How To Allow Yourself To Receive In The Bedroom

September 16, 2021

In order to enjoy sex, we have to receive. Whether it’s time, attention, love, or energy, there are so many aspects of great sex are tied into receiving. Your ability to receive can affect many things, like your ability to be present in the moment, feel pleasure, be emotionally connected to a partner, and especially to orgasm!

In today’s episode, Vanessa and Xander talk about how you can get more comfortable with the idea of receiving in the bedroom.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • Why it can be hard to receive in the bedroom.
  • What feelings tend to come up around receiving in the bedroom.
  • How to get more comfortable receiving.

Here’s a glance at this episode:

[3:40] Our audience’s thoughts on receiving in the bedroom.

[5:52] Why receiving in the bedroom can be a struggle for most people.

[14:23] Questions to help you get curious about what’s coming up for you.

[19:49] The importance of knowing that you deserve it.

[21:15] The two gift reframe.

[26:05] How to practice receiving outside of the bedroom.

[27:40] Ways to learn more about what you want in the bedroom.

[30:23] Our best tips to use in the moment.

[33:04] Listener question: “My partner doesn’t ever focus on me. How can I ask him to start?”

[35:17] Listener question: “He wants me to react in a certain way, but that just isn’t “me”!”

[39:45] Listener question: “How do I feel OK even if I don’t orgasm”

[41:14] Listener question: “Receiving always feels so powerless. Is there a way to make it feel powerful?”

Links & resources

Free Guide: 10 Ways to Feel More During Sex

Video: Female Orgasm – How to Know If You’ve Had An Orgasm

Course: Finishing School Live

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