Communication Breakdowns: We Coach Real Couples Through Their Worst Fights So You Can Get Better At Yours

July 29,2021

Good communication is really hard.

We’ll be the first to admit that in the heat of the moment it can be really tough to validate your partner’s experience, use clear and empathic language, and also ask for your needs to be met.

We make a living teaching couples how to have good communication and we STILL struggle with this.

So in this episode, we’re roleplaying some of our listener-submitted arguments, and breaking down their communication breakdowns.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[1:20] Why communication is the backbone of all our relationships

[2:36] Why we’re going to analyze your communication breakdowns

[6:20] Communication breakdown #1: Trying to get the baby down

[10:17] Why text message is one of the worst mediums for apologies

[14:23] Communication breakdown #2: We haven’t been having much sex lately

[17:52] What they got right

[23:09] Communication breakdown #3: Homemade pizza catastrophe

[25:27] The importance of talking about the crisis after it’s passed

[25:34] The tender underbelly – what it is and why it’s important

[32:16] Communication breakdown #4: Whose work schedule is the priority?

Links & resources

Video: 5 Communication Tips For Couples

Guide: Golden Rules Of Communication

Masterclass: Bring Your Sex Life Back To Life

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If you want to learn even more about our best communication tips, we have a free guide that you’ll love. It’s called the Golden Rules Of Communication, and it’s basically our tried and true fundamentals of communication.

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I'm Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and writer specializing in helping you have more fun in the bedroom.

I have bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. I’m also a licensed psychotherapist. I’ve been working in the sex therapy field since 2002 and have been featured by The New York Times, O: The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, and many more.

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