The unfortunate truth is that we never learn how to have healthy relationships.
And because none of us really knows what the heck we’re doing, it can create a lot of problems. We find ourselves in relationships with ineffective communication, frequent fighting, and a lack of passion. (Been there, done that!)
But relationships are just too important for us to struggle so much.
So I set out to create an educational platform that helps you bring joy into your relationship and sex life by instilling you with inspiration and hope, obliterating the shame and embarrassment that we have all been taught to have, and sharing the accurate information and practical, actionable, tools that you deserve.
The best way for you to get started is to join my email list!
You’ll get weekly emails filled with my most valuable tips, techniques and advice – all for free!
Every month I cover a new popular topic, such as: how to make the time in your busy life for sex and intimacy, how to have more and better orgasms, and how to know if you’re truly compatible.
You’ll also be the first to hear about free videos and masterclasses, new courses, and top secret offers!
As a welcome gift, I’ll also send you a free guide – How To Start Talking About Sex With Your Partner – Even If You Never Have Before.
Need some reassurance that I know my stuff?
I’ve been involved in sex and relationship therapy, coaching, education, and research since 2002, and I’ve helped thousands of clients experience incredible transformations.
I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology.
I’m also a licensed psychotherapist (#78931).
I’ve served as a featured expert in major magazines and websites like O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, Harper’s Bazaar, and Refinery29 thousands of times (check out the evidence here!), and I’ve written for the New York Times, Allure, Lifehacker, and Bustle.
I’m a woman on a mission to change the world, one relationship at a time!
I can rattle off all my trainings, qualifications, and accolades, but I think what you really want to know is, “Can she help me?”
My answer is a wholehearted “Yes!”
Everyone worries that there’s something unique or “abnormal” about their situation, but the truth is that we all fall into the same traps with sex and relationships. I know I can help you create an exceptional relationship and sex life, and I would be truly honored to support you!
Believe it or not, Vanessa Marin Sex Therapy is actually a family business! Yes, we recognize that a family sex therapy business sounds pretty silly, but we do it because we’re all passionate about this work.
Hi again! I create all of our content and provide coaching to our community.
I’m Vanessa’s husband, and I’m in charge of making sure the business runs smoothly behind the scenes. I also help Vanessa put content together for our courses and emails, and we sometimes run joint coaching calls and masterclasses together.
I’m Vanessa’s sister. I’m the design gal, but I also help with sending out our weekly email newsletter, editing videos, and updating our website.
[OK, so Indira isn’t technically family, but she feels like it at this point!]
I’m in charge of answering questions about our services, gathering requests and feedback from our community, and ensuring that all of our customers are happy!
Winston and Maggie
OK, maybe we don’t really do too much business-wise, but we sure do look cute, don’t we?
Vanessa Marin Sex Therapy is rooted in the following core values:
1. We believe that everyone deserves an extraordinary relationship and sex life…
We think that, with the right guidance, everyone has the capacity to create the relationship of their dreams.
Yes, even you!
2. … but we believe that you have to actively work on it!
Society sends us the message that if we’re truly soulmates, things will just happen “naturally.” You won’t have to work on your relationship because you’ll be wildly compatible right from the get-go.
We couldn’t disagree more.
(And we really hate the word “natural”!)
We believe that a rock solid relationship and a sizzling hot sex life aren’t just going to fall into your lap; you have to create and nurture them.
Our business exists to equip you with the practical, actionable tools you need to create an extraordinary relationship inside the bedroom and out. The stuff that you were never given the opportunity to learn ever before.
And we give most of our work away for free because (going back to #1) we think you deserve extraordinary intimacy.
3. We believe in taking a proactive approach.
Most of us don’t work on our relationships or our sex lives until things have gotten really bad. Someone threatens a break-up or divorce, so we start frantically Googling therapists in our area, trying to find someone who can see us tonight.
But by that time, it’s often too late.
This reactionary approach just isn’t helping anyone.
We believe that proactively working to keep our relationships happy and joyful can prevent major challenges from coming up in the first place.
It’s a lot more fun to focus on thriving than surviving.
4. We believe in being open, honest and vulnerable.
Xander and I share our raw, unfiltered selves – as individuals and as a married couple – with our community.
You’ll hear personal stories about our triumphs, but you’ll also hear about major challenges we’ve been faced with and mistakes we’ve made.
It’s vulnerable to share this much with you, but we do it because we know that hearing these kinds of stories will help you know you’re not alone.
It’s rare to have open and honest discussions about sex and relationships, but we’re determined to change that.
5. We approach sex and relationships with curiosity and creativity.
We want you to have the absolute best toolkit possible, so we’re constantly experimenting with new and unique solutions to everyday sex and relationship problems.
Curiosity is our best friend – and yours too! We know from experience that when we approach our own challenges with genuine, whole-hearted curiosity, instead of fear, shame or judgment, a whole world of creativity opens up to us.
We’re learners at heart, so Xander and I test drive all of our ideas on ourselves before we share them with you!
Although many of our resources are grounded in our own experience as a male-female married couple, we want to be clear that we value diversity of identity, orientation, experience, and opinion!
I know that all this sex and relationship stuff can feel intimidating or awkward at first.
But I think you came to my website because you want more from your sex life and relationship.
Let’s get started!