“So, uh, I guess it’s been a while, huh?” The initiation strategy that most people despise

November 12,2019

Tell me if this sounds sexy to you: 

“So, uh, I guess it’s been a while, huh?”

Last week I talked about how no one really likes to initiate sex. (Missed that? You can find it right here!)

Because initiation is such a challenge for most of us, we end up committing initiation mistake #2…

Initiation and consideration mistake #2 – initiating in joking or roundabout ways

Most of us are so uncomfortable with the vulnerability of initiation that we try to take the easy route with it. We try to turn it into a joke, or try to just hint at what we want. 

Here are some of the not-so-successful ways my clients have tried to initiate sex:

Yes, initiation is tough. But if you’re already working up the courage to put yourself out there, don’t shoot yourself in the foot by being vague or making a joke out of it!

Your action item for the week: 

It’s time to come up with some better initiation strategies!

Ask yourself these questions:

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

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