An Exclusive Sneak Peek: Chapter One Of Sex Talks

May 18, 2023

Friends, followers, and first-time listeners, gather ’round for a podcast episode like no other! Get ready to dive into our New York Times instant best-selling book, Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. With special permission from our publisher Simon & Schuster, we’re able to share the entire first chapter of the audiobook with you!

The first chapter is a special one. After listening, you’ll understand why sex starts to feel so complicated in long-term relationships. You’ll no longer feel alone or scared about the future of your relationship. (So many people have told us they were in tears in the first few pages.) And you’ll feel inspired and excited to have these five Sex Talks with your partner!

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[4:21] Why share Chapter 1?

[14:09] Let’s dive in

[14:36] Destroying the Fucking Fairytale

[19:49] Understanding why sex gets so complicated

[21:53] It’s a literal chemical impossibility

[23:21] The stress shutdown

[25:00] When 2 become 3…or 4…or 5!

[27:08] The pain of rejection

[28:34] Performance issues and perfectionism

[38:01] The other half with Xander: Normalizing imperfections

[40:42] Releasing the pressure

[41:45] Techniques and tips for unraveling perfectionism

[45:38] Identify the true villain

[46:53] Make a plan

[48:51] Just the (sex) tips

Links & resources

Our Book: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life

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