Is Gaming Hurting Your Relationship? Part 1 Of The “I Love You But I Don’t Like You” Series

April 27, 2023

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought to yourself, “I love you, but I don’t like you right now”? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us!

We’ve been dying to do an episode about the topic, but when we polled our audience on IG, it quickly obvious that this needed to be a series, not just a single episode.

So this week, we’re focusing on one of the most frequent complaints – gaming. 40% of our Instagram community said gaming is hurting their relationship. The gamers are feeling dismissed and misunderstood, and the partners are feeling lonely and unprioritized.

In this episode, we’ll teach you how to both be accountable for your wants and needs, how to avoid common pitfalls, and even reveal the 3 things that gamers wish you knew as a non-gamer. Whether you’re listening together or solo, we hope you take some notes to help you get on the same page, because no hobby should come in between you and your partner.

Head on over to our Instagram afterwards and tell us what you found most helpful, and also, let us know what you’d like to see as the next topic in the series!

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[7:32] Our gaming POV: we’re behind the curve

[11:30] Are you validating their hobbies?

[16:23] How can it feel so lonely in a relationship?

[22:28] Is there a secondhand smoke effect of gaming?

[24:05] Where is the balance of Mental Load and responsibilities?

[29:46] What happens when parenting is put to the side?

[31:04] Is gaming another form of emotional escapism?

[34:37] “I immerse myself in games the same way a voracious book reader does”

[36:08] “It’s no different than my partner watching garbage tv or scrolling endlessly”

[37:28] “This is just like my gym time, but it’s not treated the same”

[39:21] Does every waking moment of life need to be productive and healthy?

[42:07] A little PSA on the hot button issue of violence in gaming

[48:46] Tip #1: Take a look in the mirror

[50:55] Tip #2: Don’t be vague!

[52:45] Tip #3: Timing the conversation is everything

[53:08] Tip #4: Two things can be true at one time

[53:36] Tip #5: Boundaries for everyone!

[57:53] Tip #6: Quality Time callout

[59:45] Tip #7: Possible no fly zones

[1:01:50] Tip #8: Respectful communication and requests

Links & resources

Guide: Mental Load Workbook

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