Good communication is really hard.
We’ll be the first to admit that in the heat of the moment it can be really tough to validate your partner’s experience, use clear and empathic language, and also ask for your needs to be met.
We make a living teaching couples how to have good communication and we STILL struggle with this.
So in this episode, we’re roleplaying some of our listener-submitted arguments, and breaking down their communication breakdowns.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The common ways communication breaks down in the moment
- Real life examples of communication breakdowns from our listeners
- Our tips for healthy communication in moments of tension
Here’s a glance at this episode:
[1:20] Why communication is the backbone of all our relationships
[2:36] Why we’re going to analyze your communication breakdowns
[6:20] Communication breakdown #1: Trying to get the baby down
[10:17] Why text message is one of the worst mediums for apologies
[14:23] Communication breakdown #2: We haven’t been having much sex lately
[17:52] What they got right
[23:09] Communication breakdown #3: Homemade pizza catastrophe
[25:27] The importance of talking about the crisis after it’s passed
[25:34] The tender underbelly – what it is and why it’s important
[32:16] Communication breakdown #4: Whose work schedule is the priority?
Links & resources
Video: 5 Communication Tips For Couples
Guide: Golden Rules Of Communication
Masterclass: Bring Your Sex Life Back To Life
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If you want to learn even more about our best communication tips, we have a free guide that you’ll love. It’s called the Golden Rules Of Communication, and it’s basically our tried and true fundamentals of communication.
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