Feelings. Is there anything that makes you feel more uncomfortable? It’s hard enough to process your own feelings, so when your partner does something that brings up big feelings for you, it’s so easy to blame them for the way you feel.
But the unfortunate reality is we can’t actually blame other people for how we’re feeling!
In today’s episode, Vanessa and Xander discuss why our feelings are our own responsibility, and give their best tips for navigating challenging emotions.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- What feelings are and what they’re not.
- Why you can’t blame others for your feelings.
- Our two step process for navigating challenging emotions on your own.
Here’s a glance at this episode:
[2:59] What our audience thinks about feelings.
[4:19] The Fundamental Attribution Error.
[7:49] What feelings can lead to in relationships.
[11:53] What feelings are and what are they not.
[20:07] Why your feelings are your responsibility.
[27:02] Our two steps for navigating challenging emotions on your own.
[39:35] Listener question: “I was raised in a family that didn’t talk about feelings.”
[42:02] Listener question: “How do you self-soothe when you’re having feelings?”
[44:53] Listener question: “Is it just better to keep some stuff stuffed down?”
Links & resources
Free Guide: The Simple Daily Check-In Every Couple Needs To Be Doing Right Now
Video: Improve Your Relationship – How To Follow GOOD Relationship Advice
Course: The Relationship Care Package
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