This week we’re bringing back one of our favorite games, Tie-Breakers!
You sent in the recurring arguments that pop up again and again in your relationship — the ones that never seem to die no matter how many times you talk about them — and now we’re stepping in to make the final call.
From sharing phone passwords to whether it’s really that big of a deal to be 5–10 minutes late, we’re tackling the everyday debates that drive couples just a little bit nuts.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The difference between boundaries and control especially when it comes to what your partner wears.
- Why couples fight about tiny habits (like dishes or unpacking) and what those arguments really mean.
- How to handle when one partner wants more privacy and the other wants full transparency.
- What your “clean-up style” says about how you handle responsibility in bed and in life.
- The psychology behind “small stuff” fights and how to stop them from snowballing.
- Plus, the ultimate showdown on period sex, post-oral kissing, and who should drive.
If you and your partner love to debate, this one’s for you — equal parts funny, spicy, and “oh my god, that’s us.”
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