Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Sex just feels so blah. I don’t get what the fuss is all about”? This is one of the most common complaints we hear from women! So many women want to FEEL MORE in the bedroom, but they just don’t know how.

In today’s episode, Vanessa and Xander unpack why the key to feeling more pleasure in the bedroom is to start with masturbation.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why women tend to feel shame or discomfort around masturbation.
• Why masturbation is the key to more pleasure.
• Tips for overcoming shame when it comes to masturbation.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[2:23] Why women tend to feel shame or discomfort around masturbation.

[8:54] What our audience thinks about masturbation.

[12:02] Why masturbation is the key to more pleasure.

[20:05] Our tips for overcoming shame when it comes to masturbation.

[20:09] Tip 1: Have compassion for yourself.

[26:34] Tip 2: Take control of your mindset.

[28:40] Tip 3: Change the definition of masturbation.

[32:53] Tip 4: Talk about it with your partner.

[38:46] Tip 5: Learn some actual techniques.

[35:28] Listener question: “I don’t want to have to do it. I just want to be able to get there during sex with my husband.”

[37:32] Listener question: “Do people in happy relationships still masturbate?”

[39:32] Listener question: “Is masturbation an important step to increasing libido?”

[40:38] Listener question: “I did it a few times in college but it just wasn’t for me. Was I doing something wrong?”

Links & Resources

Free Guide: Best Way To Have Your First Orgasm

Video: Masturbation In Relationships? – A SEX Therapist’s Guidelines for Self Pleasure

Course: Finishing School

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