Politics, religion and social issues are already such divisive topics, so what happens when you disagree about them in a relationship?

Should differing beliefs be dealbreakers? Are they enough to end a relationship over?

In today’s episode, Vanessa and Xander tackle these thorny questions!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Our Instagram audience’s thoughts when it comes to relationships with differing beliefs.
• Tips for navigating different political, social, and religious beliefs, whether you’re dating or already in a relationship.
• Our own experience with differing beliefs.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[3:03] What our audience thinks about being in a relationship with differing beliefs, and other research on the topic.

[9:29] Tip #1: Get clear on what’s important to you and why.

[11:15] Why you should ask yourself where your beliefs come from.

[13:39] Tip #2: Get curious about your partner’s beliefs.

[17:09] Tip #3: Look for commonalities with your partner.

[19:21] The importance of validating your partner’s beliefs.

[20:46] Tip #4: See the value in being exposed to different beliefs.

[26:59] Tip #5: Value open mindedness over agreement.

[28:44] The differing belief Vanessa and Xander had early on in their relationship.

[33:48] Tip #6: The importance of setting some boundaries.

[37:58] Tip #7: Celebrate your commonalities outside of religion/politics.

[40:08] Listener question: “How do I stop my partner from trying to convert me to their point of view?”

[45:52] Listener question: “I just ended a relationship because we had different political beliefs. I’m not sure how to address that going forward. Do I put this as a dealbreaker on my dating profile? Do I ask these questions right away with someone new?”

Links & resources

• Video: How To Make Up After A Fight

• Free Guide: Simply Daily Check-In For Couples

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