiment is to inspire you to think outside the box when it comes to sexual pleasure and intimacy. Too many couples rely on the same sex acts, in the same order, for the same duration. Sex can get boring and predictable quickly, especially with the same partner. With this one big restriction in place, how creative can you get in finding new ways to be intimate with each other? Can you resurrect an old sexual behavior you haven’t engaged in for a long time? Can you try something you’ve always been too timid to try in the past? Can you find greater enjoyment in an act that has always seemed boring or perfunctory?

Talk it through with your partner before starting the assignment. Discuss what you think it will be like to try prohibiting your sexual standby. Debate which acts you would be interested in or willing to try.

Need more information about this exercise or others? Call (415) 658-5738 or visit my Appointments page to schedule a session today!