Does it feel like the COVID-19 crisis is damaging your relationship?
Let’s face it - everything is different now - from the amount of time we're spending with our partners, to our household and childcare responsibilities, to our opportunities to connect with each other.
You need your relationship now more than ever.
And your relationship needs you now more than ever.
So that's why we created....
The Relationship Care Package!
It’s an online course where I'll guide you and your partner step-by-step from crisis to connection.
Think of it like an insurance policy for your relationship. And not just for the current moment, but for years and decades to come.
In these unprecedented times, you’ve been leaning on your partner more than you ever have before.
But that means your relationship is probably experiencing dramatically increased stress from things like:
- Being quarantined for the first time ever.
- Leaving the home less.
- Having reduced access to your typical social and stress-relieving outlets.
- Being forced to spend way more time with each other.
- Having to figure out how to work from home together, possibly for the first time ever.
- Having to navigate childcare and schooling.
- Fears about your health and the health of your loved ones.
- You and your partner having different reactions to stress.
We all wish we’d wake up tomorrow and everything would be back to normal.
But the reality is that we don't know how long this situation will last.
Instead of waiting for "normal" to just return, we have to create a new normal.
But here's the good news:
It could actually be better than what we thought of as normal before.
But let's back up a sec...
Xander and I speak from experience, because we’ve been feeling the strain on our own marriage, too.
When news of the COVID-19 crisis first struck, we felt scared and lost, unsure of what to do personally or professionally.
But then we saw a heartbreaking piece of news...
Once the quarantine was lifted in China, divorce rates had soared.
There were so many relationships and marriages that couldn’t handle the stress of the crisis.
We started seeing signs of this new threat everywhere.
Our friends complained about how working from home with their partner was driving them nuts, and asked, “How do you guys do this?”
We had a video chat with Vanessa’s parents, and her mom “jokingly” teased that she realized Vanessa’s retired dad “doesn’t do anything all day.”
We got countless emails from our community, confiding, “I’m just not sure we’re going to get through this. But how can I even think about a break-up right now?”
There’s no sugar-coating it: the COVID-19 crisis is AWFUL.
We are in the trenches with you, trying to figure out how to get through this.
And, at the same, we’re also recognizing that there’s an incredible opportunity sitting here in front of us.
There is so much that is out of our control right now.
But one thing that is in our control is our ability to gain new relationship skills.
Skills that can help us weather the current storm, and nurture our relationship long after the crisis has passed.
The unfortunate truth is that we are not taught how to have healthy relationships.
And because none of us really knows what the heck we’re doing, it can create a lot of problems. We find ourselves in relationships with ineffective communication, frequent fighting, and a lack of passion. (Been there, done that!)
But relationships are just too important for us to struggle so much.
Especially right now.
Before this crisis hit, you may have been sweeping issues under the rug, hoping they would just disappear. Hoping that one day you would wake up, and your partner would magically be more sensitive about your feelings, or be a better listener, or be more open to compromise.
Now, you’re a whole lot more raw and vulnerable than you’ve ever been. You’re being forced to look at the naked reality of your relationship.
Here’s the truth:
Stress either brings people closer or pushes them apart.
Doesn’t one of those options sound a whole lot better than the other?
Personally, the Xander and I are choosing to become even more of a team than ever before.
Why do we even have relationships in the first place? It's so we feel like there's someone who always has our back. Like we're a team, even in our darkest moments.
Because it’s so much better to go through something tough together than alone.
Right now, think of how much different your situation would be if you were in it without your partner by your side.
Imagine reading daily news updates without anyone to vent to. Imagine having to care for your kids and take over their schooling without a teammate. Imagine being in quarantine completely alone. Imagine not being able to touch another human being for months.
There is no better time to be a part of a team than right now.
So that’s why we’re choosing to see this awful crisis as an opportunity.
Working on your relationship can sound, well, like work at first.
But the crazy thing is that when your partnership is strong, everything else in your life feels easier. You have so much more energy, capability, strength, and joy.
That’s what we want you to experience!
We want to help your relationship not only survive this crisis, but come out the other end even stronger than before.
And once this crisis ends, we want you and your partner to be able to stand tall and say, “Holy crap we did it. If we can get through that, we can get through anything.”
So that’s why we created…
The Relationship Care Package!
It’s an online course that will quickly take you and your partner from crisis to connection by:
- Becoming more patient with each other.
- Developing a stronger foundation for your relationship.
- Feeling like an unshakeable team.
- Experiencing daily moments of connection and joy, no matter what news the day brings.
By the end of the course, you'll be able to:
- Keep yourself calm and grounded, and bring your best self to your relationship, with an evidence-based self care plan.
- Nurture your relationship in times of stress, so you grow closer together instead of driving each other apart.
- Be calm and gracious with each other, even when your patience is pushed to the brink.
- Create deeper intimacy that will sustain and nourish you through the challenging times.
- Have fun and creative dates with each other (even if you can't leave the house).
- Communicate with each other calmly and effectively.
YES, these outcomes are totally within reach for you and your relationship!
The Relationship Care Package is like insurance for your relationship, not only in the current moment, but for years and decades to come.
Here's your 4-step, fast-track pathway from crisis to connection...
Step 1: Bring the stress down... way down
First, you'll take, "From Surviving To Thriving: How To Take Care Of Yourselves And Each Other."
- How to respond to the crisis in a way that brings you together instead of driving you apart.
- Evidence-based ways to process all of your emotions, even the ultra-challenging ones.
- Our top tips for self-care.
- Specific techniques for supporting your partner, and allowing them to support you, even if you’re having different reactions.
- Ways to keep the spark and romance alive, even if intimacy is the last thing on your mind.
Step 2: Sharpen your communication skills
The #1 complaint most couples have about their relationship is that their communication sucks.
When stress is high, it's easy for little miscommunications to happen, and for those little miscommunications to turn into big arguments.
In "Communication In Times Of Crisis", you'll discover 12 tried-and-tested communication strategies that will transform the way you communicate with each other, making you feel like teammates instead of opponents.
These techniques are essential right now, but they'll also radically change the way you approach communication in the future too!
Step 3: Experience more connection
The cool thing about this course is that it’s not just strategies for survival.
It also includes "30 Days Of Connection", to help you experience moments of daily connection, joy, and intimacy together.
Because we could ALL use more of those, right?
In this fun game, you’ll be given 30 unique ways to experience connection over the next 30 days. Each one takes no more than 5-10 minutes, and doesn’t require any planning or preparation.
Step 4: Have more fun!
You’re probably spending a lot more time with your partner these days, but it’s not exactly feeling very fun, is it?
That’s why we put together "50 Creative Dates You Can Do At Home" guide with 50 - yes, 50! - different date ideas.
You can plan these dates together, or surprise your partner with them. Either way, they’re going to bring some much-needed fun back into your relationship!
Meet Your Coaches
Hi, we’re Vanessa and Xander Marin!
Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex and relationships. She has bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University, and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She’s also a licensed psychotherapist (#78931).
She has served as a featured expert in major magazines and websites like O, The Oprah Magazine, Real Simple, Harper’s Bazaar, and Refinery29 thousands of times, and has written for The New York Times, Allure, Lifehacker, and Bustle.
Xander is a former consultant and Googler who decided he'd had enough of the corporate grind and joined the business in 2015 to help make things run smoother behind the scenes.
But we soon realized how valuable it was to talk about sex and relationships openly, as a real couple.
Like everyone else in the world, we are still coming to grips with the new uncertain reality we’re living in.
But the one thing we are absolutely certain of is that we are deeply, fiercely committed to helping you protect your love.
And we genuinely believe it’s possible for your relationship to not only survive during these trying times, but to thrive.
We want you to have the tools and support you need to manage all of the stress and uncertainty of these chaotic times, and come out the other end of this even stronger than you were before.
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What Happens Next?
As soon as you click the “Enroll Now” button, you’ll be led through the checkout process. You can use your credit card, PayPal, Apple Pay or Google Pay.
Immediately after purchase, you’ll get a welcome email with payment confirmation and directions for accessing the Relationship Care Package member site.
Your credit card statement will read “One Oh, Inc” for your privacy.
Your information will be kept strictly confidential and will never be shared.
Even if you’re in survival mode and don’t think you have the time or energy to work on your relationship, consider signing up for the Relationship Care Package anyway!
Things are shifting so quickly - sometimes on a minute by minute basis - and you just might surprise yourself by finding the time or the desire (or just the essential need) to put these powerful resources to use.
Regardless of whether or not you decide to join us in the Relationship Care Package, please take care of yourself and your relationship.